like i said.. NEWBIES shouldn't try to do that unless they KNOW wtf they are doing..

true... but u need common sense for tat...

I thought I already made it clear in the original article.

1) Eye contact - She returns the eye contact with you.
2) Make her laugh - She laughs.
3) Remember the things she says - She's glad that you remember.
4) Physical proximity/contact - She doesn't shy away, and she returns it.
5) Ask her out - She says yes.

What's so hard to understand?

just to add....if she starts calling u more often than usual for no important reasons....u know u did something right.

LoL~
probably it would be better if you started the topic with this instead..

sms/MSN/YM/email/FB included...?

yes. but old kids like me...prefer phone la.

I did.

Me and her just be a housemate started 3 weeks ago...at 1st week, we treat each other as 'stranger', really, will shame when talking...

So last week she started work at my company, so we started to 'car sharing' when go to or back from company...we had dinner every night, after that we went to shopping, most of the time is only our two. For last whole week, wherever i drive, she will seat beside me. I know myself adi got feeling on her, and i did all the step mentioned in this thread in just 11 days, and i didn't get any rejection signal from her.

But until yesterday morning, as usual we chat at car, joking, so suddendly we chat about the topic and she ask me whether i got interested to know who is her friend (she always chatting through phone), so i thought is girl and said 'wao, you every chat wif friend, must be very good friend, but girl is always like that la'....but she told me he was guy...i'm shock, but my facial is calm, i know something bad to me...

So i asked like joking, 'haha, sure u like her or he like you lo'...she silent for 10s, i know it is gonna be bad, and she told that she 'feel good' on him...try to imagine that time i'm drove at highway @ 110km/h, and i have to hold my sadness..

I force myself to calm, and continue to ask....she and him recognised at meeting conference at her previous company before, but only met once, then now the guy adi back to KL to work. but they got 'regulary' communicate through phone.

At that moment i still could hold my tears, still feel is OK...but 1 hour later during working time, my tear just nearly drop out. She just know i'm moody yesterday, but she don know i'm moody since i heard that thing. Thats why i'm really doubt that she dun know about my feeling towards her. She never dating before, this is what she told me. I really felt wanna give up at 1st.

After i seek for advise from friend, he told me just follow ur feeling, dun easy give up, becos we are really close now, and the guy she felt good is quite far away, so i decided to go for it.

however that guy will come to here and have trip with her at SG on next week, she ask me to join before...so this morning i said maybe i want to go, and she ask me bring friends along...i said i dun have friend want to go, so she said she will ask his female friend out and said introduce to me, she is very nice girl, again my heart broken.

I know 'confession' is not recommended here, but i just feel brave want to ask her tonite whether she know i got feeling on her or not...i just want the answer, no matter the answer is what, i adi ready for that, becos i prepare for worst...i just want to ask, if she say no feeling, then i could pull my handbrake immediately, becos now i really can't concentrate on my work.

Should I do this tonite? can anyone give me advise?.

This post has been edited by coolkwc: Nov 18 2009, 01:24 PM

Mate, you might get more responses if you start your own thread.

try getting "u are the last choice for me as a bf" in front of a girl u like .... .... lolx
and, it doesnt meant she has no feel for you ... she might .. just playing pretend....

TS > nice thread, great guide ... though no4 does really need exp , for someone new...they might just messed it up XD

OMG, just barely past a week, and you're already shedding tears?

I wonder what'll happen if you knew this after 3 months.

can i add? I am a girl so i can justify this wahhahah

6) Surprise her with acts of care and concern:

Get her medicine when she's sick, a drink or a tapao'ed meal when she's working hard and late. A hug when you know she's feeling down (ask permission first)

Melt her heart It's a good way to make her fall for you too hehehhe. Just be sure that this is a sincere act and not something you do only up to when she finally gets together with you, grr

It's a very obvious sign that you like her and want to make her feel special. But at the same time if she expresses concern you can always pretend to say "i'm doing this because i care for you as a friend (:"

But this only come after u know that she have an eye on u, or not all previous 5 steps ll be a waste.

that depends on how badly you want her then (:

love is a risk

there's a chance that your energy and effort is all a waste

there is a chance that she sees the caring, sweet, boyfriend side of you and go "hmm, maybe he IS the right guy for me after all" and she'll learn to love you too.

i think above all, girls just want to be genuinely cared for

lol... sound all too easy...
i'm after this girl... i think she's not interested at all.. all she wants is just attention.........
sometimes.... she sms her problems... then when i give her my attention and care, she cuts the smsing straight away....

I think she enjoys fooling around with my feelings and emotion.





This post has been edited by fillet: Nov 20 2009, 02:55 PM

wrong move. You just blew your chances of letting her to really know.

Not fair.

Every thread is about teaching guys how to tackle gals.

cuz girls are superior

yeah, i agree it's not as easy as it seems sometimes. I was giving a general tip, tip 6 was based on personal experience well then there are a few possibilities to your situation

- she's playing hard to get (but she secretly likes you and feels that she needs to increase her market value abit)
- she's playing hard to get (in a selfish attention whore way with no regards to your feelings)
- she can't make up her mind

no straight path to love, but once you reach your destination it's a beautiful beautiful thing (:

@euphoria:

"But at the same time if she expresses concern you can always pretend to say "i'm doing this because i care for you as a friend (:""

Haha sorry, i should have defined that earlier. Sometimes guys really have no chance against the girl even after showering her with attention and love and care. But if he really wanted to he shouldn't give up so early, because some girls give in at the end. So that statement is to mislead the girls to think that everything is still on a safe level

Or you can try this line -

"I'm doing it because I care, and it makes me happy to see you smile. I have no expectations towards you to do something back for me, or feel anything towards me. I simply want to make you happy." - xxx

Wah i feel like i'm betraying my own kind xD