give him a nice baby

i hv 1 yr relationship wif my current bf. previously i hv 2 exs...and i did hv intercourse with both of them. i am no longer love them and only love my current bf.. however, it seems lik my current bf not able to forget my past thing because i had intercourse with someoone before that. i kno he did mind bout that i been 'touched' by other ppl. i feel sad of it and i kno he feel sad as well...he very pamper and sayang me..during this 1 yr,i kno he try his best to 4get it but somehow those thing will haunt him. i really dunno how 2 do and feel hopeless.

Anyone can give advise to me? how i can help myself and my bf? please dont give the advise to separate. all the while, we have been very good in evrything but not in this only.

please help 

What you say is true.. but If he cant forget your past, theres no point u still hang on, right? ( this is when u think that having intercourse with others is alright, so u both just move on)

Things like this already happen not only 1 time but 2. It needs time for him to forget n accept it.
I guess you shud think about yourself too.
If you really like this guy, i suggest that you commit to the fullest to this guy only n not thinking about others anymore! ( this is when u think that youll change n make him believe you that he is the only guy for you)

Also, what if you break up again, will the next guy treat you the same or will u haunt the next guy by saying u had it 3 times b4 him? ( this is when your scared that no1 wants you or similar situation that will happen to your next bf afta this)

Decision is yours. What you think is right then just do it, if not ull regret in your life. We are here just giving you some of our views n opinions.

agree agree....fully commit urself to tis guy...shower him wit love and care....time will make him 4get about it.....

well... i sort of understand what he feels like

you can think of this problem this way as well...

imagine you're in a relationship and you caught your gf or wife sleeping with another guy only once

and you decide to lie to yourself that you'll forgive her but yet you can't forget

it is easy to forgive but it is very difficult to forget

what you can do is like what others say.. commit yourself to him

and most importantly... make him feel that you are entirely his

When he first dating you, he shud have accepct what u are now. A brand new you. You past should not be dragged into it.

Even prisoners are given a clean and fresh start. Plus ur not even commiting a crime at the past at all.

History are meant as a guidance for us to improve in the future. Not a reference event that will haunt us forever.

If ur commited to him i dont see any reason for him to mind about what u are in the pass. If he still cant get through his mind, the problem is his and not yours. There is nothing u can do if a cow doesnt wanna eat grass.

tell ur bf to let it go if he really love her very much...a past is a past.....there are no benefit if ur bf keep thinking about it....a tiny mistake wont coz the earth crash into the sun....

and both of u love each other and getting well along....

if he still cant 4get bout it, seek a professional advice....it helps.

my bf and i so happen to have just spoken about this. he said that he doesnt mind and when i asked him about his, he said that what is past is past and we should focus on 'us' right now. i am so thankful to have such a bf    he figured that although i am just kaypo and want to ask for fun, it probably wouldnt do any good later

solution: give it more time and see how it goes, else there is nothing u can do to change things. else, tembak him back and say that the same thing (bbut if he's virgin, then backfire la  )

All he need is time, time is a best antidote to heal everything,if you wanted to 4get something you also need sometime,then this kinda big problem he need more time to 4get.
All you have to do is treat him better thn b4 to let him know that you are love him........if you adi do all these thing he still so care about ur past, then you got no choice, in this kind of situation both of you still want together will only suffer.......
so you will know wat to do...........the best way is only break up

thanks for ur opinions...actly both of us juz feel reluctant to giv up this relationship bcoz of my past thing...i rly dunno how long the time he need to recover from this situation...
i do commit and finger cross that he able to 4get bout it
yup..i will..by the way..do u face such situation b4 that?i hope to kno wat u all guyz think bout it
professional advice?whr?

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Added on April 14, 2009, 2:42 pm

hope my bf will lik ur bf too..
it has been 1yr++...hopefully it doesnt continue to make him suffer

i hv 1 yr relationship wif my current bf. previously i hv 2 exs...and i did hv intercourse with both of them. i am no longer love them and only love my current bf.. however, it seems lik my current bf not able to forget my past thing because i had intercourse with someoone before that. i kno he did mind bout that i been 'touched' by other ppl. i feel sad of it and i kno he feel sad as well...he very pamper and sayang me..during this 1 yr,i kno he try his best to 4get it but somehow those thing will haunt him. i really dunno how 2 do and feel hopeless.

Anyone can give advise to me? how i can help myself and my bf? please dont give the advise to separate. all the while, we have been very good in evrything but not in this only.

please help 

Hi Suzzane,

For guys, it is almost impossible to forget what my gf or now wife had done (lost virginity) before marrying me. (based on my own experiences!)

It is better not to tell all about your past, if you feel it will hurt and damage your relationship with him.
Since he already knew about your past, that it is up to him to "recover and heal" his mind.

No matter what you do or want to do for him, it will not change what he can do for himself first.

He must let go his "own" feeling first or else there will not be a happy marriage later on. Both will suffers!

If he really love you, he should let it past. (almost impossible)

Sorry to say this, maybe he still "searching" for his gf or life partner and you are just "occupying" at the moment.

have more sex with him.

tats the only cure