i hv 1 yr relationship wif my current bf. previously i hv 2 exs...and i did hv intercourse with both of them. i am no longer love them and only love my current bf.. however, it seems lik my current bf not able to forget my past thing because i had intercourse with someoone before that. i kno he did mind bout that i been 'touched' by other ppl. i feel sad of it and i kno he feel sad as well...he very pamper and sayang me..during this 1 yr,i kno he try his best to 4get it but somehow those thing will haunt him. i really dunno how 2 do and feel hopeless.

Anyone can give advise to me? how i can help myself and my bf? please dont give the advise to separate. all the while, we have been very good in evrything but not in this only.

please help

have more sex with him.

tats the only cure

double edged sword, could go either way

if he really love u, he should accept u as u are...

like my gf, i accept her whatever she is.

show him more love or do smthing that he'll never forget u.

What you say is true.. but If he cant forget your past, theres no point u still hang on, right? ( this is when u think that having intercourse with others is alright, so u both just move on)

Things like this already happen not only 1 time but 2. It needs time for him to forget n accept it.
I guess you shud think about yourself too.
If you really like this guy, i suggest that you commit to the fullest to this guy only n not thinking about others anymore! ( this is when u think that youll change n make him believe you that he is the only guy for you)

Also, what if you break up again, will the next guy treat you the same or will u haunt the next guy by saying u had it 3 times b4 him? ( this is when your scared that no1 wants you or similar situation that will happen to your next bf afta this)

Decision is yours. What you think is right then just do it, if not ull regret in your life. We are here just giving you some of our views n opinions.

agree agree....fully commit urself to tis guy...shower him wit love and care....time will make him 4get about it.....

well... i sort of understand what he feels like

you can think of this problem this way as well...

imagine you're in a relationship and you caught your gf or wife sleeping with another guy only once

and you decide to lie to yourself that you'll forgive her but yet you can't forget

it is easy to forgive but it is very difficult to forget

what you can do is like what others say.. commit yourself to him

and most importantly... make him feel that you are entirely his

This post has been edited by Hejime: Apr 14 2009, 01:27 PM

I agree with you too

Easily forgive, but its hard to forget.
I guess even you yourself also cant forget right suzanne2196.

try to give him something special that u nvr give to ur exs...

i think that you have put the wrong situation wit TS....no1 can forget if a person gf/wife caught sleeping wit another guy...you are in a relationship and ur gf backstab u..
but TS situation is, her bf can forget her past....not caught her sleeping wit other guys while in their relationship.....

no offends but forgetting the past is much easier than forgetting a backstab...

When he first dating you, he shud have accepct what u are now. A brand new you. You past should not be dragged into it.

Even prisoners are given a clean and fresh start. Plus ur not even commiting a crime at the past at all.

History are meant as a guidance for us to improve in the future. Not a reference event that will haunt us forever.

If ur commited to him i dont see any reason for him to mind about what u are in the pass. If he still cant get through his mind, the problem is his and not yours. There is nothing u can do if a cow doesnt wanna eat grass.

your bf really suck.. i also say if her really love u he should accept what ur.. now just a tiny mistake u do... an infect that is your pass and i understand u dun wish to do that as well rite.. what world your bf came, do he have atime machine came from year 1970's hum.. i dun think your bf a fair guy.. not worth it.. sorry im that direct

you mean, anal?

try buttsek him...

i know the situation but i'm thinking in a similar way the guy is having problem right now

and her bf cannot forget about her past

This post has been edited by Hejime: Apr 14 2009, 01:58 PM

ROFL! I hardly laugh on that one

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Added on April 14, 2009, 2:01 pmFor me as a guy... TS, You shouldn't told him bout your past time. Just keep it secret.

This post has been edited by xtrifor: Apr 14 2009, 02:01 PM

nvm... come to me =)

its veli hard u know ur bf can forget the past. i tink you got tell him so details. if not he wont so mind 1.

tell ur bf to let it go if he really love her very much...a past is a past.....there are no benefit if ur bf keep thinking about it....a tiny mistake wont coz the earth crash into the sun....

and both of u love each other and getting well along....

if he still cant 4get bout it, seek a professional advice....it helps.