There is no limit if both parties understand its a date.

uh wait a minute...by close u mean actual physical distance right?

This post has been edited by teongpeng: Nov 1 2009, 05:26 PM

eh teongpeng i thought u already got a gf?

She has to be comfortable enough with your physical proximity first before you can touch her.

Also, when you touch a girl, you can't just reach out and touch her. It can be very creepy. Side to side distance is good.

If you're a noob I recommend that you "touch" only in a playful manner, e.g hi-fives, fist bump, shoulder taps, lead her by holding her elbow etc.

Also, in general, when people talk about intimate or deep stuff they tend to lean closer (or huddle in for guys). If the both of you can talk about the deeper stuff easily then that's a good sign that you're comfortable enough with each other.

Don't touch her thigh, it's a "sensitive area". You must be pro enough to tell whether she'll be ok with it first. In general, after she's kissed you, you can touch her thigh.

When you go out with her, don't sit directly opposite her. This is not an interview. Sit beside her

Oh yeah, I almost forgot to add. For these five steps to work you also have to portray yourself as a potential mate and lover, not just a friend or some guy. She has to be interested in you. These steps on their own do not create that interest, although it can amplify interest that is already there.

You don't have to kiss first to touch thighs Don't be creepy old man, and go raba raba the thigh out of a sudden la. You can just playfully tap the thigh when you're sitting down. Just go "come lets go makan now" *tap thigh and stand up* It breaks down the touch barrier pretty quicklly.

There's a very simple rule though, if you THINK about touching, 90% of the time, its going to come off creepy. Just be natural and let it flow, then the touches won't be so creepy.

Everyone here is so knowledgeable. All I know is theory And seriously, why isn't this pinned yet!

Ya, that is true.

I had a lot of trouble learning how to touch - I think that people who come from more conservative cultures will always have more problems with this than ones who come from more liberal cultures where public displays of affection (platonic and sexual) are more commonplace - and even now I don't think I'm pro enough.

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Added on November 1, 2009, 6:08 pmErk! What's stopping you from experimenting and trying?

I also dunno why this thread has not been pinned yet.

This post has been edited by Dickson Poon: Nov 1 2009, 06:08 PM

nice.. summarizes what i do whn i court a chick.. proximity and testing water always counts.

I like to disturb the water and warm it up

haha. it really depends how u play cool at first thn as it goes make it warmer.

its hard to teach people guys esp how to court a chick. comes with trial and error.

tipu, you didn't get your slurpee girl

Speaking of which... how do I make myself look less like a player?

it will be when im moderator

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Added on November 1, 2009, 8:57 pmwhy would u want to do that?

This post has been edited by teongpeng: Nov 1 2009, 08:57 PM

Hmm never though of that. I think I will try this next time we have lunch together. Time to move it forward.

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Added on November 1, 2009, 10:31 pmby respecting her space and not touching at all the wrong place.

This post has been edited by soitsuagain: Nov 1 2009, 10:31 PM

That is true

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Added on November 2, 2009, 7:18 am1. Keep it real.

2. Display some vulnerability when she starts trying to get to know you better.

This post has been edited by Dickson Poon: Nov 2 2009, 07:18 AM

practice moar and you will have more field experience lo.

if this thread is active, there is no need to pinned it.

and sometimes, pinned thread gets less attention.

i tend to ignore pinned thread.

i have never experienced any love relation before, only have girl who is near

What is a relationship, when one remembers everything?

Peinsama!

Stop being cute.

Agreed.

If he remembers everything,you are dating a hard disk then.