Not playing around. A female friend of mine was discussing this topic with me recently. A relationship with sex will last longer than a relationship without sex? What do you all think? Sex is needed in maintaining a relationship or sex is just a part of a relationship?

Advice? Comments?

BS..

if Sex is the MAIN factor in holding the relationship.. its more of lust than love. but its a very subjective thing.

sex is not the point of a relationship, rather it is the bonus. it is not necessary for a relationship, in fact, it is a good test to see if he's only in it for the sex or not ... but sex within marriage is one of many important factors to its lasting.

sex is part of a true relationship.
if u love som1, u hav to lust som1 too.

1 without the other (love & lust) wont last.

Just try to get some comments bout the topic. Nothin to with my thoughts. Let me clear the air. Cos the feedback from my female friend was too outstanding to come out of a girl's mouth.

wat is her comment?
share it....

you don't have to LUST after the person. the word is "be attracted". Why date someone you're not attracted to at all?

but no, sex is not essential to a relationship. however, your friend is right - relationships with sex tend to last longer most likely because the guy has sex on tap man ... he'll take care of that source to keep it that way

i jz recall that danny wen said this b4 : sex is not a must..but it's already in the package..

Not the most important thing in a relationship/marriage..
But without sex in a relationship after a given number of years of being together depending on the person..is miserable
I feel that sex is useful for intimacy..no sex in a marriage means something is wrong..to me that is

exactly.
u miss understood a little.
i'm not saying u lust a person den only date/chase dat person.
i'm saying is wen 2 person edi in couple mode, it is normal, in fact necessary for each other to develop lust on each other in order to maintain the relationship.

I said to her, for some individual sex could be another type of communication bringing a boy and a girl to the closest point with minimum barrier. Its more like seeing through what's under the skin rather than seeing what's under that piece of cloth. Haha..

But she told me, without sex she just thinks that there's limitation to her relationship. Love with a capping could make feel not enough love. Therefore, sex is needed to maintain a relationship. I was so surprise with that line from her mouth.

Give me an urge to tell her you're outstanding!

it depends on people, but our society is so sex-crazed now. being in a long-term, sexless relationship is something to be proud of because you're not doing what everybody else is doing. it's also something to be in awe of now, I have no idea why.

@tech: no I didn't misunderstand you.

This post has been edited by spunkberry: Sep 2 2010, 01:30 AM

actually it's very simple.....
u can generalized to majority (doesn't matter male o female)......

non-virgins will say sex is necessary, where relationship wont last long without sex. shud do it after certain period of being 2gether.

virgins will say sex is not necessary, where the only thing important is love. shud do it only wen both is sure dey r the 1 for each other.

don't know the kind of people you talk with tech, but I know a lot of non-virgins who agree that sex is not necessary.

Is it because they haven't had the taste of pleasure+ecstasy?

How to be sure right partner or not? Even after married could divorce. Nowadays, to non virgin pls do whatever you think is right and to virgin, hold on to your virginity till the last. Follow your heart as long you're happy. Nothing to be proud of or shame of. Hehe..

those r usually the people dat hav bad 1st time experience......
eg, get cheated to perform sex act......

This topic has been around for dozen times. Sex is a bonus. W/O it still works fine if the true nature of that relationship is not bout lust. But well, if married couple probably another story. Not sure bout that part since I never been in that before.

Being naughty once in a while does good for everyone

This post has been edited by kink_ass: Sep 2 2010, 02:16 AM

i love to kongket my gf but i still love her

even she wont let me kongket her i just find china girl or what but i still wont leave him coz i sayang her