I love my husband, but I don't like sex, Should I let him have an affair?
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 May 11 2010, 12:39 PM
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48 posts Joined: Sep 2009 From: kuala terengganu  
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yeahh your marrieage willbe wrecked totally.
maybe u should try figure out something else. ormaybe you should try to like making love just an oppinion  Added on May 11, 2010, 12:43 pmyeahh your marrieage willbe wrecked totally. maybe u should try figure out something else. ormaybe you should try to like making love just an oppinion This post has been edited by alaudra: May 11 2010, 12:43 PM |
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May 13 2010, 02:07 AM
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150 posts Joined: Jan 2008 From: KL 
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no way.
Shud not get married in the first place. Sex is one of the commitments. IF you think you're gona break this commitment then dont make it. Otherwise you will be in heaps of problems and emotional roller coasters in your ownself. Sad la the cases getting these days |
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May 13 2010, 02:14 AM
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3,037 posts Joined: Dec 2007 From: 6-feet under
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jeez the world is falling apart with all these weird news and stories. the end is indeed near..
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May 13 2010, 02:16 AM
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28 posts Joined: Apr 2010
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its fine tat u dont enjoy,but if u love ur man..at least u pretend LOL
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May 14 2010, 03:16 PM
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225 posts Joined: Mar 2010
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man can't live without sex, i mean, majority, excluded monk
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May 14 2010, 08:44 PM
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451 posts Joined: Aug 2009
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for those who dont know ,
sex is listed in Euro countries as top 5 necessities in life...aside from food, shelter, etc... in other words, if u tell Euro folks u rarely had any sex in a month or never had any at all, they'd laugh and call u crazy... |
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May 15 2010, 12:48 PM
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68 posts Joined: Jul 2008
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well, depends on wat kind of person he is
u know wat, try to think a kids, no matter how playful he is, after the roller coaster ride, at the end of the day, he still know that he need to go back home…more restrictions, he will act more disobey…u get my point? |
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May 15 2010, 07:41 PM
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457 posts Joined: Mar 2007
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This post has been edited by marsalee: Nov 8 2010, 01:46 PM |
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May 18 2010, 11:41 AM
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18 posts Joined: Aug 2009 From: Bukit Mertajam
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sex is important to build the relation ship...
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 May 19 2010, 06:09 PM
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215 posts Joined: Mar 2010
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QUOTE(BlurSotong @ May 6 2010, 12:05 AM) seriously???? That's the basis for poligamy in Islam? Was written somewhere in Al-Quran or result of a study? I understand Al-Quran was written long ago but if that's a reason for poligamy, then that should change. Women are not comodities or even collectibles. no3...that's not the basis of polygamy in islam...i'm no expert in islam, but i'm pretty sure that Quran does not stated that man can marry up to four wives to PREVENT MEN FROM BEING CHEATED.but seriously? to prevent men from being cheated? Women don't get cheated back then? So they came up with a law to prevent men from being cheated but forget that women can be cheated too? See the oversight when there's no female in the committee?  but really? really really? I dunno much bout Islam or Al-Quran and much less bout certain beliefs. (except stuff like what you can and can't do in Bulan Ramadhan, if during puasa then ter-makan, bunting syaitan, and pocong, stuff like that, hehe). Wait, can I use the word Al-Quran? or should Al-Quran be termed as Al-kitab by non-muslim? and what other words that I cannot use? Sorry, I didn't follow the proceedings for proper term to describe God for non-muslim. Er, I dunno how to put my point without using certain words lah. You get what I mean? I like to know more bout Muslim's views in family matters.  Read this if you want to learn more about ploygamy in Islam: WHAT IS THE LEGAL STATUS OF POLYGAMY IN ISLAM? just some extract from the website: 3. WHAT IS THE LEGAL STATUS OF POLYGAMY IN ISLAM? The verse which allows polygamy “was revealed after the battle of Uhud in which many Muslims were killed, leaving widows and orphans for whom due care was incumbent upon the Muslim survivors.(Abd Al-Ati, Hammuda, Islam in Focus, The Canadian Islamic center, Edmonton Alberta, Canada, 1963, p.103.) The translation of the verse is as follows: If you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, marry women of your choice, two, or three, or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with them), then (marry) only one…. (Qur’an 4:3) From this verse a number of facts are evident: 1.That polygamy is neither mandatory, nor encouraged, but merely permitted. 2. That the permission to practice polygamy is not associated with mere satisfaction of passion. It is rather associated with compassion toward widows and orphans, a matter that is confirmed by the atmosphere in which the verse was revealed. 3. That even in such a situation, the permission is far more restricted than the normal practice which existed among the Arabs and other people at that time when many married as many as ten or more wives. 4. That dealing justly with one’s wives is an obligation. This applies to housing, food, clothing, kind treatment..etc., for which the husband is fully responsible. If one is not sure of being able to deal justly with them, the Quran say: “then(marry) only one.” (Qur’an 4:3) This verse, when combined with another verse in the same chapter, shows some discouragement of such plural marriages. The other verse plainly states: “You are never able to be fair and just as between women even if it is your ardent desire…” (Qur’an 4: 129) The requirement of justice rules out the fantasy that man can “own as any as he pleases.” It also rules out the concept of “secondary wife,” for all wives have exactly the same status and are entitled to identical rights and claims over their husband. It also implies, according to the Islamic Law, that should the husband fail to provide enough support for any of his wives, she can go to the court and ask for a divorce. 3. The verse says “Marry,” not kidnap, buy, or seduce. What is “marriage” as understood in Islam? Marriage in Islam is a civil contract which is not valid unless both contracting parties consent to it. Thus no wife can be forced or “given” to a husband who is already married. I is thus a free choice of both parties. As to the first wife: 1. She may be barren or ill and see in polygamy a better solution than divorce. 2. She may divorce him (unilaterally) if he is married to a second wife provided that the nuptial contract gives her the right of unilateral divorce (Ismah). 3. She can go to court and ask for a divorce if there is evidence of mistreatment or injustice inflicted upon her. Hope this clear your doubts about polygamy in Islam..cheers!  P/S: btw, this is my first post in lowyat forum! nice meeting y'all~ |
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Jun 6 2010, 01:37 AM
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2 posts Joined: Mar 2009
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i think she and her husband should start roleplaying. she can be a french maid and he can be her employer.
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Jun 6 2010, 10:59 AM
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QUOTE(Sara Apples @ May 10 2010, 05:19 PM) I don't remember I ever said this topic is about me. Lol all talking about you instead the letter.  Back to topic Guys no fxxx = no life This post has been edited by dragynraken: Jun 6 2010, 11:38 AM |
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Jun 7 2010, 09:13 PM
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1,120 posts Joined: May 2006 From: Klang, Serdang, Seri Kembangan,Cheras 
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i am sure ur husband ald started affair.
or visiting pros den for sure. |
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Jun 8 2010, 10:11 AM
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4 posts Joined: Mar 2009 From: Selangor
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agree..too mad for this
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Jun 18 2010, 04:09 PM
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484 posts Joined: May 2007 From: Melaka Maju Jaya 
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is better that you gave him an option rather than he does it without your knowledge. a man will always be man in my take...
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Jun 19 2010, 02:55 AM
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I voted no, because no matter what he should remain loyal to you. In a relationship is about giving and taking am i right? So maybe once in a while you have sex with him for him. And once in a while you don't. But you have to tell your husband about this. It is just as simple as that.
You should take sex as something that brings both of you closer, it's a couple's intimate moment. |
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Jun 19 2010, 03:06 AM
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1,072 posts Joined: Aug 2007 From: Where theres an open-road state
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QUOTE(aishatosh81 @ May 14 2010, 03:16 PM) man can't live without sex, i mean, majority, excluded monk even some monk faps in the toilet. |
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Jun 19 2010, 03:22 AM
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QUOTE(nandayryu @ Jun 19 2010, 03:06 AM) even some monk faps in the toilet. source pls.Added on June 19, 2010, 3:23 ami duwan those priest in the west. Gimme real monks stories. This post has been edited by BlurSotong: Jun 19 2010, 03:23 AM |
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Jul 3 2010, 12:55 AM
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93 posts Joined: Jan 2008
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ask the husband to go to sex counseling cos he cannot satisfy the wife
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Jul 4 2010, 02:36 AM
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525 posts Joined: May 2010 From: KL
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i'm very convinced that she never had an orgasm to be able to say sthg like this! |
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