u already know the answer

"is this kind of guy husband-to-be?"

when u start a realationship, to have it a serious one, think of marrige in it, means imagining him being ur husband. but if u imagine him being ur husband happily, then u have move one step towards a better relationship.

but if u can imagine him as ur husband, wats the purpose of persuing this relationship?? his not responsible, and immature, is this wat u expect for ur marrige?? and its about time u break and find a new one.

its hard but hey, not everbody meet their mr.right in first few tries right???

he seems to be childish. he need more experience to be a better guy

seems someone that i knoe have the same story as u

This is going to sound harsh but your bf sounds like a grade A loser. I've met countless women that have seemingly fallen in love with similar grade of men and it's beyond logic why they so into them. One way of looking at it is he's really insecure because of his current financial standing. When a man feels he cannot provide for his woman, it affects his pride. He feels useless and therefore sees a potential threat in every other man who is financially stable and able to provide his woman with a sense of security. Another way of looking at it is he's just a 'jerk' as your friends say he is, in which case you'll be better off without him and happier in the long run.

Hey TS,

This guy is not for you. It's time for you to think hard for your future since u brought up the thought of whether he is husband-to-be of yours next time. Compromise is the key to a healthy relationship, but seems like it's been a one way traffic in most situations as you described above.

It's undeniably sweet, the occasion where you both celebrated your valentine's. It should be assessed that these occasion only comes on special days. However, you shall consider how you would spend the day-to-day chores in the future where you plan to start a family with him. Could you stand his possessive and iron-fisted attitude for the rest of your life?

I don't proclaim myself to understand women enough to satisfy them but the point in a relationship is, no matter you're a man or women, you should find someone who could satisfy your needs physically, mentally or spiritually to make that relationship lasting and balanced.

-Beauty and the Beast is just a fantasy-

U call urself a beauty, and ur BF is a beast.....

err i only can see bad point more than good point.....hmmm

human is hard to understand
hope eventhough disappointed,
believe eventhough betrayed,
still love eventhough its hurt.
-thanks-

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Added on December 9, 2007, 2:50 amearly..coz i sleep late
its was friday night,i post this after finish my assignment..
=) thanks for reading

This post has been edited by forever21: Dec 9 2007, 02:50 AM

ur bf is the beauty u r the beasT?

i never look down at him.i know the problem that he is facing,so i try my best to help him.
he said sometime he felt very shame to see his parents,for causing them problem for own stupid action,
i understand how he feels,thats y i always be with him whenever he needs me.to give him a listening ears. *actions speak louder than words*
i have talk to him,assured him that he is the only guy in my heart.
maybe he think too much,till i can't understand what he want sometimes..
-anyway,thanks for ur post-

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Added on December 9, 2007, 3:34 amyea,its rude to delete ppl friends contact number..who like this?
that time i was so angry,then i scolded him
come on,i need my friends!they are important for me!
maybe that time i was too angry,so i said friends are my priority.he comes 2nd.
n he keeps this word till today...*he should know the fact he is the one my priority as i gave him the best things i could*
-thanks-



This post has been edited by forever21: Dec 9 2007, 03:34 AM

i used to be like that

yeap,i will..
i love him,thats y i can see the beautiful things inside him
eventhough sometimes he hurts my heart,but i din hate him
-anyway,thanks for ur post..i like your words-

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Added on December 9, 2007, 3:44 amwow,he has a bro now.haha..
so,how r u now?have u change?
-thanks-
=) have a nice day

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Added on December 9, 2007, 3:49 amwow..sounds like a good counsellor.. *2 thumbs up*
anyway,i dun scare him,sometimes when i am too angry i will be a tiger bite him back.
alrite,keep updates..
-thanks-

This post has been edited by forever21: Dec 9 2007, 03:49 AM

i'm not sure i get insecure easily but i am not so extreme like your ex la i just dont like her seeing other guys only

This post has been edited by choyster: Dec 9 2007, 03:52 AM

sometime in life we din get thing the way we wanted,
but we gain extra knowledge others always wanted..
-thanks-

This post has been edited by forever21: Dec 9 2007, 04:03 AM

But TS's bf is going one step too much, deleting your friends contact is really rude IMHO.

Like someone suggested, you wanna gv him a taste of his own medicine?

Thing is people have to learn from mistakes. It's not the matter of how bad the mistake is but you gotta learn from it. It doesn't seems to me your bf is 'learning' the right things.

if i dont like my ex contact with the other guy i just tell her how i feel

he is my bf,not ex
not so extreme,u r better..hehe
guys are like this.they can see girls,but their girl cannot see guys.. *sweat*
when other guys c their girl,they like wanna dig ppl's eyes out.. haha

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Added on December 9, 2007, 4:05 amya,u r rite.gonna catch up..
-thanks-

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Added on December 9, 2007, 4:09 ami am impressed to read ur post,sounds professional.
keep updates
thanks alot..

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Added on December 9, 2007, 4:19 amarr?accept his bad??
i dun expect him to change from bad -> best..at least good is edi enuff for me
yea,u r rite.if being too good for someone,will make the person depends much on you.once u r disappeared,the person will be in mess.
-thanks-

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Added on December 9, 2007, 4:23 amooo,really..
i would like to know her,share story *smile*
-have a nice day-

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Added on December 9, 2007, 4:36 amthanks,i like your post..
yea,there is once when i read magazine.. i said nowaday more gals prefer to marry older guy,
then he said those gals marry older guy coz of money..
sounds jealous edi..n he ask ' r u interested to be 1 of the gal oso?if u love money,u should go for older guys oso..then u will leave me this poor guy'

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Added on December 9, 2007, 4:55 amhusband-to-be..i ask this question coz i wanna know which type of guy r people gonna labelled as 'husband-to-be'
of course i dun wanna get marry so fast..marriage is juz once in a life time,it determines how good/average/bad for the rest of a gal's life
sometimes i am wondering how is others gal's bf..how r they behaving..
-thanks for ur thoughts,its great-

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Added on December 9, 2007, 5:03 amjuz a thread title..
i am not perfect,so i am not qualified to call ppl beast
=) thanks

This post has been edited by forever21: Dec 9 2007, 05:03 AM

Ah wow, looking at your story, it seems pretty clear in your heart what you wanted from your your relationship already, though you might not notice it.

If you don't mind, a little advice:

Sometimes its not easy to understand what the other is going through which might lead to them treating thy badly ie. in your case the jealousy and other bad treatments. Possibly he might be under pressure from having to pay back his father (although theres much to blame on his friend who ran away from him). So, in that short period of time, was betrayed by a friend and got hounded by a father (probably is pretty strict and meneacing would be how I would imagine). I'd guess that the only thing left meaningful to him would be his loved one - you, the gf. And in some fear of losing you, the jealousy erupts.

I'd suggest to see if my theory backs-up by looking to see if it fits to your story. Like say this jealousy/bad treatment thing happened prior to his friend's betrayal and such.

Arguments sometimes help to fuel a good relationship, but it only works when the couple work them out in a proper way. If its non-stop arguments without anything being solved, then the relationship isn't really getting anywhere either.

You did mention that you are good looking, smart and I'd guess, popular too. That would make him feel a little insecure, well, who wouldn't really? However, his actions are a little overboard to the extreme. But thats where trust building comes in. A relationship without trust usually don't work out.

It seems that you truly love this guy, compromising much and would go so far to an open forum to let out the burden.

From what you like of him (mind you I can only judge from what you have written) he seems to be quite good with charming the hearts. I hope this isn't blinding you in seeing a real him. Again, I don't know this guy, I can only judge from what I have read.

I suggest you sit down and talk to him seriously about the relationship, I believe it could go far if the hearts are set right. But a loved one shouldn't be hurting the other and should be considering the other's feelings. If he can't do that, I really suggest(im saying this word a little too much ) splitting roads. Saying "you go die" is really really harsh. You have mentioned a number of things you compromised with, perhaps thinking of the things he has compromised for you too, would help.

But that is my brand of love, if one cannot provide the care and love for the other, then there is no point being together any longer. Trust and compromises should go both ways. However, its still up to yourself to decide what you want, its clear that you are suffering but is it clear to him? Is he making an effort to make you happy? You are trying to make him happy by compromising.

Its going to be hard and whatever decisions you might choose upon will probably be hard, but stand hard and headstrong and anyone can make it out.

Hope this helps, good luck and all the best!

edit: forgot to mention that you need to stand ground on your beliefs and happiness. Let him know how you feel, don't let one bully you/take advantage either. You mentioned a lot of your compromises but not really much of his, or is he not really compromising at all? Everyone is capable of changing, so don't lose hope on everything either, he could change for the better.

This post has been edited by vermins: Dec 9 2007, 05:23 AM

hi vermins,
i would like to thanks u from the bottom of my heart
thanks for ur effort n precious time,i appreciate it alot n will keep full of it in my heart .
u r such a great ,nice & understanding person
i would like to have a friend like you
=) God bless you

u probably have your own decision .. the onli thing is u not dare to go for it..