Hello folks,

My first topic here. I logged into lowyat after quite a long time and noticed that I can now create a new topic on mental health issues. Exactly right then I thought why don't I share my difficulty..

So, here it is...............

I am not an introvert or something like that. I can conduct conversations with complete strangers for hours. Actually my field of job forces me to do so and I think I am good with that. Because people hear me and they try to contact me afterward.

The thing is I do not like to talk to new people. As I was saying, I am very fluent while talking but at the same time a thought is flowing through my brain's vessels simultaneously that "Ugh, I am so hating talking to you, I wish I could stop right now and do nothing, not even saying a word " But no, I do not do that. All I do is smiling while needed, showing fake worry when needed and all such things to make the conversation beautiful. I know why I do this. I do this because it is needed. It is good to become social and it surely helps later, these good relations.

Do any of you face the same? I really want to enjoy the conversations like the person standing or sitting opposite of mine, I really do.

You sound like a sales man... very normal.

My guess is ...you yourself is an introvert

You just denying it

You get me there. I think I am. I am a different type of introvert indeed I think. But how do I get over it?

Just be yourself (not in scary way)

I am an introvert too....

How i define myself...i am not depressed or mad or antisocial,i just need to not talk to anyone for a while and thats okay...

In a day i just need to be completely alone so i can recharge and get back to being awesome!

I think if you put genuine empathy during the conversation, you will get more from it instead of just hate...

Thanks a lot tomato, I think this is it. your this saying - "i just need to not talk to anyone for a while and thats okay..." is it.

All I ever did is to blame myself that I am not completely honest. The person opposite of me is thinking that I am fully into the conversation but actually I'm not and that is what kills me inside.

Thank you again for shedding a light over "it is normal and it's alright"

Introvert & socially awkward is 2 different thing.

You're not socially awkward, heck you can even be a social butterfly. But you're introvert, hence you dislike socializing & prefers to be alone enjoying your "me, myself & I" time.

Well I could be wrong anyway. It might be due to you having dull conversations with people. Try talking about something you're passionate about or highly interested about & notice the difference.

Yup

I am glad to help my introvert fellow...

Being awesome has it price..just dont over doing the awesome part..hehe

Surely those are dull conversations, ha ha. Or maybe I am just an introvert, or maybe both. But the suggestion of talking about something of my interest should do the trick. Only the problem is I love thinking about my favorites instead of talking about it to others. I should work on it i guess.

lol, I love overdoing it then I think.

just to confirm, does this mean you get tired very fast when talk to other people, where by you felt mentally tired instead of physically tired?
during a hangout, do you have tendency of(or prefer to) avoiding larger group of people, lets say like, 5 or more people?
or do you just out right do not like to hangout with a group of people?
above all is not limited to just new people, it can be your friend, classmate or colleague that working with you.