Do you see yourself being long term with her? May be common values/interest? If yes, may be another few dates to evaluate but attire/hairstyle can change, it's a small thing.

The hamsap kiss could have sped things up to meet the family but communicate with her if you're not comfortable.

This post has been edited by silverwave: May 15 2025, 10:59 PM

Since chubbiness was the only issue, did you invite her to workout together or have a healthy lifestyle to be better? If she is willing to improve herself and many values are aligned, could still give it a chance.

I was in the same situation like you before, a chubby girl and i wasn't really attracted to her physically plus there were more red flags. She ended it after the 7th date (which i think i should have done earlier by the 4th date).

I was 50-50 after the first date but then she asked for a second date. I was looking at overall aspects of her like attitude, values (besides physical attraction) and also hoping that one day, she will improve herself (like working out and being fit). However, she turned out to be more defensive along the way and of course some other red flags, which i could not accept.