The parents should have the birds and the bees talk with their son... but never bring up the issue of him watching porn... kids can be sensitive and you don't want to create a barrier between them and you... else, they may just shut themselves away... give them the time and space to discover and experience the world on their own... guide where necessary... but don't judge...

Watching porn during primary schools isnt it too early, no?

TS you need ensure he doesnt get addicted and highlight the cons...Gay or not gay porn doesnt matter..Porn is the issue and not his sexuality...His sexuality leave to his parents to sort it out when he gets older..

IMO, dont need to bring up to parents...could embarrass him and affect him mentally and end up being a lifelong scar....Talk to him and be the cool uncle

I think for our generation, it's probably too early; but for kids these days?

Nope, let the parents handle it. If uncle doing the talking could lead to misundetstanding. Worse case, uncle could be accuse as pedo. Best person to talk about it, is the parent.

Agree. Parents are responsible for their 11 yo boy

Ts can only help highlighting some important issues like this

Please talk to the parent. Sort it out as soon as possible. You might think he is only curious. But worst case senario, he is being groom by someone. Please do something about it. Better sort it out now rather than being to late.

Actually no, I really want answers to my questions. Please do answer ALL of them, I am quite curious. They are not rhetorical.

In all honesty, I do not want to have the last word, I am quite happy that you keep replying.

You are saying that his alleged homosexuality is nurture rather than nature, therefore he is thinking about turning gay because he got turned down by girls in primary school. Are you serious?
You are saying that because kids have sex in primary school, it is not too early to start redpilling, especially before they even sit for UPSR.

I am saying that he is 11 years old, too young to be thinking about either homosexuality, be concerned about his looks to woo females (especially non-Asians? since you pointed that out), making money to impress girls, or even dating and especially sex. He can explore all of that slowly. He has a little more than half a decade to adulthood.

So what is your actual advice to TS and the mother to remedy the matter?

I watched porn at 12yo, and is it too early? no
Given that the technology and generation nowadays, don’t think too early.
Just need proper guidance and governance.

This post has been edited by fish_hoo: Nov 1 2020, 07:54 PM

11, 12, 13 year old kids kill themselves because of bullying and non-popularity,

and you are so dense to say they know nothing about sex and relationships?

Remedy the matter means give guarantee ... can pay me or not?

Otherwise all you get are suggestions.

You want to say they're crap, carry on.

But the world has changed a lot since your days old man ...

It's okay. Encourage gays please. There are more guys than girls in Malaysia. Need more gays to balance it out.

Plus women also like to say that guys that are not good enough should become gay, have heard that before

Never hear that before.

But a lot a lot of people said I'm gay. Because I was badly hurt before, most of them automatically have the impression that I like guys more.

TS, disallow him access to your PC. Even if he can access other PCs he may not get the same privacy as in your room. Like the other guy said, no need to make it easy for him.

If he needs your PC to do his homework it must be under supervision in your presence.

It's possible his parents may get him his own laptop or PC after you restrict the use of your PC so a word to your sister to monitor his web surfing and show her how to check is a good idea. No need to mention gay porn. Let his parents find out themselves.

gay or no gay, a 11 yo kid watching porn is not a good thing. Confront him, or tell the parent. Your choice. if you are close with him then better you confront him rather than telling the mother.

There are two issues here , one porn the other it being gay porn. And the implication that said nephew could be gay.

I honestly would have a heart to heart talk with the nephew first. Sure parents should be the one parenting, but this isnt just a talk about the birds and the bees. Its their son potentially coming out of the closet.

better tell your sister before he makes you become his bottom. im being serious.

Curiosity at his age, his search keyword tell us that he's probably comparing d***.

Sure, people from all ages commit suicide over various reasons, justifiable or not. We want to prevent that.

Sex as a minor, especially as a primary schooler, is also something that should be discouraged, whether or not it is justifiable.

Please show me the comment where by I said and/or implied that a primary school student is ignorant about sex and/or relationship. I am saying it is discouraged and very specifically, sex at that age is also illegal.

Remedy is not a guarantee. You can ask the uncle to pay you if you want. But many people here are giving suggestions as solutions without asking for payment or providing any sort of guarantee. You could perhaps do the same.

If you are asking me if an 11 year old should:

- care a lot about his looks to get laid
- think about money to get laid
- think about non-Asian girls to lay
- consider having sex before UPSR

Then yes, I do think they are crap suggestions.

Are you implying that you are young enough to approve of sex amongst primary schoolers?

gashout, is this what you were talking about?

I'm preventing my escalation of conflicts with him 😅😅

He's not someone I would spend my time discussing issues with. Not worth my time. He may soon bring in sex with animals is better than harming others (he hasn't said it but mark meeeee)

To your topic. Sex education is important but sex education isn't about various sex position or promoting sex among young kids. Kids should know more about their body parts and learn to say no and be aware of what a relationship is about and Asian parents generally shouldn't shun this topic.

Talk about committing suicide and bullting. Dang! To encourage moon party among primary kids. Dang!

Wait for his reply. Another 20 steps ahead. I'll just admit my intellect is lower than him (even though I've a PhD and my social circle consists of Drs.)

gashout ViktorJ

Lel, other people have already pointed out that how they are treated changes their behaviour.

But keep acting as if that isn't the case.

And keep thinking that someone is going to suggest sex with animals.

If I was really so evil and nasty ... both of you would have reported me a long time ago.

This is just you 2 dopes trying to anger me, while not suggesting anything or shooting down any suggestions.

The next few days are going to be so nice though.

Go on and report me if you think I've done something wrong