lol hell yea

ask him to open a new branch

shows responsibility as a man

I think the lack of sex desire of the wife could be due to her health status. Seeking help from doctor perhaps? My understanding is women with cyst or some illness could be the cause of not wanting sex.

In my opinion, driving the husband to seek for solution elsewhere is not a very wise choice, furthermore it is not religiously & morally right. I believe that the wife should be putting in effort to solve this issue. Not only for the marriage, but for the love of the husband as well.....

There are so many options and ways that can be considered to improve the situation rather than driving the husband away. By improving diet, lifestyle, exercises and seeking professional help would be wiser choice.

As a woman myself, i always believe that wives are also to responsible for their marriage change or their husband affairs. I live by the rule that despite how many children that we have, there isn't any excuse or reason for us not keeping our body fit, not looking good at our age & grow old gracefully.

There ain't ugly women in this world, but a lazy one. To be honest, i have seen so many women who couldn't been bothered with their looks & attire after childbirth & marriage. To be frank, i personally do pity their husbands and no wonder there are so many affairs in this society nowadays.

I'm not saying that women should look good for their husband, but it is more for ourselves. Loving ourselves by staying fit & healthy, i am sure the husbands would appreciate the effort as well. And don't get me wrong, i'm not saying women are to blamed when husband is having affair, i'm implicating that we could be part of the reason. Why chose to be a less attractive wife/housewife but a hot one?

Just my 2 cents and sorry no offense.

The man failed to lift her mojo/libido up. Its the man's fault too.

He can start off by complimenting her, make her feel good, confident and sexy. Giving her good sensual massages and foreplay. To women, foreplay is much more engagingly orgasmic than the intercourse itself.

This fella failed la, at arousing her.

Sarah,
It is sad to hear your story. Allowing your hubby to have a discrete affair may be fair to his sex life but not fair to your marriage. It would also not be fair to the person whom he had chosen to be his mate. Although she will not face problems from you, she will still be caught into other problems related to being the third party.

You situation reminded me of one famous Sarah. She encouraged her husband to lay with her maid. You can read about the mess the family had got into because of this decision (It is somewhere in the book of Genesis).

This post has been edited by faceless: Jul 9 2010, 03:06 PM

Since you love your husband, but you do not like sex...

then why must your husband need to have affair?! just because of sex?!

sorry... me confused liao....

gone ta bao and eat...

Your husband is trying hard for you. You think having an affair with other women can satisfy him?

What if he really wanted to have it with you only? Because he love you much?
You think its fair to him? You know its heart broken if he sees this.

hope u still reading this thread that you posted.

firstly i think is horrible what you been through. I think you dont love your husband emotionally, but you love his with your responsibility. means the kids, the home and the journey you been through. honestly the only reason we dont like sex with this person means we just dont craved for them, and we dont love them.

However if you personally dont like sex no matter what then perhaps you havent learn to love yourself yet. Other than that it could be your medical reason.

I think you have to understand yourself before saying to your husband, and telling him is ok to have an affair. If your husband say this to you ...because he doesnt like to have sex what will you feel?

Degrading...what you telling him is obviously making him feel low and degraded. And you can even share your husband with another women. If they fall in love with each other you are obviously the fool, but if you dont love him anymore then better divorce. Whats the point in sleeping in the same bed everynight with this man , but you just cant seems to love him.

Honestly i understand your problem, sometimes we all make the wrong decisions and then we are bond to suffer forever.

Good luck..just divorce if you dont want to have sex with him. No point to keep him, if you want his money and responsibilities then you just got to show him love.

women should not think that affair can save their marriage..not all guys want to have sex with other women other that their wife.

all u can do is seek a doctor with ur husband. get a consult with them. mostly malaysian are so shy to meet with doctor.

and try spice up ur sex activities. a lot things can be done.

gud luck. sex can be fun if u know how to spice it up..

i liked wat u said...

+1

''if you not cook in da house, would you let your hubby eat outside?''

Allowing your husband to have an affair because you yourself don't like sex?
It is surely a dilemma. But for once, get your head straight! If you know it's wrong, then it's wrong. Don't compromise bout it, don't hesitate about it...
Remember that marriage is a sacred union. If you do this, you are really breaking the sanctity of your union for sure. Why must everyone believe that marriage must always always always means equal to having regular sex? Why not think it IS possible to adjust to each other condition? Discipline on your mindset... don't give in to immorality of today's so-called openminded society.
Think wisely on the effect it would have especially on the children... especially teenage children! They are sensitive and still trying to grow up and learn what's right and wrong in a dilemma. Don't you think they will also be disappointed with this kind of practice? Fix the problem... don't try to ignore the problem. The problem is within the wife herself. She should communicate with her husband, and find the best and wisest decision for each other.
Asking the man to understand her condition while looking for some therapy is much more decent than simply allowing him to have an affair don't you think? It is hard but it's not impossible. The good things are usually hard to accomplish but really much worth it.

mayb ur hubby like kids so he decided to find other women make baby's wit him??

1st step - Sex affair with your husband
2nd step - Wreak your family.

your friend is right

langgan him a whore twice a month, she have to pay for it though lol. easier dat way so dat the husband dont have to fall for any1. just make sure, change the whore everytime. )

this is sad.... should seek consultation for this.

ur husband never satisfied u? u better ask ur husband to learn more about sex so that u will have enof u have sex! ask him to be a good lover in bed. try something new! buy toy! ask him to buy some stuff to ur vigina. haha. learn about anything. A spot or g spot is important toward u! lets try again the moment like afta u 1 day of marrige! haih. if u lost your interest in sex. try to take whatever pill that turn your hormones to the topppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppp again like 1st time u were a virgin! ask ur husband just go straight forward to have sex with u. be gentlemen 1st la kan right. be soft. be romantic as possibly before u have sex! change ur mood of sex might be good. sumtime hard. sumthing slowmoo! haha. be romantical again. put flower. used oil or whatever u like to touch and to feel again the love inside both of u! be a sweet talker again. put away ur angry feeling! just think nothing more than love.. go somewhere else that ur children is not with u! never never again just straight to have sex! its boring! sex is about feeling! have u ever tried to watch porn together? action is more than a words right? haha. if this doesnt help, ask ur husband to move over other house.. his friends house, uncle or whatever . so that u can feel that u miss him again and "lost" without him. so that u will always remember every moments in ur life with him again. so please! try this to save ur married!

+1

The fact is i was in a similar situation with my ex, she doesnt enjoy much on sex. While i have tried various ways trying to arose her sexual desires, for some reason i am thinking it was her mentality that restricted herself from fully enjoying the tids and bits on making love. Cuz from out of a blue moon, she would feel arose and enjoyed it but that was like once in maybe a few months. Since i know that i am not the person to live a love life without sex, plus i am bound to find other alternatives which would most probably lead to disaster for our relationship. Decided to call the relationship off, while i still love her. For now, i would just be her closest friend giving her support which seems to be a better terms between me and her. I am not sure bout other men, but for me sex/making love with your loved ones do actually encourage intimacy and closeness for both.