Ah wow, looking at your story, it seems pretty clear in your heart what you wanted from your your relationship already, though you might not notice it.

If you don't mind, a little advice:

Sometimes its not easy to understand what the other is going through which might lead to them treating thy badly ie. in your case the jealousy and other bad treatments. Possibly he might be under pressure from having to pay back his father (although theres much to blame on his friend who ran away from him). So, in that short period of time, was betrayed by a friend and got hounded by a father (probably is pretty strict and meneacing would be how I would imagine). I'd guess that the only thing left meaningful to him would be his loved one - you, the gf. And in some fear of losing you, the jealousy erupts.

I'd suggest to see if my theory backs-up by looking to see if it fits to your story. Like say this jealousy/bad treatment thing happened prior to his friend's betrayal and such.

Arguments sometimes help to fuel a good relationship, but it only works when the couple work them out in a proper way. If its non-stop arguments without anything being solved, then the relationship isn't really getting anywhere either.

You did mention that you are good looking, smart and I'd guess, popular too. That would make him feel a little insecure, well, who wouldn't really? However, his actions are a little overboard to the extreme. But thats where trust building comes in. A relationship without trust usually don't work out.

It seems that you truly love this guy, compromising much and would go so far to an open forum to let out the burden.

From what you like of him (mind you I can only judge from what you have written) he seems to be quite good with charming the hearts. I hope this isn't blinding you in seeing a real him. Again, I don't know this guy, I can only judge from what I have read.

I suggest you sit down and talk to him seriously about the relationship, I believe it could go far if the hearts are set right. But a loved one shouldn't be hurting the other and should be considering the other's feelings. If he can't do that, I really suggest(im saying this word a little too much ) splitting roads. Saying "you go die" is really really harsh. You have mentioned a number of things you compromised with, perhaps thinking of the things he has compromised for you too, would help.

But that is my brand of love, if one cannot provide the care and love for the other, then there is no point being together any longer. Trust and compromises should go both ways. However, its still up to yourself to decide what you want, its clear that you are suffering but is it clear to him? Is he making an effort to make you happy? You are trying to make him happy by compromising.

Its going to be hard and whatever decisions you might choose upon will probably be hard, but stand hard and headstrong and anyone can make it out.

Hope this helps, good luck and all the best!

edit: forgot to mention that you need to stand ground on your beliefs and happiness. Let him know how you feel, don't let one bully you/take advantage either. You mentioned a lot of your compromises but not really much of his, or is he not really compromising at all? Everyone is capable of changing, so don't lose hope on everything either, he could change for the better.

This post has been edited by vermins: Dec 9 2007, 05:23 AM

To be frank, your relationship really has came to a point where it really does need some work.

In general, I think its okay if people keep in touch with their exs. Afterall, they had something in common through out their relationship. As long as they keep it in a non-intimate way. I wouldn't accept the language used by your bf however. It really does seem out of hand and fishy.

But, I have already said my advice on the previous post and I hope they were helpful in any way. One still can be of support though, as I feel you still want to have your relationship be able to work out, or you wouldn't be here and would have broken up already.

All the best!