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I love my husband, but I don't like sex. Should I let him have an affair?

I am in my late 40s and have been married to my husband for more than 20 years. It's been a happy marriage, and we have two lovely teenage children. However, I have never enjoyed sex, so our love life has always been infrequent.

It's not my husband's fault - he's always been a thoughtful lover - sex just isn't my thing. We haven't made love for more than two years. My husband is frustrated about this, but I would happily never have sex again.

I know this is unfair, so I told my husband that I probably wouldn't object if he started a discreet affair, if I don't have to hear any details. But my closest friend says I'm mad and that our marriage will be wrecked. Is she right?


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of coz your marriage will be wrecked..100% sure

You are awared that men do indeed need sex. it's part of our life. It seems like you going to the extreme of allowing your husband to have sex with others. It's a bold move but i do understand your situation. I don't quite get what you mean by:" My closest friend says I'm mad and that our marriage will be wrecked." Are you saying after you find out the incident?

if she wants to let him have an affair, it's her choice. All she has to do is expect her marriage to fall apart because her husband is going to want to be with the other woman more than her. If she thinks otherwise, she's DEFINITELY mad

it would definitely be a clear NO for me. imo, it's just wrong.
the husband have many other ways to satisfy his sexual desires than having an affair with some other woman.

The women have 2 children and she dun enjoy sex. I vote yes because she dun enjoy sex and her husband have desire too.

I think she wan her husband to have a sex partner but not a lover. So she think it is fine for tat.

If I'm in that situation, I would not allow my hubby to have an affair another girl. Well he can release himself masturbating.. or max he can find prostitute but not a long term affair.

This post has been edited by viekisses: May 3 2010, 03:47 PM

He could always visit a brothel... that's not exactly an affair is it?

Well, she is mad because their marriage is definitely going to fall apart after he has an affair. This is a really strange case.. I've never heard of anyone telling me they don't enjoy sex, not even my own grandmother!

i agree with wat u said that she wan her husband to have a sex partner but not a lover but wat if the husband fall in love with the sex partner?and wat if the teenage children found out about this??wat will they think bout their parents?

haha...thanks for sharing..

well, this is an open relationship, based on what i understand abt this article.

Sex just like a food. Man need it. It can also strengthen love between couple. If no sex then married for what? Legal sex. Not sex from hooker outside. Sex with hooker is just a sex & nothing else. But sex between husband & wife is different. There is lot of benefit from sex. More on biological & chemistry. Gooogle it.

what else can she do than to see her family falling apart. thou sex shouldn't be the most important part of the marriage but its also one of the pillar which supports their union. men and women are sexual beings, and i believe with the right way of stimulating her sexually (which her husband should do), their sex life can be revive again.

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i think its better for both her and the husband to seek help for her lack of sexual desires than letting the husband go ahead with an affair.

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Added on May 4, 2010, 12:37 ambut no, I can't imagine having my husband in another girls's arms.

I cannot imaging my husband coming home with post coital happy radiant glow looking forward to see the other girl for their sessions.

This post has been edited by BlurSotong: May 4 2010, 12:37 AM

First thing, men not the only one need, both party do need
It do happen before when men dont wan sex, the wife complain too

Having an affair may result in ruining the entire family
Furthermore, can the woman really endure knowing that husband has sexual relationship with other woman?
She may say yes at first but things would change in a long run

Another method is, reduce the sexual desire like many married couple do
Not all couple continue to have sex for as long as they marry until they are old
Usually this can work after they have kid

Why sounds like TS the one experiencing the problem...

y're u all talking bout men n women needing sex or doesn't need it. to be precise... everyone have their own flavour n unfortunately for this lady, she doesn't enjoy it (maybe the husband's too big, too long? or she feels uncomfortable having a thing in her?)

whatever it is... the fact she doesn't like sex ends it all in the terms of sexual intimacy. if she is to allow an affair running, there are many things in mind that needs to be considered...

1) affairs can ruin a marriage. what if he falls for her?
2) what would the childrens' respond be like?
3) can she accept the fact that he's out being pleasured by someone else?

when i was way way younger...i've opened the option of my boyfriends having sex with another gal. the only rule was to ensure that she's not a virgin and she's not in any relationship. i wasn't ready, n i wouldn't allow him to deprive himself because of me. i'm not gonna be selfish because of something i can't offer..n if he is to leave me, i'm ready for it one way or another.

so.. if this lady feels the same way, she have the option to let him explore. the question she've to ask n not lie to herself if she's able to accept this whole situation to the very end.

theres only one way men can satisfy his sexual desires dat is tru making luv or masturbation....means must spray only satisfy...both should seek sex expert and find other way to ignite their luv making session...

I think she's not telling him what she likes during sex and so she began to dislike it.