I was thinking about getting a Taycan, but couldn't do it knowing that my parents are driving an almost 10-yo Toyota haha. I will get them a better car first, also, I don't think it's wise given how tight my cashflow situation is.
I keep thinking about buying myself a nice watch like a Breguet or a VC, but just couldn't do it too, I guess my M40 upbringing just couldn't make myself to justify these purchases yet... Most of my splurges are for my parents nowadays... nice holidays, Michelin meals, nice hotels, clothings etc. ...
Unfortunately, I don't think we will come back to the country until we both retire.
A few reasons:
1) On your point re. brain drain:
I feel like our country betrayed many of us, including me. I have not received a scholarships from M'sia despite my acedemic and social achievements. I left Msia for Singapore for high school (scholarship), and got uni scholarship offers from Sg, HK, Canada, and the UK.
With offers from top unis across the world, I applied for Msian scholarships during my pre-U because I didn't want to be bonded by foreign countries, but was continuously rejected for god knows what reasons... (I was a top perfrorming, all rounded student... global competition in Maths, Essay writing, Physics, hell... even Fine Arts and Performing arts... held leadership positions... I did so many charity work I even went on the news)
One time, a Msian company rejected my application because apparently, I failed the math test... I do Math Olympiads and they're telling me my math isn't good enough...
When I eventually got to my uni, I was shocked by how many rich kids were on scholarships, many had ties to the companies sponsoring them...
These stories are so common in M'sia.
2) The people: This is not Msian specific, most Asian countries are similar... I cannot understand why, so many people are so angst and competitive for no real reason... driving, their kids, wealth, whatever they can compare, they compare... whatever they can win, they want to make sure others lose... It drives me crazy... A lot of things are status / who you know based too... It's not meritocratic.
I didn't come from a rich family, and cba about socialising with the rich etc. so I don't think I'll do well in M'sia.
3) The hypocrasy of almost every damn thing: from politics, to censorship, to upbringing, to racism, to education, and everything I can think of... I don't really want to elaborate here as it will take forever and might offend many...
4) Our careers: similar roles are non existent in Msia.
5) Our kids: I want my kids to be able to do whatever they want without being judged / limited by extreme societal pressure.
That being said, I do like helping M'sians whenever I can.
I actively help M'sian students on job applications, scholarships etc...
Don't get me wrong, Malaysia is an awesome country to live in, cheap and good food, cheap houses, peaceful...
But I don't see much that it can give or have given me, for me to want to sacrifice my prime adulthood for it, or my kids' childhood.
When I am financially stable enough to do what I want to do, I will definitely go back to help whoever I can.
But for now, we won't be heading home anytime soon...
It's best not to be counting on Government's helps. We stand on our own feet and we fight for ourselves.
It's good that one go out and see the world, so you know what can be better, what can be worst compared to M'sia.
Based on my own experience, the best way financially living in M'sia is to have an income in the denomination of GBP, USD, EUR, etc. By converting it into Ringgit, you are having the salary of T20 easily and this will make a comfortable life for you in M'sia.
With the internet nowadays, remote jobs are possible and those jobs are getting even more popular after Covid.
With that being said, looking at long term, I think the economic of Southeast Asia will be picking up and this is an added bonus for those who choose to invest in M'sia.