This part I dont agree.The "hard luck" cases are the ones who needs 'nice guys'.
If not, you want to pair them with who?

But I dont think anyone has that mentality that by helping someone, the person will love him more.Anyone who thinks that way is an idiota.
I have to say something cos you struck a nerve.
During highschool, I fell for a girl with a phobia for rain.

Shes cute,sweet, smart, and polite, but when its rain, shed cry( it was something traumatic in her childhood )
Due to this, she wont go to school if its rain,
and she will be 'missing' if it ever rain when shes in school
(the teachers knew, I went through a lot to know about it)

Dating her was hard with her overprotective family and all
I was so serious about our relationship, that Id refer to her father as my father in law to my friends
I went as far as reading books to help her

But in the end, I couldnt help her, and decided to let her go
cos I cant stand watching her cry everytime its raining.
I mean, I could be by her side and lend her a shoulder everytime,
we could live somewhere where it doesnt rain(yup, I thought about things so far ahead..lol)
but when her pains become your pain, its really hard
Now, my question is,
is a nice guy for her or not?

Is she better off with a person not caring about her enough that can stand watching her cry everytime?

Or a person like me who CANT stand her condition and wishes to help her in any way possible?
(ppl like me, later sure cant tahan watch her suffer, then leave her broken-hearted )

But we all know, the BEST person for her is THAT "nice guy", who can both stand her conditions even though it pains him,
and tries his best to cure her.
TL,DR:
Hard luck cases are where the nice guys are needed.You wont survive if you're not "nice" enough.

Hi ya, I just read this thread, it can be solved bro. She just need a condition in which she can heal this fear. I think in her childhood, she just felt somethings related to rain, so when it is raining she is afraid of the rain. Bro, if you still can contact her, take her to the shower room, then open the pipe, the water is falling as the rain right?? Then tell her slowly that outside rain is also falling the water from the tank, same process, then let her to touch the rain slowly. If you can know the real case why she is afraid of the rain, you can solve it easily bro. Damn, you should meet with me man else I can give you advice

Im sure it can, but its REALLY REALLY hard, and will cost a lot of $$$$ to get help from expert psychologists.
One thing I didnt mentioned was she has a REAL great photographic memory, both a blessing and a curse given her traumatic experience.
Believe me when I said I read a LOT.

Anyway, I just bump into her the other day...
Which comes to my surprise to found out shes already married and has a son.
Turns out that her father decided to marry her to someone who could take care of her(or at least he think could). 

It was super awkward....

Thing is, she doesnt look that happy, her marriage being an arranged one and all.
In truth, I just wanted the best for her.( I dont quite approve of her husband )
But I guess some things in life is really out of your control.

Wishing that her marriage will work out and she'd be happy is all I could do now.

I just stumbled upon this thread today.... an interesting read no doubt and I do concur with the author.
One of the best threads in Cupid corner in my humble opinion.

Bro, I can heal her lol you don't need a lot of $$$$ because I am also learning about the psychology to heal by myself. Wow photographic memory?? Same as me, hahaha great lol. She already got married?? Sorry dude Jealous??? ^^ Nope la, can heal bro. I got the depression when I was 10 years old. I even decided to suicide by myself. From that condition until now, no one helped me and I heal by myself. I studied the CBT and IPT to heal the depression. And also she has the anxiety because of the rain. Hiya, if I have a friend who also has like this, I can help lol. Now I am in the normal mode but still have some anxiety because of the environment. But I am still healing lol ) And good luck uncle, I think the girl that you love also will have the good life in her life

lol girls like myself are unattractive to most Malaysian guys. Wonder why?

I've met a lot of clingy people, and they are submissive because clingy people can't stand to be alone and therefore, cater to their partner's every whim and fancy.

Hi ya, I just read this thread, it can be solved bro. She just need a condition in which she can heal this fear. I think in her childhood, she just felt somethings related to rain, so when it is raining she is afraid of the rain. Bro, if you still can contact her, take her to the shower room, then open the pipe, the water is falling as the rain right?? Then tell her slowly that outside rain is also falling the water from the tank, same process, then let her to touch the rain slowly. If you can know the real case why she is afraid of the rain, you can solve it easily bro. Damn, you should meet with me man else I can give you advice

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Added on April 7, 2012, 5:27 pmHiya, most of the girls are like that la, they want to enjoy their loveships with their boyfriends as jerks and when the jerks can't support them financially, they search the good and nice guys who can support them financially,

Girls are like the roses, all the pedals and fragrance are taken by their jerks boyfriends. They only left one thing I forget the name, it is sharp and when you touch it, it is painful sorry. I am not familiar with Botany

every persona or personality has their pro and con, advantages and flaws
so the conclusion is, ignore whatever article, sayings or comments, be ourself, unless u feel uncomfortable with urself, then u should change, else, i think any article like this is irrelevant since i read all kind of spread mails or theories from books, newspaper, email or even facebook and i find it way too personal in term of the author ideas or perhaps their grudge

What about when she already has a bf..?
How do I spanar her over? I had confess to her..so can I whine..?

You alrdy say wanna spanner ppl relationship.
wonder how do you react when someone spanner your upcoming relationship.