OK, I have a few mind boggling questions to ask regarding women / female etc.

1. Is it true that females normally see attraction as like the initial impression? Like if a lady / girl / woman sees a guy on the first look will determine if she is / will be interested with the guy? And is it true that if the female doesn't seem attracted in the beginning, no matter what the guy does at the end, it doesn't change much?

2. How do we know what a girl really mean when they say something. Like when a girl tells you she just want to be friends, there could be 2 directions here:
i) she feels she needs to know the guy more so she keeping the guy in check (some people told me but I am not sure)
ii) she really just sees the guy as a friend, nothing more

3. When you as a guy feels attraction and like really feel there's a connection but the girl is acting differently, is it you as a guy who thought too much? Cause I realise on my end, when i feel there's a connection, the girl will suddenly act not interested. What is this phenomena?

1. If a woman sees you as an ATM, other attributes dont matter. It may change but why would you want to change a customer that doesnt need your service at first place?

2. If she says she just wants to be friends, you likely put too much pressure on her. Its less likely for her if she's attracted to you as she will be highly alert whether other girls are aiming at you

3. When you feel there's a connection you're likely to amplifying your own feeling as it may not be an objective reality, doesnt necessarily mean she has to obey your wishes. You're not a baby anymore, the world doesnt feed you exactly what you wanted when you're crying. Also, you likely to trigger her defense mechanism when you get close to her, it could be the way she's raised up when she's encountering an interest from another party.

This post has been edited by -mystery-: Dec 16 2024, 10:30 AM

First impressions are important, but doesn't mean feelings cannot grow over time...

It's very simple to know if the other party is interested..just try to engage activities where there's only both of you...if there is interest, she will be willing...if no, that's when the whole village comes with her

Well some people said that this could also be she just layan? I really dunno how to differentiate. Some girls I know of last time tell me that got guys ask them out one on one but she will just go to layan, not like she is any bit interested. Not sure if she was lieing about it.

How many times can "just layan"? Also, asking out doesn't mean you have to pay all the time...this is even a better indicator

Some ppl they feel they bored they go out. There was one of those girls I knew, she got a bf who is steady, always working but according to her, relationship is stable and good, always go out with different "guy friends" coz they ajak her. Sometimes she even pay for herself, she said she just bored and want to like go places with someone.

Though a chic like that is literally red flag.

red flag, and then?
what do you want out of it

1. True to a certain extent. I think there is a subjective minimum standard. If u are below that standard you are an eeew no way. Above that standard you have a chance.

2. Girl actions matter much more than whatever she says.

3. Dont overthink. Sex is the determinant. If u dont get sex, assume you have nothing.


This post has been edited by Cubalagi: Dec 17 2024, 06:49 PM

1. There are certain common universal attributes in men that women adore. - Money, having resources, confidence, leadership, taking initiative, romantic.

if you don't have any one of those attributes, you are just wasting your time.

2. Through experience, what women actually do and what they say always don't aligned. Because they are emotionally driven, they can be quite fickle-minded and they take actions based on their emotion for that one particular moment.

3. What is no 3 question about??


This post has been edited by Blofeld: Dec 18 2024, 01:05 AM

1st impression matters, but like anything it can change.

You could have a good 1st impression, then later give her the ick and she become dryer than a desert.

You could give a lukewarm 1st impression, but in later interaction do something she finds attractive and wet like niagara falls.

Nothing is set in stone, even in marriage it takes effort to remain attracted to each other. So get rid of this binary mindset of yours.


She say you're friend, you're friend la. Don't think so much, accept it and move on. Its a sure-win scenario. Thinking other than that puts you in a 90% losing scenario.

Its called syok sendiri

Bro, you just need superpower (钞能力).

Anything in life, come to the end is about superpower (钞能力). We are in real world not fantasy.

Pakcik 101% not hard like young man, Makcik 101% not firm like young girl.

Why young girl love pakcik, young boy love makcik!?

Everyone love freedom but not everyone understand what is freedom.

For me, Freedom = Superpower (钞能力).

I doesnt mean its everything but at least its can help me do what I want.

Boy always complaint saying Malaysia girl are low quality, I will say he never been to Malaysia night club only.

Beside that, boy say M**** girl are very holly. Serious, they are the best.

Stop thinking too much, work hard to get your superpower (钞能力).

Please dont let poverty limits your imagination.

In life, no wrong or right. Everything is about choice.

This post has been edited by w19: Dec 18 2024, 04:51 PM

You can see and feel for yourself. If a girl is interested in you, she will be messaging you non stop, will want to hang out with you.

Of course she will likely message only when free and not the whole day cause people need to work also.


This post has been edited by Ramjade: Dec 19 2024, 09:48 AM

I remember my GF (current), she said few times she just wanted us to be friends and dont want things to be complicated.

I told her Im not interested to be her friend.
If she want a friend dont go out with me.

I just saying, usually when you start out working in your early20s, that's the best time to find life partner.

If you find a girl willing to do things with you, like every morning you give lift to your female colleague to work, these are good opportunities.

Go out there at the work place and asking them out, is akin to mismatch. Because ur female friend may be intending to meet you to discuss work, sell insurance, asking for a lift but you are intending to go after her.

A mismatch may cause a lot of friction and misunderstanding. What if TS, you made friends with a girl you don't prefer (maybe you have high taste of girl appearance), you both been hanging out for long time, suddenly she fell for you and start chasing you. How would you feel? If you have no feelings for her, would you feel frighten? would you feel like you don't want to pursue friendship with her anymore?

Its the same the other way around.

So TS, if you really want to find life partner, perhaps tinder, or some app that can help you find life partner. Other than that, searching for life partner at places that you most often frequent, may cause high risk. After all, they say don't eat and shit in the same place. but having said that, does not mean I completely discourage you from finding life partner at places you frequent.

I agree with some of the points that you raised that it's not easy because of the MLM or even Insurance things. But heck, nowadays MLM companies are getting their people to go recruit people in dating apps like Tinder etc so what the heck haha.

I feel like Dating Apps like Tinder often have a problem of people trying to find "perfect partner" there. It's no more about compatibility but more to "how perfect of a man I can find in dating apps? Coz I got so many choices."

Definitely a red flag, there confirm got relationship problem Ady, just not addressed yet

Yea man, I went to a date thinking it would be a normal date, but then end up with a bunch of MLM people talking to me like they are trying to be friends with me for no reason. It's a good first hand experience on how they fish people into joining. But I wasted 3k for that shit lol

Luckily from the perspectives of money, I don't spend on these things cause I know it won't bring me what I want haha.