What you say is true.. but If he cant forget your past, theres no point u still hang on, right? ( this is when u think that having intercourse with others is alright, so u both just move on)

Things like this already happen not only 1 time but 2. It needs time for him to forget n accept it.
I guess you shud think about yourself too.
If you really like this guy, i suggest that you commit to the fullest to this guy only n not thinking about others anymore! ( this is when u think that youll change n make him believe you that he is the only guy for you)

Also, what if you break up again, will the next guy treat you the same or will u haunt the next guy by saying u had it 3 times b4 him? ( this is when your scared that no1 wants you or similar situation that will happen to your next bf afta this)

Decision is yours. What you think is right then just do it, if not ull regret in your life. We are here just giving you some of our views n opinions.

agree agree....fully commit urself to tis guy...shower him wit love and care....time will make him 4get about it.....

well... i sort of understand what he feels like

you can think of this problem this way as well...

imagine you're in a relationship and you caught your gf or wife sleeping with another guy only once

and you decide to lie to yourself that you'll forgive her but yet you can't forget

it is easy to forgive but it is very difficult to forget

what you can do is like what others say.. commit yourself to him

and most importantly... make him feel that you are entirely his

When he first dating you, he shud have accepct what u are now. A brand new you. You past should not be dragged into it.

Even prisoners are given a clean and fresh start. Plus ur not even commiting a crime at the past at all.

History are meant as a guidance for us to improve in the future. Not a reference event that will haunt us forever.

If ur commited to him i dont see any reason for him to mind about what u are in the pass. If he still cant get through his mind, the problem is his and not yours. There is nothing u can do if a cow doesnt wanna eat grass.

tell ur bf to let it go if he really love her very much...a past is a past.....there are no benefit if ur bf keep thinking about it....a tiny mistake wont coz the earth crash into the sun....

and both of u love each other and getting well along....

if he still cant 4get bout it, seek a professional advice....it helps.

my bf and i so happen to have just spoken about this. he said that he doesnt mind and when i asked him about his, he said that what is past is past and we should focus on 'us' right now. i am so thankful to have such a bf    he figured that although i am just kaypo and want to ask for fun, it probably wouldnt do any good later

solution: give it more time and see how it goes, else there is nothing u can do to change things. else, tembak him back and say that the same thing (bbut if he's virgin, then backfire la  )

All he need is time, time is a best antidote to heal everything,if you wanted to 4get something you also need sometime,then this kinda big problem he need more time to 4get.
All you have to do is treat him better thn b4 to let him know that you are love him........if you adi do all these thing he still so care about ur past, then you got no choice, in this kind of situation both of you still want together will only suffer.......
so you will know wat to do...........the best way is only break up

er, how do lover shower give back virginity?

i'm sorry. i'm on her bf side. thinking about my girl facking and moaning with other guys make me wanna vomit.

+9000

Is your BF a kid?
If he really LOVES you, he won't mind

Oh well, i know i won't mind as long as the other party loves me too ......
Tell him, that our eyes are place infront instead of the back of our head because we are suppose to look toward the front/future instead looking behind/the past...

TS +u+u+u to keep up the good work and don't never ever give up on keep trying.....someday, ur bf will realize how much u love him and how foolish of him cant let go of the past instead of seeing the future of u both....

+U+U+U+U+U     

I agree...TS sure do deserve respect from all of us being honest,patient and understanding at the same moment.     And has the will to solve problem in d relationships......  
Ur bf sure is a lucky guy as I am...got a gf that can lead me  ....if not..now i still a Mr. Do-Stupid Thing...  

guys ..do you know ur gf is virgin or not?meant if you're doing sex?if not..then no need to worried lorh..

suzanne
sorry to ask you....you tell e'thing about you?about your past ?actually you have to respect urself..no need to tell e'thing about your secret expecially man/boy/bf/also hubby.

i know it's hurt...rasa bersalah always in ur heart..it's happen to me b4...

no la...u both have d same determination and sacrifice alot for your partner....which make me realize how good my gf been treating me and how important she is to me....

i hope ur bf soon will be touch by ur love,care,sacrifices and what you have done for him......
if ur bf still stuborn..ask him to contact me via here    and i giv him a lesson of life he will never 4get

btw, u can also ask one of his best fren to advice him (some1 trustworthy, mature/ not some cica boy which makes matter worse)...
even through this normally is hard to work....you got to try anything tat can be done....or consult his parents(if his parent is a understanding ppl, not outdate)...

but all in all....as all the reply here said...TIME will prove it as this matter can only be resolved by ur bf alone...what u can do is try to change what he mind about your past....Dun ever give up on HIM!!!

Wish you all the best and have a nice day ever after...

ok. let me try and hear,listen and understand things your way.

you are blaming her because she never gave a thought when she was making love as to whether that person would be her life partner.
How in hell would you know? unless you were marrying her the next day. and who are you to say such a thing? its her life, not yours.

then you say guys who cant accept girls who have made love are pansies.
you should really learn to hear,listen,READ, and understand yourself first.

until then, i know you'll have your hands and lots of videos to keep you company until you find your life partner, who i wish will dump you right after making love. now thats a curse, nincompoop.

Have you explained why and how did you intercourse with someone?
In this situation, usually it is hard for MALE to accept.
Honestly, the reason most of them can't accept and never admit is they're selfish.
Nobody is willing to share much of their own 'things'.
It did happened commonly especially those who just started in a relationship will easily lose control and intercourse.
What if they break 1 day? Usually male will never consider this question because most of them don't care much.

There are many cases similar to yours nowadays.
You should really seek for his understanding that your past is PAST. Everyone made mistake and it does take very long time for a guy who really loves you to accept.

If you think that he is the right one you are seeking for, you should be very patient in making him understand and deepen the feelings between you and him.

Cheer up and good luck in your relationship.

im in the same situation as ur bf as well so i can roughly know how he feels. it hurts, it really does... every intimate things u do together, u'll be wondering if the girl did it with the other guys b4.

however, i accepted that she loved others b4 me and she gave her all to them and i respect that. i know i have to accept it and move on, but it stills come back to haunt me occasionally and it is something i will have to accept if i choose to continue the relationship.

ur bf shud decide himself if he can live with it.

wow.. this kind of bf still exist... cool...

nyway.. trust me.. he will get used to it....
normaly guys that have less social life have this kind of problems...

i asume he a nerd or a very young boy..
so give him sometime... when he grow more mature.... he will find out that its actually doesnt matter...

chill... a good bf should hold ur hand and walk for future... not look at the past... so take it easy...

my wife had 7 exs, till now sometimes still pissed me off,

the only thingy can do is do think about it ,

used to have the same situation s u too..there's nth much u can do to change his mind or thinking bout the past..most importantly,if he really loves u den i guess nth will matter...
like u said,its already the past which means its b4 he met u..i belif every1 has their past no matter is gud or bad he still gotta accept it..since he decided to have tis relationship,den he shud accept the way u r no matter in da past or da futuyre...r
anywayz,try to shower him wif love n care s much s u can to show him tt its him whom truly matters to u now..
gud luck...

Aw, honey he's just a little insecure. Part of why he can't seem to forget your past is because he's scared you'll fall for another guy. He's stubbornly thinking you fall easily for guys and let them *touch you and such.

The answer? If you want to stay with him, keep on loving him don't be flirty with other guys, keep your eyes locked onto his.

All the best!

Seriously .You don't expect your boyfriend to forget the past and not keep on thinking of your past . Things that had been done were done and there is no way of going back nor fixing it .The wound is there forever . Your boyfriend might tell you that he does not mind about it one day ,but I doubt that hardly true from his heart .There is nothing can be done now .Don't expect having more sex with him ,caring him more ,cherish him love and tender .Those things can't works.A bad memory is the hardest thing you could ever try to forget .Its not an hardisk that you could format it and rearrange the binary code.It does not work that way .