Hello Cupid Corner


I've recently matched a lady from CMB. We been hanging out for almost 4 times total in almost 1 month. She's been almost constantly texting me or sharing her daily activities to me. I can tell she like me. Even voice text me she missed me, what am i doing etc.


on our 3rd date, i went to her place she is renting, i did put my hand over her shoulder, she did lean over me, i also admit I hamsap kiss her a lot even to her mouth. But we didn't have sex.


The question is after 4th date, I am not sure maybe I never had a relationship before , I keep asking myself why am i not so interested compare to the 3rd date, could it be her hair style or attire??


She almost dying wanted to meet me every week. So may i ask has anyone of you dude encouter this kind of thingy before? Or I been single for too long ?


She is normal lady with around my age 30. Does she seems desperate to you guys?


She did mentioned ready to come my place meeting my family liao. I was thinking we are not even 3 months yet. Too fast??



How did you all progress with your girl friend??

She passed my minimum standard. So I'm thinking let's do few more dates and see how it goes

Somehow always hinted future husband etc. Too desperate??

Yep coming this friday. But also doing self reflection these few days. Whether i should continue or cut off

Passing my minimum standard appearance. A bit of Chubby that's it


Overall character itself everything is good

Normal la, I don't overly invest also. Fine dinning is big nono for me

Already did, in a clear and direct but kind way. Hurts her also pains me.

But this the only way, I have to be honest with myself.

Very common in dating market, some matched i like her but she rejected me. Sometimes for this my case I'm sorry


You too always focus yourself as priority , fitness, intellectual, finance ,friends, family.


Hope you you too get your dream guy soon

can relate , but somehow if you are seeing that guy, you will be glad to see him most the time. And you won't feel tired, for my case , I was meeting her once per week. but then honest with myself actually deep in my heart i don't wanna seeing her. I push myself up to 7th dates, only decided to tell her.

Actually my case :I was not really honest with myself. After 1st -2nd date, I never reflect myself asking myself what things like about her. Then she is very forward of meeting me again next week. So i was like let's give it try 1 more, and then 1 more, and then 1 more. After 3rd date, i find it myself , why am i not so attracted her ? is it this is what dating feels like?, even everything was right. Deep down i was not physically attractive to her, so technically after 3rd date, every dates i show up is just to show face (like working). That explains.


in term of boredom is still fine, we both enjoy watching netflix and eat dinner together. Conversation is still fine with us.

This post has been edited by Mr.Ballz: Jun 2 2025, 01:02 AM

Such experience is part of our lives

If you weren't interested why you didn't say so? same like me?? lied to yourself all the time?

Sifu !! She is not obese, erm maybe just little meaty on the face & arms that's it. Her ass, leg, waist are still fine. Definitely not plus size. Besides that no other red flags, good personality, good education, good manner, hold good postion in her career as well. Willing to make our dates good easy for me.

just a bit chubby on face and arms that's it