@debbieyss
ha maybe he rly nth better to do..*shrugs..seems like he gets angry when he see me sick or upset.



@evanesence117
yup maybe because im just too sad...but i tink alot ppl are sick these days so i wont let him take the credit ba..


@wInnIe
yea..im gona focus on myself and get well for now..it doesn't matter anymore i guess. im beginning to feel tt he is a selfish person, always doing things his way..so im not gona bother anymore. i'll take time to grieve if i need to. it is definitely possible to be happy, even if not now.


@DreMAx
thank you for the encouragement...yes i am starting to do things that i like - such as reading and watching movies n dramas that i never have time to watch before...


actually we broke up earlier last month..i went for a holiday to mend the broken heart, but it didn't do me any good. we kept in touch every single day up til now.

so today, i decided i wont initiate contact anymore..not a sms, not on msn..it's never been done before even when we are apart, so it's gona be tough but i'm gona try..how long it last i duno..maybe if i am successful today then maybe the coming days wont be so hard anymore.
it's supposed to be our 31 month anniversary today. hehz.

well, thanks for all the encouragement guys. it definitely makes me feel less alone in dealing with this. being sick isn't making this any easier, but i'm determined to pull this through. *wipe nose

Good to hear that from you. Cry no more because I am sure you have cried more than enough. Don't be like me cried almost every other night for close to 2 months.

I think for you (and likewise for me) it's just better (I would say, maybe not to others) is just keep some distance away from him for the time being until you are really ready to have a normal conversation with him. Even for me, I don't initiate a conversation through MSN, FB, text messages, emails can calls with her anymore since the day she left me. Only you, yourself will know when you are ready to have a conversation again with him. Just some casual chat.

I am very sure, if you have the determination to make a change, pick those broken pieces up again, walk and stand tall, you will be able to go through it. Although there are times, you will break down and feel sad about things, don't worry; it's just part and parcel of what you are supposed to go through in order to move on. Also be sure to promise yourself not to do stupid stuff (if you know what I mean).

Look forward to a new day everyday without him (although it's easier said than done, I did it so could you ) and start a new day with a brand new hope and goal in mind.

Good girl! Thumbs up for you! I am sure you can make it through.

We are girls who can depending on ourselves for our life, just a guy, he makes no harm towards you if he doesn't know how to appreciate you. But I don't ask you to hate anyone. Just be happy.

Now, following me and sing.... I am happy, happy as a lark!!!! I believe, I believe I can fly!!!!


My dear, give you an advice, if you find your fingers are itchy and want to contact him, just go get something to do for your fingers. It happened to me, when I felt like to open his pages and check out about him, I insisted myself to cook. So at the end I just cook and cook, forget about him. It took me like a year to pass that day. After that, it was so easy to be like this, I don't give a damn about him if he is there or not. (Yet now he is the one who has the itchy hand )

@DreMAx
i still cry but it's ok

@wInnIe
i dun like cooking but i'll try a similar method..


day 1 is a success, even if i barely slept n kept checking my fone...but no contact, so it's a success no?

have a good day everyone

This post has been edited by Lost~*: Jan 21 2010, 09:26 AM

every little bit of success counts. its a small step towards ur objective. i've experienced that before. withdrawal symptoms on her. its hard not to contact her like everyday. everytime i tell myself that i wont contact her for today, mana tau the next minute i'll be sending her a text already. but it gets better as time goes. sending her less and less text. i'm moving on.

After a while those tears of sadness will stop rolling I mean it does feels a lot better after crying out all the unhappiness. Take it easy alright?

A small step at a time that's what they always say. Even a small difference means a lot to someone like us.

As for me, I have totally stop all forms of contact with her, and I only talk when she strikes a conversation with me which is rarely she does.

It's alright. That was just my suggestion. Just do whatever you like to do.

That's very good. I was like that too! So soon you can just forget if he is in your contact list.
Let's give yourself a big clap

Good topic..free bumping. ;p

hello people.

it seems alil bit better but i still yearn to talk to him.
just as a friend though.

hope i'll be strong enough to get through this.

have a good day evryone.

Wish you all the best!

If your conversations ends up as an argument, you should talk less to him though. Stay strong and you will get through it easily.

thank you.
i guess that's the right thing to do.
there's only so much a heart can take i guess.

Hello Lost,

It's good to hear from you about it. You are strong to get through this, trust me!
All the best to you!

My pleasure. If you feel like you need a break or anything. Do get yourself some exercise. Say swimming for example or jogging. Maybe even dancing if you want to. At least it keeps your head up rather than your down and thinking of the unnecessary.

Take care though. Don't get so upset till you start doing unnecessary things too.

This post has been edited by DreMAx: Jan 25 2010, 02:45 PM

Dremax, how are you doing there? I am so happy to see Lost is doing better now. It has been a while to hear from you.

Keep it up everyone, I am sure we deserve to be happy, no one is going to spoil our mood and life just because that person doesn't know how to appreciate us.

I am doing alright I guess (stressed up)? Been kinda busy lately with all my studies that's why I wasn't around here for a while.

What about you? How are you going with getting over? I hope you are alright and of course I equally feel glad that this thread together with all here who has posted up help Lost~*

Should we all here meet up to talk about current issues at the same time have a drink?

I think, my getting over was very fast and as well short period. I very happy with my life now and everyone says I'm getting prettier and happier. So, I think that's something good for me. Furthermore my career is on the right track, I'm doing quite well with it. Overall, I give myself an A for current condition. Leaving myself some room to improve to get the 100%

I met him last night and he was very shock through his expression. I think he was shock with my appearance that I've changed, and also my expressions. At first I thought he said he couldn't make it but at the end he came. Throughout the whole session, he was keeping an eye on me but I didn't give a damn about it. I can see now he is developing some interest in me again after our few months break up. Anyhow, that's sad to say, nothing to do with me anymore!

I think girls, we should love ourselves more. Sometimes those guys are like that, when they lost it, only they will start to feel the pain and that's too late. Lost, I'm sure you will be very great soon, perhaps, much better than I do.

Dremax, it is not a bad idea to come out for a drink and talk about the current issues, let us all share and help each other. I don't mind people to say I'm the cold blooded one because once I decided to let go, I do let it go and I don't feel the pain of it anymore. I went to the places where we used to go, but I just don't have that kind of feel anymore but to enjoy myself as much as possible.

i am here.. *forcing a smile* ..

Slushie, smile for yourself, smile when you feel like it. Do not force yourself to smile. If you are here, I have two arms open wide to give you a warm hug, I hope you can feel some warm for your broken heart. Remember, it's your heart, take care of it. No one else will bother about it.

omg you Malays haven't actually discovered the magic of....... PIE !!
yes people pie is the ultimate medicine to get over your recent break up..
but unfortunately Malaysia doesn't sell good pie... anywhere at all !!!
Thx najib for not improving the malay pie industry !!!!!

Know where to find good pie ?? pm me plz !!!!!!!!!!

Great to hear that good news from you! I feel happy for you.

Actually not all guys are like that. A living example is me Some guys tend to be more sensitive about all this relationship issues and I know for myself I am one of them. Guys generally look cool and macho on the outside but, more often than not, they actually have a very soft side and when they are heartbroken, it's really really for real. The feelings in a guy like myself is more fragile than girls at times.

Oh well forget about it since it's been long and over. The damage has been done and the repair work will take sometime. I am still working things out for myself and yes, it's going well so far.

Speaking of which, talking about a meet up for people in here, this thread especially would do good for those who just joined in. At least a face to face talk between all of us could bring even more impact and help to the others.

When you fake a smile, most people think you're alright. The ones you are close with will know that deep down there is something just now right.