i have a big fight with my gf last week.....he always say that i cannot aford her with my income.....our relatioship is going well during our universities, we been paktoh when during studies at uni, i know that i am using my PTPTN money, but we always spending time together and took her travel to almost every state in penisular Malaysia...to Penang, KL (every week days) and Johor....during the time, we even went to Genting Highlands and Cameron from Ipoh.....during the Uni?studies years, we benn staying together and rent a house...but i know..the PTPTN money is not enough for our studies living...our parents do sent us more money not less than RM400. For me i think that my GF have arich family that her parents sent her mauch money during our studies years...

When we grad, we still together and she been post to a company near my place...then i also haven find any job for one year...but the second year on 2007 i finally find a job for a gov sector..... but my salary is not high if compare to those others gov officers that can get RM4K per month.....then i applying for an interview that i failed the interview twice....so my salary now becoming static with only RM2++K. i also afraid that i will lost job soon....when these  two years goes by, i can see a change from my gf that she says that i am a loser....so i often see her going out with other guys.....then we always fight. i wonder how can she behave in such ways...she has change.....i wonder what happening to her.....she always not intrested in me anymore....maybe is my income or my apperence that she always say that i am not goodlooking anymore like before...but i fell so starnge becouse my weight havent even change...maybe i now wearing spec?????

So just few days, my gf oledi dicuss with her parents that she dont want to meet me anymore.......she say many things about me with her parents....then she act so stange lately then finally we saparated.I am so despo right now couse i am not young anymore and all my pass friends oledi getting married and even had kids....my parents always advice me to forget about her and says she is useless , and dont think of getting girls right now....i now conduct a phycology doctor and take pills every nite to calm me down

u have to think the girl's side as well.
if u were her,
and u found someone better, i guess u would have done the same thing as well.

love is never fair.
its either one of them getting hurt in the end.

so, if i were u, i'll firstly focus on my job and prove to her and of course everyone that u're moving on,
to a better life and income

good luck ts~

i have a big fight with my gf last week.....he always say that i cannot aford her with my income.....our relatioship is going well during our universities, we been paktoh when during studies at uni, i know that i am using my PTPTN money, but we always spending time together and took her travel to almost every state in penisular Malaysia...to Penang, KL (every week days) and Johor....during the time, we even went to Genting Highlands and Cameron from Ipoh.....during the Uni?studies years, we benn staying together and rent a house...but i know..the PTPTN money is not enough for our studies living...our parents do sent us more money not less than RM400. For me i think that my GF have arich family that her parents sent her mauch money during our studies years...

When we grad, we still together and she been post to a company near my place...then i also haven find any job for one year...but the second year on 2007 i finally find a job for a gov sector..... but my salary is not high if compare to those others gov officers that can get RM4K per month.....then i applying for an interview that i failed the interview twice....so my salary now becoming static with only RM2++K. i also afraid that i will lost job soon....when these  two years goes by, i can see a change from my gf that she says that i am a loser....so i often see her going out with other guys.....then we always fight. i wonder how can she behave in such ways...she has change.....i wonder what happening to her.....she always not intrested in me anymore....maybe is my income or my apperence that she always say that i am not goodlooking anymore like before...but i fell so starnge becouse my weight havent even change...maybe i now wearing spec?????

So just few days, my gf oledi dicuss with her parents that she dont want to meet me anymore.......she say many things about me with her parents....then she act so stange lately then finally we saparated.I am so despo right now couse i am not young anymore and all my pass friends oledi getting married and even had kids....my parents always advice me to forget about her and says she is useless , and dont think of getting girls right now....i now conduct a phycology doctor and take pills every nite to calm me down

pity to you
i have many friends kena like you
at first girls normally don't mind about the income
after few years later...they (girls) start looking for the money

1 of my best friend kena something like this
his gf always compare him with other guys who are richer
and always asking for expensive stuff ..when my friend cannot give due to cannot afford
keep arguing and say my friend is a loser

Dear Ts,

I think you should focus on your career right now. I imagine that your lack of good job and lack of opportunities must be tearing your confidence down. It becomes an extra thing that your ex had to cope with.

Also, love is important but so is money. Why? Well, so you and your gf/wife will not have to argue about money all the time. Girls want financially stable men because they don't want to suffer every month from the lack of cash. They want to know that if they marry the guy, their children will not have to starve and their life will not be lacking of necessities.

Love turns sour when 1 argues too much about the same thing and money is a gigantic cause to arguments.

So for now, just work, seek opportunities and so forth. Asking a poor person to cope with being a rich guy is hard. Asking a rich person to cope with a poor partner is practically impossible. they are used to luxuries.

she made a good choice

Its not wrong for a girl to look for a more financial stable guy...
U'll just have to work harder to earn more, or find a girl that willing to stay with u although u not earning much.

Been there, done that. I know how it feels

I once had a girl who squeezed almost RM20k from me in the space of 2 months.

Ever since, when I am just getting to know someone, I'll never ever let them know how much I earn.

The problem with you is you have set your standards too high from the start, so much so that you are finding it hard to outdo yourself.