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TSjeaneallenn P
post Jul 23 2019, 04:07 PM, updated 7y ago

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Hello folks,

My first topic here. I logged into lowyat after quite a long time and noticed that I can now create a new topic on mental health issues. Exactly right then I thought why don't I share my difficulty..

So, here it is...............

I am not an introvert or something like that. I can conduct conversations with complete strangers for hours. Actually my field of job forces me to do so and I think I am good with that. Because people hear me and they try to contact me afterward.

The thing is I do not like to talk to new people. As I was saying, I am very fluent while talking but at the same time a thought is flowing through my brain's vessels simultaneously that "Ugh, I am so hating talking to you, I wish I could stop right now and do nothing, not even saying a word bangwall.gif " But no, I do not do that. All I do is smiling while needed, showing fake worry when needed and all such things to make the conversation beautiful. I know why I do this. I do this because it is needed. It is good to become social and it surely helps later, these good relations.

Do any of you face the same? I really want to enjoy the conversations like the person standing or sitting opposite of mine, I really do.
TSjeaneallenn P
post Jul 23 2019, 04:25 PM

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QUOTE(tomato people @ Jul 23 2019, 04:21 PM)
My guess is ...you yourself is an introvert

You just denying it
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You get me there. I think I am. I am a different type of introvert indeed I think. But how do I get over it?
TSjeaneallenn P
post Jul 24 2019, 01:51 PM

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QUOTE(tomato people @ Jul 23 2019, 04:31 PM)
Just be yourself (not in scary way)

I am an introvert too....

How i define myself...i am not depressed or mad or antisocial,i just need to not talk to anyone for a while and thats okay...

In a day i just need to be completely alone so i can recharge and get back to being awesome!
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Thanks a lot tomato, I think this is it. your this saying - "i just need to not talk to anyone for a while and thats okay..." is it.

All I ever did is to blame myself that I am not completely honest. The person opposite of me is thinking that I am fully into the conversation but actually I'm not and that is what kills me inside.

Thank you again for shedding a light over "it is normal and it's alright"
TSjeaneallenn P
post Jul 27 2019, 01:26 AM

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QUOTE(NightHeart @ Jul 24 2019, 01:57 PM)
Introvert & socially awkward is 2 different thing.

You're not socially awkward, heck you can even be a social butterfly. But you're introvert, hence you dislike socializing & prefers to be alone enjoying your "me, myself & I" time.

Well I could be wrong anyway. It might be due to you having dull conversations with people. Try talking about something you're passionate about or highly interested about & notice the difference.
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Surely those are dull conversations, ha ha. Or maybe I am just an introvert, or maybe both. But the suggestion of talking about something of my interest should do the trick. Only the problem is I love thinking about my favorites instead of talking about it to others. I should work on it i guess.
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post Jul 27 2019, 01:27 AM

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QUOTE(tomato people @ Jul 24 2019, 02:05 PM)
Yup

I am glad to help my introvert fellow...

Being awesome has it price..just dont over doing the awesome part..hehe
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lol, I love overdoing it then I think.


 

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