QUOTE(hksgmy @ Apr 26 2024, 12:35 AM)
Congratulations. I am always encouraged and uplifted when reading stories about how a good education sets the foundation for a strong start on the journey to success (be it financially, professionally or even academically). And scholarships are a Godsent for B40 or M40 families. Mine certainly was, and I'm sure you feel the same way: at least you're debt free and ready to hit the ground running and not worry about having to pay back a study loan.
30 years ago, my medical degree would have cost more than what the roof over my head could have fetched if my parents had to sell it to fund my studies. That scholarship to read medicine was a lifesaver. When I graduated, not only was I debt free, but being a typical Malaysian boy of that era that had to make do with whatever we had (which wasn't much to begin with), I even ended up saving a tidy little sum from the stipend & living allowances that the scholarship provided!
I was free to concentrate on my job, exams and career progression without the burden of clearing off debt and student loans.
There were 4 other Malaysians that got this life changing scholarship to read medicine overseas. 2 of them stayed back in Australia - one is an ObGYN now and the other a cardiologist. The ObGYN just bought himself a Taycan Turbo and has been egging me to race him in my 911 992 GTS when I'm back in his neck of the woods (some of us never grow old, or grow up).
2 of us came back to Malaysia, but were made to wait ages for our HO postings (which only came after we both left for Singapore). He's a Paediatrician, and whenever we catch up over coffee (which isn't often, sadly), we always reminisce about how the brain drain has left Malaysia a shadow of what she could have been, had things been different.
It's telling that you and your partner have also chosen to remain outside of the country.
Will you ever consider moving back home? And if so, when?
I was thinking about getting a Taycan, but couldn't do it knowing that my parents are driving an almost 10-yo Toyota haha. I will get them a better car first, also, I don't think it's wise given how tight my cashflow situation is.
I keep thinking about buying myself a nice watch like a Breguet or a VC, but just couldn't do it too, I guess my M40 upbringing just couldn't get myself to justify these purchases yet... Most of my splurges are for my parents nowadays... nice holidays, Michelin starred meals, nice hotels, clothings etc. ...
Unfortunately, I don't think we will come back to the country until we both retire.
A few reasons:
1) On your point re. brain drain:
I feel like our country betrayed many of us, including me. I have not received a scholarships from M'sia despite my acedemic and social achievements. I left Msia for Singapore for high school (scholarship), and got uni scholarship offers from Sg, HK, Canada, and the UK.
With offers from top unis across the world, I applied for Msian scholarships during my pre-U because I didn't want to be bonded by foreign countries, but was continuously rejected for god knows what reasons... (I was a top perfrorming, all rounded student... global competition in Maths, Essay writing, Physics, hell... even Fine Arts and Performing arts... held leadership positions... I did so many charity work I even went on the news)
One time, a Msian company rejected my application because apparently, I failed the math test... I do Math Olympiads and they're telling me my math isn't good enough...
When I eventually got to my uni, I was shocked by how many rich kids were on scholarships, many had ties to the companies sponsoring them...
These stories are so common in M'sia.
2) The people: This is not Msian specific, most Asian countries are similar... I cannot understand why, so many people are so angst and competitive for no real reason... driving, their kids, wealth, whatever they can compare, they compare... whatever they can win, they want to make sure others lose... It drives me crazy... A lot of things are status / who you know based too... It's not meritocratic.
I didn't come from a rich family, and cba about socialising with the rich etc. so I don't think I'll do well in M'sia.
3) The hypocrasy of almost every damn thing: from politics, to censorship, to upbringing, to racism, to education, and everything I can think of... I don't really want to elaborate here as it will take forever and might offend many...
4) Our careers: similar roles are non existent in Msia.
5) Our kids: I want my kids to be able to do whatever they want without being judged / limited by extreme societal pressure.
That being said, I do like helping M'sians whenever I can.
I actively help M'sian students with job applications, scholarships etc...
Don't get me wrong, Malaysia is an awesome country to live in, cheap and good food, cheap houses, peaceful...
But I don't see much that it can give or have given me, for me to want to sacrifice my prime adulthood for it, or my kids' childhood.
When I am financially stable enough to do what I want to do, I will definitely go back to help whoever I can.
But for now, we won't be heading home anytime soon...
This post has been edited by Consultant92: Apr 26 2024, 06:38 PM