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 I love my husband, but I don't like sex, Should I let him have an affair?

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Josh_M
post Sep 28 2010, 11:41 AM

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QUOTE(xin @ Sep 27 2010, 11:03 AM)
The fact is i was in a similar situation with my ex, she doesnt enjoy much on sex. While i have tried various ways trying to arose her sexual desires, for some reason i am thinking it was her mentality that restricted herself from fully enjoying the tids and bits on making love. Cuz from out of a blue moon, she would feel arose and enjoyed it but that was like once in maybe a few months. Since i know that i am not the person to live a love life without sex, plus i am bound to find other alternatives which would most probably lead to disaster for our relationship. Decided to call the relationship off, while i still love her. For now, i would just be her closest friend giving her support which seems to be a better terms between me and her. I am not sure bout other men, but for me sex/making love with your loved ones do actually encourage intimacy and closeness for both.
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have to agree on this
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post Sep 28 2010, 06:27 PM

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post Sep 30 2010, 10:24 AM

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QUOTE(Sara Apples @ May 3 2010, 01:05 PM)
Hi all. I hope you enjoy my topics. I really work hard to find interesting topics to share blush.gif

Here is another interesting question for discussion:
I love my husband, but I don't like sex. Should I let him have an affair?

I am in my late 40s and have been married to my husband for more than 20 years. It's been a happy marriage, and we have two lovely teenage children. However, I have never enjoyed sex, so our love life has always been infrequent.

It's not my husband's fault - he's always been a thoughtful lover - sex just isn't my thing. We haven't made love for more than two years. My husband is frustrated about this, but I would happily never have sex again.

I know this is unfair, so I told my husband that I probably wouldn't object if he started a discreet affair, if I don't have to hear any details. But my closest friend says I'm mad and that our marriage will be wrecked. Is she right?
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Yes, you should. Sex is so important in life, if you don't enjoy it, at least find a way to let your partner to enjoy it
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post Sep 30 2010, 11:54 PM

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ask ur closest friend to play with ur hubby...perhaps can play 3 some...
maybe ur sexual desire can come back after u see ur hubby play with other woman?
dot49_cal
post Oct 4 2010, 02:52 PM

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maybe ur husband can do poligamy?
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sounds like u really dont mind at all
both of u might be good friends after all

owh btw, u should have known how to enjoy sex
its never too late i guess
go google biggrin.gifD

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gregy
post Oct 4 2010, 03:07 PM

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QUOTE(wInnIe PoOh @ Sep 30 2010, 10:24 AM)
Yes, you should. Sex is so important in life, if you don't enjoy it, at least find a way to let your partner to enjoy it
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Agreed. To TS, you don't have to actually find someone else for him, just let him bang away, what's the problem? You think your hubby enjoys taking out the trash, buying gifts or accompanying you for shopping trips etc? Similarly, taking great pains in being a thoughtful lover proves that he cares and loves you very much to try and get you involved, rather than just satisfying his own desires. He does it cos he loves you; you should also make love with him cos you love him. True love is not that easy. It involves making a lot of sacrifices.
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QUOTE(gregy @ Oct 4 2010, 03:07 PM)
Agreed. To TS, you don't have to actually find someone else for him, just let him bang away, what's the problem? You think your hubby enjoys taking out the trash, buying gifts or accompanying you for shopping trips etc? Similarly, taking great pains in being a thoughtful lover proves that he cares and loves you very much to try and get you involved, rather than just satisfying his own desires. He does it cos he loves you; you should also make love with him cos you love him. True love is not that easy. It involves making a lot of sacrifices.
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post Oct 5 2010, 10:09 AM

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my advice if u want ur husband just have sex with another person, ask him go to those 1 time pay and have sex but definitly use Condoms if not have HIV.
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post Oct 5 2010, 12:03 PM

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I'm dumbfounded with such circumstance. If it really happened that is...

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post Oct 5 2010, 08:17 PM

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I think it depends on what do you think of a marriage component... if sex is not inclusive in the marriage, whats wrong for the man to seek his comfort else where?

So I voted "YES" even though I'm a woman...

Of course, if the wife is trying hard to please the husband and he still seek for other women, then that is betrayal... unacceptable!
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post Apr 28 2014, 03:01 PM

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Don't forget that everyone grows old and looses the desire. One spouse may lost it sooner than the other. In addition, there is also the issue of health and illness that we won't know of until it comes.

In regards to pre-marital intimacy, the active partner and sex-addict you have today and married 2molo, it doesn't mean that he/she will maintain that desire after marriage. Many things could happen after marriage that causes the sex drive of one partner to be lost. It could happen next year after marriage, or after children born, years after, or after molestation, emotional attack, etc etc.

Thanks Sarah for starting this interesting discussion. I know it is not about you & your spouse. this is just a topic you posted.
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post May 13 2014, 11:29 PM

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QUOTE(Sara Apples @ May 3 2010, 01:05 PM)
Hi all. I hope you enjoy my topics. I really work hard to find interesting topics to share blush.gif

Here is another interesting question for discussion:
I love my husband, but I don't like sex. Should I let him have an affair?

I am in my late 40s and have been married to my husband for more than 20 years. It's been a happy marriage, and we have two lovely teenage children. However, I have never enjoyed sex, so our love life has always been infrequent.

It's not my husband's fault - he's always been a thoughtful lover - sex just isn't my thing. We haven't made love for more than two years. My husband is frustrated about this, but I would happily never have sex again.

I know this is unfair, so I told my husband that I probably wouldn't object if he started a discreet affair, if I don't have to hear any details. But my closest friend says I'm mad and that our marriage will be wrecked. Is she right?
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U need to identify which session ur not interested..during sexual intimacy with your husband...
Foreplay...
Sexual intercourse..
Climax..

Marriage is a sacred...

Some others ways..
Phonesex with your husband...
Or hand job him...

If all ur not interested...seek advice from therapist on sexual intimacy...maybe there is something bothering internally...


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post May 16 2014, 10:43 PM

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Its natural , otherwise there are no such words as " sex life "

Some may find it annoying to have sex but i do not blame the males to have this desire because it is normal for them. Its because of the sexual glands they have

It is also a strategy to keep your husband intact in your relationship
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post May 17 2014, 08:31 PM

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sorry for harsh words, but only dumb women let her husband banging other women

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