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Tina91
post Aug 31 2021, 02:32 PM

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QUOTE(JasonObvious @ Aug 30 2021, 11:44 PM)

My wife don't leave me, she is giving me a chance.

I didn't feel anything you mention other than being positive sometime, while it is short-lived.

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i hope you being honest about your mental condition.

BUT if that is the case, then you have NO REASON to hit your wife since you are "perfectly normal" and able to think straight.
your reply literally admitted you hit your wife WHEN you are perfectly fine and under no mental issue condition.

you should be ashamed of yourself, you bloody piece of bullshxt.

ain't no one should trust a guy that hit a girl.
cuz once started, there will be 2nd , 3nd , 4th times and so on that particular person hit his wife again.
MEANING , a man that hit his wife physically is either 0 times , or more than once.

so you better make sure you response to your wife decision to stay with you.
DO NOT MAKE HER REGRET for giving you a chance.
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post Aug 31 2021, 03:09 PM

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QUOTE(Tina91 @ Aug 31 2021, 02:32 PM)
i hope you being honest about your mental condition.

BUT if that is the case, then you have NO REASON to hit your wife since you are "perfectly normal" and able to think straight.
your reply literally admitted you hit your wife WHEN you are perfectly fine and under no mental issue condition.

you should be ashamed of yourself, you bloody piece of bullshxt.

ain't no one should trust a guy that hit a girl.
cuz once started, there will be 2nd , 3nd , 4th times and so on that particular person hit his wife again.
MEANING , a man that hit his wife physically is either 0 times , or more than once.

so you better make sure you response to your wife decision to stay with you.
DO NOT MAKE HER REGRET for giving you a chance.
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I believe no one hit his wife while "thinking straight", there must be some kind of strong emotional drive behind it.



This post has been edited by Without_a_clue: Aug 31 2021, 03:09 PM
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post Aug 31 2021, 05:33 PM

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QUOTE(Without_a_clue @ Aug 31 2021, 03:09 PM)
I believe no one hit his wife while "thinking straight", there must be some kind of strong emotional drive behind it.
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yeah i know.
i try not to spell it out that blunt for this wife-beater since he claim his totally ok especially on the mental side,
but nvm , your sentence will do.

another possibility is he saw his wife is more success, and able to contribute more to the family than himself,
hence negative thoughts build up in himself (ego, self doubt, etc).

or his just a hot temper person.
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post Aug 31 2021, 05:45 PM

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QUOTE(Tina91 @ Aug 31 2021, 05:33 PM)
yeah i know.
i try not to spell it out that blunt for this wife-beater since he claim his totally ok especially on the mental side,
but nvm , your sentence will do.

another possibility is he saw his wife is more success, and able to contribute more to the family than himself,
hence negative thoughts build up in himself (ego, self doubt, etc).

or his just a hot temper person.
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yeah right, Malaysia's general culture doesn't help women also, hopefully mentalities will evolve. What makes teeth cringe is that women themselves believe in their lesser role, it's not only men who believe they're superior, it's that both sex are likely to validate stone age gender roles because of how they were raised up. I'm pretty sure traditional public school support old school ways of life.

Any way, Islam won't last a few generations given how fast it is replaced by TikTok, now it's only a matter of how fast enlightenment will spread over Malaysians (especially the rural population).

This post has been edited by Without_a_clue: Aug 31 2021, 05:46 PM
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post Aug 31 2021, 08:26 PM

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QUOTE(Without_a_clue @ Aug 31 2021, 05:45 PM)
yeah right, Malaysia's general culture doesn't help women also, hopefully mentalities will evolve. What makes teeth cringe is that women themselves believe in their lesser role, it's not only men who believe they're superior, it's that both sex are likely to validate stone age gender roles because of how they were raised up. I'm pretty sure traditional public school support old school ways of life.

Any way, Islam won't last a few generations given how fast it is replaced by TikTok, now it's only a matter of how fast enlightenment will spread over Malaysians (especially the rural population).
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gender discriminations is way more worst at some other country such as china or japan.

here in msia at least can see more and more successful woman taking over higher position, hence blurring the gender difference at most of the civilized state / working place.
unfortunately, some under-developed state do have tendency where the teaching is woman should follow or entertain man.
a good example is "woman to talk/giggle like doraemon" level of bs.
So yeah, such ancient(sexist) teaching still exist over there.

but thankfully in current generation , law is there to protect women. this is especially true in Malaysia.
if this case end up divorce, and the wife have any kind of proof the husband hitting or abusing her, the husband is gonna be screwed when attend the court.
so unless the wife choose not to sue the husband, else the court will definitely side the wife and grant her huge amount of compensation and rights to kid.





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QUOTE(JasonObvious @ Aug 30 2021, 11:44 PM)


I've searched a lot on job websites, scary. Full stack, proficiency in PHP etc paid 3-6K, i don't know what they expect but those skill set description looks like senior-expert level which should worth a lot more than the salary they advertised.

I will be having some question about working in IT, once i research most that i can, i will PM some bros in this thread who seem to work in IT field. I hope you would provide some guidance for me in your free time.
Bro i feel better now, i try to get back on my feet without having to resort to that, thank you for the information!
Hi, i didn't make any excuse to hit my wife, if you read my reply previously i know exactly it is wrong to hit my wife under any circumstance.


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your skillsets mentioned in earlier post is good enough, you just need to further brush them up

i don't believe full stack only pay as low as 3k, stay away from those companies

out there are some agencies that offer freelance jobs for short term programming/dev projects, they pay according to work hour, around rm50-100 or more depending on your portfolios, doing things as trivial as changing the design of the login button, changing the layout of the button, etc

while you keep second guesing your coding skills, there are many IT illterate people out there are blindly paying ten of thousands for a half-cooked system, they are people that even struggling on a Wix website. I'd sure you can fill in the gap


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post Aug 31 2021, 10:00 PM

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having 150k savings without debt is an achievement that most malaysians would dream of having

i’d say you’re doing fine, just need to reposition yourself in life and think thoroughly what you really wanna do.

again, having suicide thought is the very last thing you should be doing now. you don’t wanna make the people around you feeling even more depressed amid this covid situation.

stay strong and i hope you find your way!
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post Sep 1 2021, 07:36 PM

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Look into investing. Cryptos and stocks. It's better to learn those things than going back to school imo.
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post Sep 1 2021, 07:53 PM

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QUOTE(HarmonicM @ Sep 1 2021, 07:36 PM)
Look into investing. Cryptos and stocks. It's better to learn those things than going back to school imo.
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Not a good idea.
Let's say you make a great return of 10% a year based on that 150k.
Which puts it at 30k a year/ 1k++ a month. Are you able to live with that?
Also if since you are taking out the money every year to use, you will lose out on compounding interest to grow the stash for long term growth.

Just 1 bad investment would cut off his source of income.

He has to get a job for short term and long term goals. Relying on stocks and crypto is definitely not a good plan.


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post Nov 15 2021, 08:30 AM

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QUOTE(JasonObvious @ Aug 22 2021, 05:51 PM)
I am 29 years old, married with one child. Education only SPM level without relevant working experiences.

I am here trying to source for any light in my world of darkness although i know i screw up and don’t deserve pitiness.

I was feeling suicidal frequently and started to be physical abusive toward my wife. Wife isn’t supporting enough and isn’t reliable during my tough time, even destroyed much hope of survival for me. I might also end up a single father soon without career and education. Everyday i hope that i would’nt wake up from my sleep.

My family business had been shut down since a years ago and my dad is now a bankrupt. I spend my entire 20s playing games which made me now a introvert. I do have some basic experience in web coding, managing servers, server security as i own a private game server.

However, i do not have passion in coding. I think it is boring and i can’t do it longterm, server security may still interest me but i am not very sure on that and I do have interest in automation machine such as those in manufacture factory.

Luckily, i still have around 150k of savings without debt.

I understand that i can start simple business such as hawker stall, as i do not fear hard labour. But i am a lot more interested in having a stable paycheck monthly. I also can’t do sales as i can’t speak fluently.

The question is, if i were to go back to study, can anyone suggest some of the university courses that can help me to have high chance to secure a job, and have still have a bright career prospect at the age of 34?

Given the fact that i wasted my 20s and the current economy situation, should i just give up the idea of studying and venture into basic business like hawker instead, since i know for a fact that most if not all the employer will just toss the resume of a 34yr freshman without working experience into the trashcan.

Or can anyone suggest me some of alternative path that i can take at the age of 29? I am very lost here and would greatly appreciate if any of you could share some knowledge to help me.

Thank you very much in advance Mr/Mrs.
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post Nov 15 2021, 08:52 AM

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The reality is too late for a 34 y/o graduated to get hired for a fresh grad job and compete with 23 y/o...even if yes you get hired the salary surely can’t be high. Can you accept 2k salary? it might be cruel to tell you this but I think it is important as well to tell you as a pre-alert
In my opinion, your ultimate purpose is to earn money, so don’t go to campus spend five figures or six figures to get a certificate, while the outcome high chance will look bad when you graduate.
Just to remember you have family to raise ...
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post Nov 15 2021, 08:55 AM

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QUOTE(Tina91 @ Aug 31 2021, 02:32 PM)
i hope you being honest about your mental condition.

BUT if that is the case, then you have NO REASON to hit your wife since you are "perfectly normal" and able to think straight.
your reply literally admitted you hit your wife WHEN you are perfectly fine and under no mental issue condition.

you should be ashamed of yourself, you bloody piece of bullshxt.

ain't no one should trust a guy that hit a girl.
cuz once started, there will be 2nd , 3nd , 4th times and so on that particular person hit his wife again.
MEANING , a man that hit his wife physically is either 0 times , or more than once.

so you better make sure you response to your wife decision to stay with you.
DO NOT MAKE HER REGRET for giving you a chance.
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Totally agreed. Mahai. Never raise your arm against your wife or girlfriend. Only reserve it for Karen.

If TS wants to change he is still young.

1. Hawker - Unless you have passion, don't. I have seen many hawker start up and disappear the n a few months. Food like shit, don't waste time. If you have no passion for cooking and food, never ever do this.

2. Study - Since he already have Computer background. Study IT is the no brainer choice. There are many options to explore in IT nowadays from technical to sales to management.

Any job you do repeatedly is boring. If TS use boring as excuse, he better go 14th Floor and don't waste the oxygen on this Earth.
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post Nov 16 2021, 02:10 PM

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QUOTE(JasonObvious @ Aug 22 2021, 05:51 PM)

I am 29 years old, married with one child. Education only SPM level without relevant working experiences.

I was feeling suicidal frequently and started to be physical abusive toward my wife. Wife isn’t supporting enough and isn’t reliable during my tough time, even destroyed much hope of survival for me. I might also end up a single father soon without career and education. Everyday i hope that i would’nt wake up from my sleep.

My family business had been shut down since a years ago and my dad is now a bankrupt. I spend my entire 20s playing games which made me now a introvert. I do have some basic experience in web coding, managing servers, server security as i own a private game server.

However, i do not have passion in coding. I think it is boring and i can’t do it longterm, server security may still interest me but i am not very sure on that and I do have interest in automation machine such as those in manufacture factory.

Luckily, i still have around 150k of savings without debt.

I understand that i can start simple business such as hawker stall, as i do not fear hard labour. But i am a lot more interested in having a stable paycheck monthly. I also can’t do sales as i can’t speak fluently.

The question is, if i were to go back to study, can anyone suggest some of the university courses that can help me to have high chance to secure a job, and have still have a bright career prospect at the age of 34?

Given the fact that i wasted my 20s and the current economy situation, should i just give up the idea of studying and venture into basic business like hawker instead, since i know for a fact that most if not all the employer will just toss the resume of a 34yr freshman without working experience into the trashcan.

Or can anyone suggest me some of alternative path that i can take at the age of 29? I am very lost here and would greatly appreciate if any of you could share some knowledge to help me.

Thank you very much in advance Mr/Mrs.
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What's your family business. You could start it again. IT go look for professional certification from Microsoft or Cisco. Seen a small company of repair servicemen for a telco do servicing and repairs.

Sometimes you have to toughen up without your family. If divorced what can you do. If together to the end is the best. Stop abusing.

Not everyone is cut out being a hawker and find success. Never too late to find inspiration. Example like Itthiphat Phiradechaphan - Tao Kae Noi; you have to carve your path.

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Hi guys, just some update here.

Currently I am at the lowest point of my life, this girl will really kill, and destroy my life entirely, zero chance of recovery, if I were to let her exist in my life once again.

It is, EXTREMELY,,,,EXTREMELY TOXIC kind of girl.

Slight chance I have, if I make this person no longer exist in my life once and for all.

I already tried my very best to educate her countless times.

Today, I make her to fuck off. From my life. At a place that nobody can find me, apps, phone off.

The kid miss his mom, but I had to fake my smile to tell him everything is okay.

Currently my plan is to pursuit diploma, try my luck to get a job, and pursuit part time degree.

Ageism is rampant in IT that I know, but I will not go wash dish just to stay alive.

I would like to at least give myself one last push.

Only motivation to kept me alive is my son.

If god does exist, I hope I will be blessed for a chance to be truly alive again.

Intake deadline latest is by tomorrow I guess, I hope university will permit a few days, or a week of late admission as I really need sometime to set myself completely ready for the challenge, it is gonna be real tough.
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QUOTE(JasonObvious @ Nov 22 2021, 01:20 AM)
Hi guys, just some update here.

Currently I am at the lowest point of my life, this girl will really kill, and destroy my life entirely, zero chance of recovery, if I were to let her exist in my life once again.

It is, EXTREMELY,,,,EXTREMELY TOXIC kind of girl.

Slight chance I have, if I make this person no longer exist in my life once and for all.

I already tried my very best to educate her countless times.

Today, I make her to fuck off. From my life. At a place that nobody can find me, apps, phone off.

The kid miss his mom, but I had to fake my smile to tell him everything is okay.

Currently my plan is to pursuit diploma, try my luck to get a job, and pursuit part time degree.

Ageism is rampant in IT that I know, but I will not go wash dish just to stay alive.

I would like to at least give myself one last push.

Only motivation to kept me alive is my son.

If god does exist, I hope I will be blessed for a chance to be truly alive again.

Intake deadline latest is by tomorrow I guess, I hope university will permit a few days, or a week of late admission as I really need sometime to set myself completely ready for the challenge, it is gonna be real tough.
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post Nov 22 2021, 03:02 PM

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QUOTE(JasonObvious @ Nov 22 2021, 01:20 AM)
Hi guys, just some update here.

Currently I am at the lowest point of my life, this girl will really kill, and destroy my life entirely, zero chance of recovery, if I were to let her exist in my life once again.

It is, EXTREMELY,,,,EXTREMELY TOXIC kind of girl.

Slight chance I have, if I make this person no longer exist in my life once and for all.

I already tried my very best to educate her countless times.

Today, I make her to fuck off. From my life. At a place that nobody can find me, apps, phone off.

The kid miss his mom, but I had to fake my smile to tell him everything is okay.

Currently my plan is to pursuit diploma, try my luck to get a job, and pursuit part time degree.

Ageism is rampant in IT that I know, but I will not go wash dish just to stay alive.

I would like to at least give myself one last push.

Only motivation to kept me alive is my son.

If god does exist, I hope I will be blessed for a chance to be truly alive again.

Intake deadline latest is by tomorrow I guess, I hope university will permit a few days, or a week of late admission as I really need sometime to set myself completely ready for the challenge, it is gonna be real tough.
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Hope everything turns out well for you but it is wrong to deprive a kid of his mom or a mother from her child. By all means cut all financial and personal ties with her but the mother-child relationship cannot be cut as you like. Go for divorce and try to get custody if you can prove she is an unfit mother. Even if you get custody she still has visiting rights.

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QUOTE(JasonObvious @ Nov 22 2021, 01:20 AM)
Hi guys, just some update here.

Currently I am at the lowest point of my life, this girl will really kill, and destroy my life entirely, zero chance of recovery, if I were to let her exist in my life once again.

It is, EXTREMELY,,,,EXTREMELY TOXIC kind of girl.

Slight chance I have, if I make this person no longer exist in my life once and for all.

I already tried my very best to educate her countless times.

Today, I make her to fuck off. From my life. At a place that nobody can find me, apps, phone off.

The kid miss his mom, but I had to fake my smile to tell him everything is okay.

Currently my plan is to pursuit diploma, try my luck to get a job, and pursuit part time degree.

Ageism is rampant in IT that I know, but I will not go wash dish just to stay alive.

I would like to at least give myself one last push.

Only motivation to kept me alive is my son.

If god does exist, I hope I will be blessed for a chance to be truly alive again.

Intake deadline latest is by tomorrow I guess, I hope university will permit a few days, or a week of late admission as I really need sometime to set myself completely ready for the challenge, it is gonna be real tough.
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