Hello Cupid Corner


I've recently matched a lady from CMB. We been hanging out for almost 4 times total in almost 1 month. She's been almost constantly texting me or sharing her daily activities to me. I can tell she like me. Even voice text me she missed me, what am i doing etc.


on our 3rd date, i went to her place she is renting, i did put my hand over her shoulder, she did lean over me, i also admit I hamsap kiss her a lot even to her mouth. But we didn't have sex.


The question is after 4th date, I am not sure maybe I never had a relationship before , I keep asking myself why am i not so interested compare to the 3rd date, could it be her hair style or attire??


She almost dying wanted to meet me every week. So may i ask has anyone of you dude encouter this kind of thingy before? Or I been single for too long ?


She is normal lady with around my age 30. Does she seems desperate to you guys?


She did mentioned ready to come my place meeting my family liao. I was thinking we are not even 3 months yet. Too fast??



How did you all progress with your girl friend??

if u r not interested, just end it asap.

dont give her hope or drag her on longer just because you want a companionship.

Because you hamsap kiss her on 3rd date. And u two keep chit chating so much until u know everything about her so it's boring. Relationships after some time is like that. It turns into commitment and responsibilities. Just that you are feeling it faster than others.

My relationship (about a year ago) was similar. Got into a relationship abit too fast for my own pace. Within 2 weeks. (but please remember different people different pace. Some people 2 weeks is just fine, some considered too slow, and some think is too fast).

But regardless of how fast/slow you got together, I believe that if you really really like her, it doesn't matter. Simple as that. If you really really like someone, you wouldn't be second guessing yourself, and you don't have to think of a reason like her. You will just naturally like her, and all the bad reasons in the world wouldn't stop you from liking her especially after a few dates.

My last relationship was like yours, got together within weeks, but everyday I would ask myself why do I not behave and treat her like how I used to in my previous relationship? Why do I not have the same urge as before to meet up with her everyday or every week, and text her constantly. In fact at times, I don't feel like seeing her and this was only the first 2 months. I feel like I am forcing myself to do things that is expected of what a bf would do, not because I want to do it willingly. Naturally, it ended six months later.

If you plan on continuing with her in the next few weeks. I'd suggest that you be honest with her. Tell her that you're still unsure about the relationship and you would like more time to get to know her before you commit. Sex? I'm old school, if you're not into her, then don't do it until you've found your reason to to commit, unless she doesn't mind that you may not continue with the relationship later on after sex.

No wrong or right here pal. Just decisions you have to make yourself.

she just wants to commit into it and get married soon...quite standard at this age. not ready then just let her know

why?

because not pretty?

if she looks like Zhang Ziyi, sure u will still be interested right

Maybe you like the chase. So once you get it you feel bored.

Very rare I would agree with you. But this is one of the time

Do you see yourself being long term with her? May be common values/interest? If yes, may be another few dates to evaluate but attire/hairstyle can change, it's a small thing.

The hamsap kiss could have sped things up to meet the family but communicate with her if you're not comfortable.

This post has been edited by silverwave: May 15 2025, 10:59 PM

True. TS make sure you like her too. Dont be like me, with a women just because she crazy about me. You will feel the clingness annoying later on. Make sure she the one you can click on

This post has been edited by kesvani: May 15 2025, 11:27 PM

Chemistry not there for u.

If got, sure by 4th date sudah want to piap.

too fast
too easy
make you not so interested or

if she play hard to get abit, you need put in more effort then you will feel more excitement

Bro, you are genius!

Too much hypocrite!

101% she is not beautiful!

already dapat, no excitement anymore.. ask her to create some resistant to you to reignite the fiyaaa

To all male,

If you go into relationship / married because of intercourse, 101% BIG NO!

As your partner 101% getting old n ugly. Its bitter but fact.

TS, speak the truth of yourself. She is just not attractive. That's all you going to tell us here.

She passed my minimum standard. So I'm thinking let's do few more dates and see how it goes

Are u looking for GF? Companionship? Wifu material? soulmate?

Maybe set your expectation first

sounds like she is not attractive to you.

not sure you are exaggerate, "dying" to meet you sounds like you are annoyed to it already... somemore post here in cupid corner. means you hesitate your current relationship. at times you need to know what you want in your life. if you can't tolerate a magnet gf... then you have to think twice.

imagine last time my ex-gf (who is my current waifu) everyday also meet. everyday same questions... you can say worst than magnet. for 12 years we parktor, living together for 3 years before we marry.