hey, dear all zhi mui...
How do you all think about the age gap between the couple?
is 20 and 30 year-old consider a big gap?
Please share with me yours opinion. cheers..^^

For me, as long as the guy is not older than me 10 years then consider ok d.
but anyhow love thing very hard to predict.
who knows maybe next time my husband elder than me 30 years?!
hahaha...

How about younger than 10 yrs?

omg! younger than me 10 years?
i dn think i can accept...
younger 5 years ok la...

If guy older than girl more... its okay~ (range 5-10yrs old)

but if guy younger than girl more... alamak.. i think i also can't accept it also acceptable range is (younger thn me range 2-3 years enuff)

i will be headache if seem bring along a little brother / look like nai ma? lolz walking outside /faint

Yes its a big gap. Everyone will be staring at you like you're some MILF hunter. (unless its the other way around)

sorry if I offended anyone here.

I'm having an affair (not too serious tho) with a 37 year old guy (married) and I'm 24 this year. So that's a pretty huge gap there. I have a boyfriend of same age. But I think I'm happier being with this (very) older guy. BUT a big no-no is he's married. We've went out for cinema once. And it feels really awkward walking in front of the crowd with someone that old compared to me. And to make it worse, I look a bit younger than my age.

My opinion is there's nothing wrong to be with someone (very) older than you. Love is blind. But if you care about people around you, a gap of 10 years is the maximum. That's why I'm staying with my bf with the same age.

One of my ex colleague his gf elder him 7 year. Both ok what. Is jus the point of view of the person. If both live happily should b ok. But this world is full of critism so if u want to choose this way u have to prepare for this and dun regret later

my sis's fren's 12 yrs elder than his husband..
happily married wiv a 3 yr old baby boy. very cute..

well but if its for me... i thats a huge gap! ~_~
i prefer guy's who are elder than me,, but my bf a yr younger haha

Attraction is not a choice, you don't choose who you like.

That being said, a big age gap is only an issue when the couple is still young. You can't expect someone in their late twenties to be going out with a teenager right? I would say if the younger party is in the mid 20s, then there shouldn't be any problems.

is okay, i understand. the guy is 30, and the girl is 20. how do you think ?

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Added on September 19, 2008, 5:53 pmi am really agree with wat you said. I am together with a guy who is 34 year-old and i'm only 20. the age-gap is similar with you, but i really love and happy to be with him even people will say there is age gap. But as long as we can communicate well, doesn't have any problem right.

This post has been edited by IqEqSeeker: Sep 19 2008, 05:53 PM

Wah, a very difficult question to answer. It really depends on feeling. However, I prefer boy older than me but not younger than me. This is because women tend to look older than their actual age. I would like to look younger during we go out.

exactly..when you are younger than your love one right, you tend to look being protected. how nice.

well i'm going to attend my secondary school classmates wedding dinner on next mth. her husband is 16 yr older than her. i just feel shocked n gv her my warmest wishes. cant comment much as this is her choice. if me i hope my husband is 1-2 yrs older than me is enough.

~I think 10-20 years.. still can tahan la... but 30.... that one kinda scary lor... like.. imagine la... you o ly 10 years old that time.. he 40 jor..T.T~

Hi , I would agree with anyone who is love with someone much older.
Me myself i first started loving my husband when i was 16yrs and he was 36. We have a 20 yrs gap. And everything was beautiful. I was married to him and had 2 beautiful sons. Then after 10 years into marriage..the age really became a big problem. When i was younger everyone told me i will have a problem,. I defy everyone and went one because love was blind. Now i regretted so much because i am still so young and my husband is much older. We dont share the same interest no more and because i still look very good, i have men going after me and i feel my marriage is rocky.

Love is blind. So, age gap does not really play big roles there.
It should be how compatibles are the two person. Which is why, sometimes you finds couples with big age gap, but they are happily married.

and marriage needs constantly to be worked on. There is nothing like 'love last forever'. Reality of life will brings the love bird down to earth. So, that's why some marriage doesn't last. Its not the problem of age. Its how matured one person looks at situation and what they did to it.

If you think your marriage is worth saving, you will no doubt do something about it.

sumtimes a guy like to be cared by other,rather than used to care another..

this is part of the reason y some guy will look for mature and older woman..

for me +-10 shdnt be any prob

cherrs =)

This post has been edited by prs: Sep 21 2008, 06:39 PM

Gurl... seriously... married for 10 years and 2 sons... that is impressive.... nevermind the age and thinking..... you'll get along if you just try to..... other guys that chase you, they only think you're hot although may have a wonderful personality to match.... and guys same age/ around your age are still rather kiddish..... love your hubby.... things may not always seem perfect... but as you grow older together with him, then you will find that it will work^^ Ganbatte!!!

The important thing is......do you still love your husband as much as you used to?

what i mean is 20 year-old and 30year-old couple..
is that big gap? erm...30 years old gap, i really a big gap ad...

This post has been edited by IqEqSeeker: Sep 22 2008, 04:05 PM

Ideal Age Gap - 4-6 years
Of cos the gal shud be younger than the guy

hey girls...
i'm 20 year-old. My bf is now 34 year-old. We love each other, and i feel very comfort when together with him. When i was talking with other guys that are similar age with me, i find that i can't communicate with them, they are rather childish or like to show off. The feeling so annoying. When i with my bf, i feel really being protected by him. I have to be more matured than the girl same age with me but i willing to change. Because i feel its worth. Pls share with me your opinion too.
CHeerss..

I think a 14-year gap is still ok. Girls tend to mature faster than guys anyway

how about im younger than you but i look older than you?

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Added on September 23, 2008, 12:12 amagree

This post has been edited by redline666: Sep 23 2008, 12:12 AM

Sorry to say if me, I wouldn't accept a big gap like 20 years. Imagine, me at 50 years old that time maybe my husband sei 9 jor.. If younger, can think think geh..

I take that as an insult.





j/k

Dun worry too much abt age gap laar ....as long as both parties are happy, is OK liao

There is nothing to worry about. When you are married...that will be the least of your worries cuz you will start to worry more on your kids and finances liao

I usually only meet guys max about five years older ... so that's my max

5years is also a big gap right?
if a girl is 22years old and the guy is only 17years old...
when they go out for date...it will looks like a sister bring the brother out...lolz...
another thing is...when the girl starts working and the guy still studying...it is another prob again...

ten years gap?for me,if the guy elder than the gal 10yrs then should be ok..but if terbalik,not so good lor..haha

yaya..even 5 years i also think not that good le...hehe...

Both happy is ok i think~ no nid to care much about age gap~
But if the woman is older jiu no tat gud woh~

10years ++ still can accept lah..

but some dont really accept that..

especialy old ppl...they will say bad things..n dont like tha guy for being so so old with their daughter..

if it is a guy older than a girl 5 years..it is accepted i think...

but how if de guy younger???haha...

i dont think it is good la..

well,my aunty is older than my uncle by at least 12 y/o... (not so sure the exact different about its bout that range la...) ...so far there isn't any problem with their marriage,they r still very much in love with each other... LoL...

it actually depends on both parties... is not always bout age gap but is bout communication n understanding...

sorry newbie here

erm...it depends on individual maybe...
some can accept it but some cant accept it...
but normally if guys older...more ppl can accept it i think...
but if it is opposite...mayb less ppl can accept it lo...
this is my opinion only la...hehe..

Agree indeed

My view:
Age isn't the barrier as long as both are comfortable and accept each other.

who cares..
some ppl with no age gap,in the end ma divorce...
so it all depend how u live with each other nia...

age should never be a factor!

old man wants to feel young

young girl wants to feel rich


ALL WIN

lol...everything possible...
have u guys ever thinks is that possible for an adolescents fall in love with those ppl who have a age gap wif them? the answer properly nope i suppose.

from my opinion they getting togather becoz of the fascinating of MONEY.

my bf is 11 years older than me..im happy being with him....coz he has planned things for future to settle down...im 24 and my bf is 35 now..

Age gap ... i think so. you won't realised the problem until you get married . sooner or later.....

for me..
age doesnt matter..
as long as the guy not younger than me..
this issue is different for everyone..
coz everyone have different point of view on the same problem...
i can accept a guy older than me any age..
no limit..
but not a guy younger than me even 1 year..

just wait until he KO, then get the $$$ and married a new hot guy.

i think personally guy can date young girls . But not as young as early 20's . they might change one day .

as the facts,if u have strong financial position
they are no age gaps within a couples

I don't know if my P.O.V is correct or not...i am talking from 3rd party view, as i never had any relationship before...just pure observation on my friends or buddies...

Young people, when they started out as a couple, they are very opimistic about the general things in life, relationship included...the phrase, "Love is blind", age gap is not important, blah-blah...

In my understanding, when a person becomes older, the phrase "love is blind" or "age gap is not important" maybe irrelevant or out of sync, because issues, like dough ($), health, topic of interest, and among others........will take its toll...

Based from my ovservations, i felt an age gap of 4 years plus or minus, should be enough and the correct range for my situation...

This is just purely my 2 cents, cheers...

This post has been edited by Kampung2005: Oct 1 2008, 03:12 AM

my wife is 15yrs my junior..i never knew that was a problem..we have been married for 8 years already..

if u feel happy together, nothing else will be matter anymore. as long as u feel comfortable, happy, safe...
though 14 years old maybe a gap but doesnt mean there is a gap in love rite?
this is what i think.
maybe u found all ur frens are showing off because u have always been with ur bf and got used to it.
so when u mix with ur fren, you will find it quite different.
they wanna show off let them ler. what so great about showing off..
care less... stay happy!!!

hmm.. from last time till now, i feel that i can't date younger guys.. cuz they also do tend to be childish .. i'm the kinda girl like to think and talk deep deep stuff so, those kinda guys are not my type.

last time, i dated this guy only 5 days younger than me.. but he's super childish.. from then on, i didnt date younger guys already.

hmm, now i actually want an older guy... i'm not even 18 yet.. but i think i dont wanna date a 20 year old or anything.. someone older? haha, like 23 or 25.

i like matured guys! his viewpoints and thinking is different compared to all the other guys i know... plus, all the married people i know say that the older the guy, the more he will sayang you! ;D

older people are also financially stable, no need to depend on their parents for allowance already. i'm also the same state - work part time so dont ask my parents for money.

i think as long as you comfortable with the age gap can ady lor.. must remember if he will mati first anot, though.. think ahead..

as for me, i will just date only older stable guys =P. or see la, if can find someone like that who's not that old =P. highly doubt so lor.

Do you have ideal age gap?

hi der..for me i can accpet but i canot do it
but
my parents is 11yr different

hi girl, will you feel sometime what you wanna do at your age, your bf will not follow and sometime not allow you to do so? example, you feel to go clubbing just like other girls do, but at ur bf age 30+, he already don't feel to get into those activity, will this case happen on you ?
my feeling is that, sometime i really hope he can go to ther place i wanna go...so on...no just follow his idea.

sometimes it does happen..he prefer to be a family man like that but i accept for who he is.. we compromise and discuss a lot. example, like when i want to go out, i will tell him that i'm going out with my girls and guys friends together...he will ask me to take care and becareful coz my friends will be fetching me.it was difficult for me at first that he said i cant do this and that, then i tell him how i feel coz i still have my freedom..then he changed to understand and compromise with me...

like i still want to play badminton and shopping with my kaki but sometimes if too often he suggested that why not he play with me and take me out shopping...so the point here is compromise with ur man..if he loves you, he will do it for you. he doesnt get into those activity doesnt mean he dont care...is just his way...understand him more....all the best

should b ok kua... my friends parents gaep are 13 years if i don rmber wrong. either 13 or 11.

those men going after u know u married ady?? so how are u and ur hubby now??

guy tend to grow matured later than gurl. but it doesnt mean they wont be matured. and kinda depending on each individual.
if u really in love with this guy. maybe u should consider discuss more with ur bf about u 2 future. when u 2 gonna marry? giv birth? u wont wanna see ur husband age 60+ still got to pok meng for ur child education payment right? kid enter college at age 18-22/24 like that. example after 2 years u 2 married. u age 22, he age 36. after 1 year giv birth and at ur kid age 18. means u are 41 and ur husband 55... 55 still got to pok meng for kid education fee. and only 1 kid u hav? oversea study? is u 2 financial stable? etc etc issue u got to consider about it. like what vnishimura said, she has a point. she experience thru it. it might be good option for u to consult her... i might be wrong for what ur current situation is as i post my opinion base on what u said. but i hope it helps u to think deeper. personally i wont say age gaep 14 years got problem or no problem. is all about how u plan for ur future. feel free ask me more if u hav any doubt.

as known by all, guy tend to grow mature later than gurl. but it really depends on each individual. not all guy grow matured later than gurl. vice versa. some girl at 20+ still dam childish from what i seen. by right guy will be quite matured at around 20++. but i've seen guy at age 27 acting just like 12 years old kid. but some guy at age 15-16 their thinking can be quite matured. surprise me too. though at the moment... hmm... havnt meet any yet. LOL.

5 days younger than u doesnt mean will be matured than u. each individual characteristic cant be judge 100% by age. u seem still pretty young. not even 18 yet. haha. im age 24. suit u. wanna know each others?


this is where good communication and tolerant between couples are needed.

Then wat about Social Status Gap :cry

Age shouldn't be a matter between couples,
i tend to like elder girls more. Girls that are at my age in college makes me feels that they are abit... childish. =\

my point of view

1. young girls wif older guys tend to get cheated. by luck u gt a gud person or someone jz taking advantage on u. frankly speaking old men tend to find younger girl jz to hv sex then leave after getting bored. after all this type is NO LOVE. but xall. some are really nice guy. depends on ur luck.

2. some young girls like to have sugardaddy. all they want is money. very significant this is NO LOVE. jz materialistic b***h. the guy get wut he wants and the gurl get money. goes on till the gurl gets older and no future.

3. now for the interesting part. some people mature faster than others. this type of people will opt for older partner. possible of TRUE LOVE. by chance they will live happily ever after. hehe

4. i do think most youngsters are this type. one who xknw wut the hell they want. this is a very serious problem. having partner jz for the sake of "xwant to be single". this type often make mistakes and end up claiming LOVE IS SUFFERING blablabla..even if they gt married they still xknw wut the hell they r doing or they r up to. give them a big HA HA HA.

well i talk so much. but i jz want to make it clear y ppl sometimes go for older partner.

LOVE IS VERY COMPLICATED. U NVR KNW WEN U GT TRUE LOVE. U NVR KNW WEN UR ABOUT TO GT CHEATED. NOT EVRYONE WILL FIND TRUE LOVE IN THEIR LIFETIME. DATS HW BIG LOVE IS

too many years old difference ? hmm i dun like it .
but maybe some ppl will like ^^

if guys older 10 years old than a woman its ok ....
but if guys young 10 years old ( even 1 or 3 years ) than woman i can`t accept err......sorry k....just my own opinion ..hehe

hihi...every zhi mui...i'm now feel so tired to maintain this 14 years old age gap love relationship...
In a relationship, it is sure to have one who are dominant, strong in decision making, and another cooperate and follow. i guess I'm the one always listen to him. we are only in the "pak to" relationship, not married for thousand years...i really think i got no wrong to ask him to accompany me to go out walk walk instead staying at home all the time. i didn't ask him to buy any expensive thing for me, even window shopping, both of us holding hand, will do. BUT, every time go out, we must end it up with argument, unreasonable matter. "you always want to go out, have you ever consider i have to work from morning until now?"
he always complain i'm not giving care, not satisfy, sometime ask me to take out a paper and write out how many things he had done it for me..i feel so terrible, is like "a bf shouldn't be like that..."
if i'm in the love relationship still everytime going out with frens but no lover, what the difference have or don't have a bf. dear all...really need your console la...sad.

This post has been edited by Penguin.23: Dec 13 2008, 10:41 AM

I dunno out others. I myself have a babyface n I have been told by da casino security guard dat I'm 19 when in fact i was 23 at dat time. Ppl use 2 tell me dat i must get a gf younger than me by at least a few years but I feel kinda weird if i were 2 date a gal who is still in high school while I'm working rite now. Weird dun u think?

i think a lot ppl suffers from love gap. The guy loves the girl but the girl don't love the guy. There's a gap between the love. And vice versa.

Hmm.. dont think age should be an issue for two people to get together. In my opinion, i think some guys prefer to have older gf, and girls prefer to have younger bf? dont you think?

Guys prefer older girls because they like them to be independent, where the girls can pay for their own things and where the girls can get things for the guys.

Girls like younger guys because they are playful and not serious all the time. Girls like to have fun and to spend time doing childish things.

Well, this is what i think..

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Added on December 17, 2008, 4:03 pmthis is normal for every couple i think. so dont worry, it is just a phase you going through. once you both start to understand each other it will be fine. try to spend some time with him at his house. you can watch a movie have a drink or just let him work while you just hang around. if you really want to go out, just go out nearby mamak and have a drink. i guess your bf likes to spend time with you too, just that he doesn't want to go out to shopping centres which some times can be troublesome to find car park and you could get caught in jams.. hope this helps!

This post has been edited by kelvinkwl: Dec 17 2008, 04:03 PM

What I did for my ex. Take her out jalan jalan, help pay some of her bills, spend time with her every weekends cos we're living far apart. Im senior to her 11 years. So she broke up with me, says that I dun care much for her...

hmm,i think age is important..i cant accept someone younger than me to be my hubby..

gap 1-3 years ok...if older than that,i cant imagine,cant even have a picture for future...

but still,depends on how u view it.get a hubby who older 1-3 years than u will be good .caz they can plan for future...secure..
most important the guys good la...else wat oso useless..

i know he would like to be with me all the time, but just dont like to go out with me, like walk walk...i means...girls..sometime do like to hang out with one they love, and i'm not asking him to buy this buy that, but just holding hands, walk aroung, thats all. but...everytime, end up with arguement....pretty sad.

age is only numbers! so who cares as long as u dont love for the money ahhaha

try to cheer up ba..mayb he lazy to walk..juz dun put those words in heart can jor.. =)