Girl choosing a rich husband considered shallow
but guy avoiding fat ugly woman is what?

In the end human are selfish, we want the best for ourself... its like the pot calling the kettle black.

This post has been edited by moorish: Mar 28 2009, 08:53 PM

I fully agree with this quote of yours

A lot of people here take things so straight forward without considering the complexity of human, just because I would choose A they prejudge that I'm money minded like a parasite sucking the life out from my husband. But thats not true in reality, I'm thrifty and would rather save money for the children later in life.

I choosed a MYVI instead of CRV, coz i think car is a waste of money buying expensive cars just to show off.
I choosed fake LV instead of the real thing, coz I dun believe in buying a 7K bag, for the purposed of showing off.

I dun mind going shopping on my husbands honda cub its convenient, now how many chinese girl willing to do that? you tell me.

you;re the type who talk big here only, you dare tell this to your gf or wife (that is even if you do have one) or you musta been badly abuse by your gf thats why all the hate

why do you think only the rich will cheat? are you implying the poorer are all saints?
Money or status cannot judge if the person is bad, they're bad people at all level of life.
I've seen plenty of rich womanizer man but I've also seen plenty of poor womanizer man.
Are you saying marrying a person base truly on love is the sure way?
I've seen plenty who uses this formula ended up in divorce and walk out empty handed.

There is no need to hate me, you can choose love for all you want if you're girl, you can struggle feeding the baby all you want, it is your life, I'm not your mom to tell you or convince you what to do. but there is a saying:

if your parents are poor it is not your fault
if you husband is poor it is fully your fault.




This post has been edited by moorish: Mar 30 2009, 09:35 AM

I come from a poor family, and thank god I've never been suck into the lifestyle thingy, chap fan and roti canai is fine with me. I know my hubby in 03, married at 05, and till today we still go sg wang on his bike on the weekend. I seldom shop at MV or KLCC, prices of cloths are too expensive. A lot of my gf will not get caught riding on a honda cub, status and glamour is important to them. Everyone has the right to choose their lifestyle, nothing wrong with that, but I would like to stick to this down to earth habit as I want to pass this down to my children. I dont want them to grow into a world of pride and ego.

I'm thrifty and down to earth but financial stability is still very important. I agree with you on the part, at first the guy would sweet talk you and love grows, you think you can make it with only love as the base and foundation of your rship, but in this world today especially in city, money is more important to sustain a happy rship in long run.

This post has been edited by moorish: Mar 30 2009, 12:00 PM

From the first post it is obvious both man is head over heal for the girl, so the chances of both gets corrupted later is equal. But you put it as if the rich will change while the poorer one will remain adamant which is not true in real life.

Everyone in this world is looking for Mr.Right or Mr.Perfect, I'm not saying this man do not exist but maybe only 0.0001% of girl in this world will get to marry this elusive man. The other 99.999% will have to settle for someone lesser, and here is why give and take have to be weight.

Love is something exciting in the beginning but eventually love subside and reality kicks in, struggling putting dinner on the table is not exactly romantic and will sap the love so quickly like you've been electrocuted.

You talk about equality, do you like to come home to a house clean and tidy, where warm food are cooked and a glass of coffee made for you after dinner?

This post has been edited by moorish: Mar 30 2009, 12:30 PM

Well its not a formula, and I never say always go for the richer dude, I've mention many times, everybody has their own standard in terms of rich, for me those who earn above 10k/mth is good enuf. If b4 getting married I've 2 guy chasing me, my hubby and the datuks kids I'll go for my hubby.

Maybe some girls dream is to drive a BMW so they'll probably go for the datuks kid.

I guess you just simple shoot without reading or following this thread.

It is not up to us to decide if a man changes his heart, I do not agree with sharing my man if given a choice, but unfortunately I've seen too many man fooling outside. I've seen the poorer man and the richer man womanizing, the consequences of the both

The richer one can still provide for the wife and kids
The poorer one will sweet talk you to work and fend for yourself and the kids while he fend for the one outside.

How many times had I emphasize that the possibility of the rich or poor man womanize or fall out of love after 7 years tying the knots chances are equal ? what makes you think that just becoz you're lovey dovey with your bf and he will remain like that eternally?

If you;ve frens, or relative who had divorce, try to CSI her case, are they not so in love to the point that even parent object they still go ahead and then what happen?

And I'm sure you also have frens or relative who had married the richer or poorer and still going strong too. And so you know the chance are equal.

What makes you think those who are rich isnt enjoying their life? touring europe with their children on school holidays, getting a 1carat diamond ring for your birthday, enjoying your SPA and facial treatment at exclusive place, driving your BMW, having a maid to take care of choir, and shop like crazy with a 300sq/ft walk in wardrobe to fit in all your dress. And dont be fool into thinking that love doesnt exist for the rich man, he is afterall also a man.

Those woman that shed tears everynight are those with husband that are fooling around outside and has fallen out of love and definitely they dun cry because their husband is rich, because the poorer man's chances of this are equal.

Wealth doesnt guarantee happiness but love also do not guarantee happiness, you're again talking on extreme end here.

I'm not trying to change your perception or choice, obviously you can can choose love or whatever, but why insist those who do are wrong or hate them just because you disagree when they dont hate you for your choices? Am I spose to hate and not talk to my fren who had chosen love and got divorce and tell her dai sei?

if you look at the extreme end, you divorce a rich man you still able to get a house or a fat alimony for your kids, when you divorce a poor man you most probably have to even pay the divorce lawyer fee! or some cases haunt by ah long.

I do not look down on poor people as I'm not even a millionaire or close to it, I do not drive a BMW or stay in a bungalow, I do not have maid myself.

But we're debating on the rich and poor wife's chances and the possibility of her future. Because most of you think that marrying a rich man will end up a disaster like as if marrying a poor man is the correct and absolute choice.

Because if you open the spoiler "kii"'s theory, mention that marrying a rich man will end up unhappy and most probably disastrous. So this is why I point out what makes you think rich people are unhappy?

Do you know this world got people actually divorce?
If you hang around CC long enuf you see love also can be gone in 60 seconds.

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Added on April 1, 2009, 9:31 amyou 2 hackel and jackel seem to think that only rich guys can play and dump some materialistic girls, but there're also plenty of dumb rich guys that some smart materialistic girl had suck the life outta them. joking only, the trouble is, no matter how smart a person is be it male or female, when you see tha special person which you fall for immediately, you're slave to him or her. So dun ever think you're smart. there is no escaping unless you're so unfortunate to never meet your dream girl.

So the world is back to equal.

This post has been edited by moorish: Apr 1 2009, 09:49 AM

someone i know

Go out to all the major shopping centre like KLCC, Midvalley, look around, all these places catered for WOMAN! for their shopping needs!!! look at pavillion and starhill.

Now tell me do you think money is not important to girls?
And they're also plenty of nice rich/financial capable guys around who can pampered you better than just sweet empty talks.

The existence of all these primary shopping centre proves money is important to girls, and I believe talibans also have female, just because you cannot have it doesnt mean you dont want it. There is also a difference.

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Added on April 1, 2009, 1:12 pmthank you

This post has been edited by moorish: Apr 1 2009, 01:12 PM

but the money are fueled by man

so you saying all those people like prime minister, movie director, corp CEOs, lawyers, doctors who drive porsh, ferraris, mercedes, BMW, are all stupid?
All those executive, salesman, clerk who ride honda cub and drive 2nd hand proton are smart?


You're pathetic, but I sympathize your gf more that is if you able to get one

This post has been edited by moorish: Apr 1 2009, 01:25 PM

you obviously do not know what is lifestyle, if the world were to follow you we would be back at stoneage. You've probably never seen real money in your life. For those who have 30 million in their account what is spending 7k for a handbag? its only 0.02% of their wealth. Dont just assume people who dresses up with designer cloths or bags are dumb, they do so because they can afford to.

In the end you can give all your opinion, but you cannot change the world, shopping is synonymous with girls, and shopping needs money. I'm talking in terms of generally woman LOVE shopping. Yes you can give me a few example of who and who or your gf who do not mind being poor. But if you look out at the street, with all the major shopping complex from KLCC catering to the rich to the smaller pudu or komtar or sg wang catering for the lower end, all these places target girls.

Look at facial product frm SK-II to Olay, these are all girls neccesity in life!

The topic was money is important to girl, and I'm trying to point out to you that, that is the fact of life. You're trying to convince me or whichever girl you're trying to con that this isnt true. Of coz you can quote me Mother teresa disagree with me, but then again I'm sure you're not trying to marry a person like her.

Todays world security = money, be it health, places you stay, schools you go to, places you hangout, jobs you take, the world are slave to money. As mention a thousand times already, how rich, now that is up to individuals taste or appetite.

If money is not important, why do we send our children to extra classes and hope he becomes a doctor or a pilot? why not tell him to go potong susu and live an organic life? why do you work and hope to be promoted? why do you complaint that your salary is never enuf?

Who doesnt wanna be rich? everyone wanna be rich and that was the whole purpose why we study so hard, work so hard and hope to be somebody one day.

But not everybody makes it in life, the girl who are fortunate to have the chance to marry a rich man, so why not?

The aim is to have a lot of money, but how or what person it changes you is totally a different story, You can be rich but a stuck up or you can be rich but down to earth but unfortunately is not covered in this thread. You've to start your own thread about this topic.

In chinese tradition marriage does not contain just the 2 of you. Marriage you've to think of your kids, your parents and your bro and sister, how it affect their lifes. That is also the reason why you work so hard to make money so you can give the best to your kids.

Anyway for those who think money is not important in marriage definately are those single person or those who had just fallen in love and still in honeymoon mode. Wait till you wake up.

This post has been edited by moorish: Apr 1 2009, 02:07 PM