I've seen far too many men justify their self-worth on women. Taking rejection to the heart, and then completely turning around to resort to hate, and fluff advice like "there are many fishes in the sea", "well I tried hard enough", "what a bitch, wasted my time".

The best advice that I can give to meeting the woman of your dreams is to start from within. Start with yourself. If something/someone didn't work out, it was entirely on you. It was in the choice of your actions/inactions. What you did/didn't do. What you said/didn't say.

No one is responsible for your happiness, but you.

If you want true change, start with yourself. You gotta be as comfortable as you can under your own skin. Not needing women for approval. Not needing compliments to validate your self-worth. The ones that unlock this truth or complete self-reliance for happiness gets the most women and when they find the women they want, they keep them.

Well, you're definitely going to ask, how do you reach that level of comfort?

1) Get into a job that you really like. Work on something you're passionate about. When you're channeling that kind of passion outwards, you will thank yourself and your body will feel a sense of satisfaction within. You won't need anyone or anything to validate you. I've seen far too many people just cruising through life. Not taking risks. Disregarding what their inner subconscious tells them to truly do. Everyone has a purpose and it's up to you to find that purpose. Women absolutely fall head over heels for a man with a purpose, working towards their passion.

2) Be honest. Not only with people but with yourself. How are you truly doing in life? Do you dress well enough? Was the girl that you were trying to go for really in your league? Ask yourself, and be truly honest with yourself. Only then can you really be honest with the people around you. And when you're always honest, you'll find that it's so easy to speak your mind and just let your thoughts flow without battling with your inner-self. You will start connecting with people true honesty and it'll be effortless. You like her? Tell her. You think her eyes are beautiful? Say it. The friendzone only happens because you let it. You're not polarizing enough through honesty. Women love an honest man who can speak their mind and that's the key to polarization.

3) Live in the moment. I can't tell you how damn important it is to live in the moment, and not in your head. You see, the mind ceases to exist in the present. It can only operate in the context of the past or the future. And the mind always creates false realities based on fear, worries, discomfort. Let's say you're on a first date with a girl, and all you're thinking about is whether she likes you. Whether you're gonna bed her tonight. What she's thinking about. And when you're constantly thinking about those situations (which is either a false reality in the future or something that is unknown) you'll operate based on that. If you think a girl isn't that interested in you, you'll start throwing non-genuine compliments, and girls hate that. If you're worried about what she thinks of you, you'll keep asking her questions about yourself then the date becomes an interview process. You'll do unimpressive things to impress her. To be present is to be comfortable. Enjoy the moment. Stop worrying so much about the right or wrong things to say or do. Just be here in the now.

When you learn to live in the moment, fear won't matter to you. Others will see you as a comfortable being. You'll start to have intriguing conversations with people. You'll notice things that you didn't use to notice. Women love men who live in the moment and notice them. What they're wearing. Their laugh. What they're truly trying to say.

I know it's easier said than done, but start with these things and trust me you'll go far in life. You'll start connecting with people in a true manner, and it'll be effortless. You'll get the opportunity to handpick the people that you want in life, and get rid of those you don't.

I don't advocate things that portray false confidence. Pick-up lines. Tactics. Playing hard to get.

To those who need any sort of help, I'll be more than glad to assist! I'm just a PM away.

I'll also appreciate any feedbacks or thoughts your guys may have on the matter.

This post has been edited by Free2k: Feb 26 2016, 05:22 PM

+9999

Lets all find the passion in our life.

Be an attractive person.

A guy who is desperately seeking women is not attractive.
A guy who cares about his family, friends, surroundings and those around him is.
A guy with good habits, job, language, skills and grooming is.
A guy who is capable of taking care of himself, is independent, reliable and becomes the pillar of support to those around him is.

Fulfill these things and they will notice you even if you don't say a word to them. You may not get the exact girl you want, but how many of us get the girl we want only to realize we don't really want them?

For everything else in life we're so calculative of the reward we get from the effort we put in; what reward do you expect to get from a lady given all the effort? Is it really worth it or are you better off concentrating on something else?

I think this tips does not only apply for romance but it can be applied for general life as well.

wahh thank you

This is best advice ever!

i agree, the saying nobody will like you if you don't like yourself is true in that post...

but think about it this way, if you already developed yourself in nearly all aspects, ie physically, emotionally, financially etc..then why the need to find a partner? more often than not, the individuals that managed to achieve such personal success wont even bother to be in relationship anymore...

it's like, you already have all that you can and want develop within yourself, then why the heck you need someone in your life to be your partner, since it will just clamp down your freedom, or perhaps, if you don't have those positive inner criteria as mentioned, would the partner that already attracted to you still remain by your side??

its just my thoughts, but i think when we already changed our inner self for the better, then finding a partner is already redundant

can i get a rudimentary instruction? step by step guide with precise action to get a girlfriend.

get a job i like:i dont know a job i like
honest: very honest
live in the moment: i play video games all day

This post has been edited by EngineeringSol: Aug 6 2018, 06:39 PM

You cannot develop everything yourself. Some things can only be developed in a relationship because it requires intimacy and vulnerability which you will not have with anyone else except your life partner. Your partner will challenge you in ways you did not think possible, you will face disagreements over things you think is totally common sense, but your partner sees things differently, and so you will learn to see things differently too.

Its the same reason why we have a left/right brain. One handles the known, the other handles the unknown. Both must be well developed and communicating to reach an optimum path forward, a relationship is no different. It is the marriage of 2 different views with 2 different priorities that creates a better solution, which is why having 2 parents is better than one for kids too. They learn from observing how parents communicate and resolve conflict.

The right partner will make you realise how incomplete you were and they will help you become even better in ways you could not foresee.. you only realise after the effects have been applied.

passion is wonderful

Super simple! One word "MONEY"!

yep. sometimes the not so good smell is the one attract the women.

You need to be charming in your appearance & approach.
Be generous, no stingy.
Be a gentleman calvary.
Always shower properly, have some nice smell perfume.
Fresh breath, always wash your mouth with Listerine & some gummy.
Clean in everything.
Put on deodorant.

confident.

The way to get the girl you want is by being confident but not too confident. Girls like boys that are confident. You just have to ask her out, thats all. If you are not friends then you need to at least get to know her first before you ask her out. Do not try to hard to impress her. You just have to be you.

in my case , keep on trolling her facebook during PKP .. thats how i got my girl .. now everynight very hard to sleep , she keep on message thru whatsapp

---edited---

This post has been edited by 20191117: Aug 1 2020, 12:20 AM

Erm.. money..and patients, lots of it

This post has been edited by Arsenal21: Sep 15 2020, 09:48 AM

I don’t know why some people say money! If you want a gold digger, yes the answer is money but for a girl with great personality. NO! Money is not enough

so turns out you are not just a software expert, you are also a cassanova seducing expert