There are many topics here of guys whining about being rejected(no matter the reason) and then there are topics where people attempt to teach a guy how to be attractive to women. Despite how these 2 types seem different, they both share a fundamental problem. What is that problem? well let me share it with you...

They have no standards of their own

What does this mean? Well, I'll explain. To reach the widest audience possible, I'll prepare a wall of text assault and a tl;dr version Enjoy

tl;dr


Wall of text Assault (I'm a RWIer... you've been warned )


I could probably write this better, but meh its 5am

I've seen far too many men justify their self-worth on women. Taking rejection to the heart, and then completely turning around to resort to hate, and fluff advice like "there are many fishes in the sea", "well I tried hard enough", "what a bitch, wasted my time".

The best advice that I can give to meeting the woman of your dreams is to start from within. Start with yourself. If something/someone didn't work out, it was entirely on you. It was in the choice of your actions/inactions. What you did/didn't do. What you said/didn't say.

No one is responsible for your happiness, but you.

If you want true change, start with yourself. You gotta be as comfortable as you can under your own skin. Not needing women for approval. Not needing compliments to validate your self-worth. The ones that unlock this truth or complete self-reliance for happiness gets the most women and when they find the women they want, they keep them.

Well, you're definitely going to ask, how do you reach that level of comfort?

1) Get into a job that you really like. Work on something you're passionate about. When you're channeling that kind of passion outwards, you will thank yourself and your body will feel a sense of satisfaction within. You won't need anyone or anything to validate you. I've seen far too many people just cruising through life. Not taking risks. Disregarding what their inner subconscious tells them to truly do. Everyone has a purpose and it's up to you to find that purpose. Women absolutely fall head over heels for a man with a purpose, working towards their passion.

2) Be honest. Not only with people but with yourself. How are you truly doing in life? Do you dress well enough? Was the girl that you were trying to go for really in your league? Ask yourself, and be truly honest with yourself. Only then can you really be honest with the people around you. And when you're always honest, you'll find that it's so easy to speak your mind and just let your thoughts flow without battling with your inner-self. You will start connecting with people true honesty and it'll be effortless. You like her? Tell her. You think her eyes are beautiful? Say it. The friendzone only happens because you let it. You're not polarizing enough through honesty. Women love an honest man who can speak their mind and that's the key to polarization.

3) Live in the moment. I can't tell you how damn important it is to live in the moment, and not in your head. You see, the mind ceases to exist in the present. It can only operate in the context of the past or the future. And the mind always creates false realities based on fear, worries, discomfort. Let's say you're on a first date with a girl, and all you're thinking about is whether she likes you. Whether you're gonna bed her tonight. What she's thinking about. And when you're constantly thinking about those situations (which is either a false reality in the future or something that is unknown) you'll operate based on that. If you think a girl isn't that interested in you, you'll start throwing non-genuine compliments, and girls hate that. If you're worried about what she thinks of you, you'll keep asking her questions about yourself then the date becomes an interview process. You'll do unimpressive things to impress her. To be present is to be comfortable. Enjoy the moment. Stop worrying so much about the right or wrong things to say or do. Just be here in the now.

When you learn to live in the moment, fear won't matter to you. Others will see you as a comfortable being. You'll start to have intriguing conversations with people. You'll notice things that you didn't use to notice. Women love men who live in the moment and notice them. What they're wearing. Their laugh. What they're truly trying to say.

I know it's easier said than done, but start with these things and trust me you'll go far in life. You'll start connecting with people in a true manner, and it'll be effortless. You'll get the opportunity to handpick the people that you want in life, and get rid of those you don't.

I don't advocate things that portray false confidence. Pick-up lines. Tactics. Playing hard to get.

To those who need any sort of help, I'll be more than glad to assist! I'm just a PM away.

I'll also appreciate any feedbacks or thoughts your guys may have on the matter.