i'm in despress..i am broken heart n it's too hurtfull for me
itry to forget my ex as he dump me! ..even now i had a new bf..but still i love more my ex..i know its not good to love two person but the truth,i only love my ex!n for my bf now i dunno.. ..i'll do explain to him how i feel but still he waant me..n i feel guilty for him coz my heart still belong my ex..what should i do?? as my ex,we been together for 5 years..n its hard to forget him!i truely love him..n i'll try to kill myself before after we breakup.. ..it's too hard to take n till now i suffer becoz i couldn't forget him..

had a co-worker had the same problem... cried for 3 weeks almost everyday at work. Cannot produce my cheques on time, called up by the boss, went on EL (emergency leave), than annual leave, everyone tried to talk to her but she just shut down and shut out everyone.

2 mths later she's bubbly and jumping around back to life as usual.

I guess u just need more time to get over it, u need to speak to ur bf abt this problem and hopefully he will give u all the support u need to get through hard time like this.

No worries u will get over him

uh..actually its been nearly 5 months..n i still can't get over it.. ..i do talks with my bf all about it..even he listen n support me n try to make me feel better,still its doesn't work to me.. sometimes when i'm alone i will cry out..n i wil think my ex..i will ask myself..what did i done?what my mistake?what that never good bout myself that he leave me?does my love n everyting i done for him not enought??

Well u can try and occupy urself with something?

Try and do something that is not your routine... cause sometimes long relationships are like ciggarettes...
For me I just get addicted to it, feeling a bit tense I smoke, or if I am in a specific location (a usual place where I smoke) I will take out a stick and smoke.

I try to stop smoking by smoking different brands of Ciggarettes to discourage myself or change environment or work non stop at work so i dont keep thinking of smoking...

Its the same concept with relationships..

If ur Ex use to kiss ur cheek on the left, u kiss ur current on the lips
or a place that u use to hang out wif ur ex, go to some other places...
don't do things, go places that give u back memorable memories of your Ex.

If u need time to grieve do it, cry as much as u can, cry ur heart out if u must... take ur time doing it ... or go on top of a hill and shout your guts out.

things that i use to do??well many n i try much to do something else but not working..places..well i live in kl n all the place around kl,sunway..i use to go with my ex..n now my bf bring me to damansara area..but..i dunno..its feel the same..i already cry out n now i can't even cry anymore..it's difficut to say..tq for ur advice..really appriciate it..

haha... np, now going to office to be screwed by boss and work my guts out.

you take care!

things that i use to do??well many n i try much to do something else but not working..places..well i live in kl n all the place around kl,sunway..i use to go with my ex..n now my bf bring me to damansara area..but..i dunno..its feel the same..i already cry out n now i can't even cry anymore..it's difficut to say..tq for ur advice..really appriciate it..

Try forget ur ex. He dump u means he no longer love u. It is not that u both breakup for same reason. It was he dump u. Usually when a guy dump a girl means he no longer love the girl or he likes another girl.

Very hard to find a guy who can care about u and listen to u talking about ur ex. Do appriciate current bf.

try to get urself bz e.g. do charity lor.... or find new friends like us here.... i'm damn bz for the week and i still have 1 assignment to pass up tomorrow... gf sick.... and ton of work to be done...

This post has been edited by Pucca: Apr 14 2008, 07:46 AM

if you keep reminding yourself about him, then you'll never get over it..
or probably u'll take a very long time to do so..

i'm wondering.. if you still love ur ex so much why did you get urself into another relationship in such a short time?
it's unfair to your bf and also yourself.

help yourself, and start treasuring/enjoying ur new relationship, stop thinking about the past

best way to forget sumthing hurtfull is to take up new things....
my friend cured his broken heart by playing world of warcraft.....not saying you should try that but if you try doing something new im shure you can forget him faster with less tears well good luck...

Why girls like to stick to bad guys wan

Not tat girls like to stick to bad guys but most of the guys is bad and dunno to appreciate their gf and thing around them..


Dear TS,

Keep all the items that he brought for u and delete all the SMS/msg he sent u... try to clear as much as u can.. n move up as much as u can.. b fair to ur current bf.. i believe tat he's a good guy.. at least for now, when u need someone beside u he is there for u always..

Yalo, I agree he might be a good guy. C'mon, a guy can listen to u talking bout ur ex. Either that guy is too kind or that guy is dumb. Sure will get jealous in this case.

Ur ex dump u!! He's bad guy. Forget him, he not worth for u to cry and think of. He is world /b/astard. Think this way maybe u can forget him.

that's why i stick to you...


quoted for truth.

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hey babysweet,

you know why so hard to forget your ex? because even your current bf reminds you of your ex.

you need to separate yourself from both guys. tell your current bf it's not fair like this, and you need time to think (6 months). in the beginning the 6 months will be very suffering, keep thinking of your ex, and keep feeling lonely because you have no present bf to teman you. 6 months later, if you still want your current bf, then can happily continue.

love hurts lor. but this is the best way to move forward. *hug* if you got problem then just spam lyn, we will support you

TS!

Your problem is a normal too all nowadays ppl. In short, no one here in this tread can help you.
The only solution is "YOU". What are you trying to gain from the ppl in this tread??Mayb u think of wana share your thought & sadness here but i guarantee no one here be able to help you. The ppl here cant control your mind & brain, everything is yours.

Let say, ppl here ask you to move on, let go him. Can you do it? The answer is NO!
If the ppl here ask you to forget him? Can you do it? The answer is NO!!!...Btw, remember u will never can forget a partner or a person, is whether u can "Let go or down" the partner of person. If u can forget a person, unless u became insane or loss memory.

My last advise to you is these are the roads & process for avery human require or will go through in their LIFE.....So with this process, it will bring you to a certain maturity level in your life. Learn to let go!!!!!Times will bring you there!!!

The solution starts from "YOU"...Good Luck

Yeah.. Just tell yourself to forget him. and be firm to urself. i'm trying to forget mine gak. i'm just telling/forcing myself to forget him. cry when i need to, but don't spend more than an average of half an hour everyday!! it's gotten less now, and hopefully he will be gone from my mind before I find another guy to replace him!!

maybe, just maybe, u rushed into the new relationship? i mean, did u give urself time to stay single and think of urself before going into the current one? i reckon that u need some time being single, enjoy flirting around and then start on something serious again..

but stay strong!!! the guy doesn't deserve someone like u to remember that he exists in this world!!!

Eh wai- I'm that bad meh?

Yes yes! If someone doesn't even know how to appreciate you, why waste your precious time on it?

Low self confidence in finding another partner is the key factor.

well, lets see this helps...

I was one like you... dump by someone who no longer love me...
it took me 3 years for full recovery, and now i am still so much alive and happy...

one thing i found out was, the main thing why we cant forget the ex who dumpe us is because we dont have a single idea why he did it that way, even though we have tried our best effort...

sometimes it is not that we still love him... sometimes it is the reason we cannot reason out that make us cannot move on. you have few options to forget him:

i. try to tell yourself he is no longer worth your love... what for love for someone who dont love u anymore?
ii. convince yourself you are not the reason of the breakup, he wanted it because he has his issues... not you...
iii. you can cry anytime you want... letting it out is the best way to forget an idiot *opps*

try to commit yourself to your wonderfully understanding boyfriend now... from the way your mentioned, he is much better and there for you...