Apr 18 2011, 02:46 PM
QUOTE(Onime-no-Enishi @ Apr 18 2011, 02:36 PM)
This part is easy:
Be Yourself
To elaborate, be a human being, not a machine that follows orders absolutely, or be someone who just awkwardly follows at times but doesnt follow at others without a real pattern.
If she demands or asks for something, if you like it or dont mind it, do it, if you dont, then dont. Really simple, She will learn your preferences through this and formulate a "human being" in her head of you, same applies vice versa. Do take note, there is a fine line between you want to, you do not mind, and you do not like <== you need to know to differentiate between the 3, most especially between you don't mind and you don't like. You want to be nice? sure, go for it, just always keep this in mind:
If you are being 'nice' by doing something you do not like, stop for a moment and think, would you like to do this for the next 10 years or so? if not, and you're still 'doormatting' your way around her, you're doing something wrong. <=== im not saying that if she asks you to do something and you feel lazy to do it, you should just turn her down all the time; Its more of a balance than anything else; but what most 'nice guys' tend to fall for is over-commitment which gives the 'doormat' image.
Obviously there are always exceptions to any rule, you're old enough to make your own decisions, so everything is up to you in the end =p
Ah... thanks.Be Yourself
To elaborate, be a human being, not a machine that follows orders absolutely, or be someone who just awkwardly follows at times but doesnt follow at others without a real pattern.
If she demands or asks for something, if you like it or dont mind it, do it, if you dont, then dont. Really simple, She will learn your preferences through this and formulate a "human being" in her head of you, same applies vice versa. Do take note, there is a fine line between you want to, you do not mind, and you do not like <== you need to know to differentiate between the 3, most especially between you don't mind and you don't like. You want to be nice? sure, go for it, just always keep this in mind:
If you are being 'nice' by doing something you do not like, stop for a moment and think, would you like to do this for the next 10 years or so? if not, and you're still 'doormatting' your way around her, you're doing something wrong. <=== im not saying that if she asks you to do something and you feel lazy to do it, you should just turn her down all the time; Its more of a balance than anything else; but what most 'nice guys' tend to fall for is over-commitment which gives the 'doormat' image.
Obviously there are always exceptions to any rule, you're old enough to make your own decisions, so everything is up to you in the end =p
I know what you mean. And thank you.
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no bed ke?
or floormat 
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