I am 24 and still virgin, i fit the description, can anyone help me pls, my hormone is weakening i don't want to miss out

i totally agree with the above statement of yours, makes me count my blessings

its not giving up, its call planning my next moves so that i can know whether its worth the fight or not.

you say its about lack of ambition, but what if you have the ambitions, but lack certain parts of other things as well? case in point, my former high school seniors that i catch up to once in a while shared with me on how his life changed because of his ex: he and her were both steady together once. they shared ups and downs, happy moments, all that good stuffs, and then the day came when she requested to break it off with him. he didn't know what went wrong, she just mentioned something about being young, wanna look around more and all that jazz before being committed into something more serious, okay that was hurtful but he accepted it and heavily moved on.

guess what? she hide the fact that she actually got attracted with her coworker that is more good looking than him and own his very own car a at mid 20's and even more bloody rich than my high school senior mate. all of those nice memories, those so-called "experiences and moments" where money couldn't buy(yeah right), all those stuffs just got thrown outta the window, why? because his wallet ain't fat enough that's why. and take note: my friend was decent guy, he's not filthy rich, but he's capable to work himself up if given time, but too bad, she got options and she decided to choose the new fish in the pool out of the blue, all 4 to 5 years of blood, sweat, tears and memories got wiped out just like that

so you see, even if you're handsome, rich, kind and charismatic, you risk the chance of being doomed if your girl got attracted to someone who is more handsome, richer, more kind and charismatic than you are. my senior was a cheerful and chill guy, that incident change him into something else, and i fear the same thing would happen to me ever again, which is why i'm glad that i'm single as fuck, but at the very least of it i won't be able to fall for someone and suffer that kinda shit. let me be single and oblivious to all these, its better that way.

and no, it's not giving up, it's call choosing my moves because i know the effort and energy ain't worth it. you work yourself up, you wanna build and maintain the relationship, and all of that goes down the drain when a stronger competitor comes along...

Life's like that. You win some you lose some. Trust me when I say that.

Sometimes people take relationships for granted and that contributes to the demise of it. One party might have gotten complacent and the other party thinks it is boring. For example, some people put so much into the relationship that they have no life beyond the relationship. This is a disaster. Being in a relationship does not mean you get comfortable or complacent. Don't put the ladies on a pedestal, the ladies don't like it.

I agree that it can be very vexing when a relationship falls apart.

Which is why it is of utmost importance and your top priority to work on yourself. If the girl leaves, so what? Life is not over. Her bloody loss. Move on. Your value as a man increases day by day. You don't have to get depressed or because the girl has left you. (Like your friend, being "changed" in to something else - so extreme and dramatic.).

The "effort and energy" you spend IS worth it. Because you live and learn. Each and every relationship that comes together and fall apart can be a learning experience.

If stand by my view on that matter and I'm not looking to change your opinions (I respect your views.). All I'm saying is you have a RESPONSIBILITY towards yourself to make sure you're the best you can be. You only live once you know.

Sure man. I totally agree with your statement.

If you don't work on yourself be ready to settle. The ugly, poor girl sure didn't.

If a hot/cute/pretty girl can spend so much effort on herself (gym, make up, studies, etc.). What makes you think you can score if you don't do the same (personal development, studies, gym, etc.).

You seem v strongheaded about this so if u think its best to let this Bazi thing rule ur life and set its path then by all means - u live ur own life.

I do to some extent believe in Bazi. Its a chart depicting what you are born with, and how to use these elements to your favor.

So TS when u see ur chart and chose to focus on that, maybe ur already set on being forever alone.
Have you heard of the term self fulfilling prophecy?
Use the knowledge to ur advantage.

I don't bother to correct his perspective because all he can think of is $$.

Money is important but it ain't everything, sometimes.

Being hurt sucks. Honestly. But being able to take a punch and to move on, that's the bigger picture here.

If you think you are gonna lose someone just because there's someone out there that's richer than you, it's akin to living life in fear of dying tomorrow because you might actually just die

It would not be worth it if it were easy.

When life give you lemons, make lemonade.

Those pretty girl got nice genes, yea but there are also NOT pretty girls that put make up on and go to gym. They see something they don't like they take affirmative action and CHANGE the situation.

No once says you need to be 'fixed'. All I'm saying is you owe it to yourself to be the BEST you.

Shit, I hit four of the above.

But i choose to not attend wedding dinners though.

My point exactly because there IS always someone richer than you. There IS always someone better out there.

But what's better than you, might not be the best for the girl

the same crap that tells everyone's fate but can't tell your own fate? no thanks.. probably those incredibly naive would actually follows bazi, horoscope what not to tell them what to do instead of be in the actions themselves.

which is why being single and foreveralone is a big win in this case

cons: you never know what being in a relationship feels like

pros: you never know what being hurt feels like (trust me, you don't wanna feel it)

This post has been edited by Kanan Jarrus: Oct 14 2018, 11:27 AM

Life is cruel does not mean we stop living.

Just because things are hard, that does not mean one just gives up and roll over.

Rome ain't made in one day.

All the pain and suffering that people goes thru, it leads somewhere.

Whether the bitterness along the way made you stronger or worse off, that's for the person to self interpret and analyse.

It's not even a fight to begin with, tbh.

I won't say that they forget what you have done before. But sometimes it's not just that simple. Gotta put yourself in other's shoes and reconsider as well. Your heart is gonna tell you A, but your brains are gonna tell you B in the end.

Eg - She left you for a richer guy.

Maybe her reasons are driven financially. But do you stop to consider that financials are important for her even before you start pursuing her?

Like what you wrote in the previous thread, she expects a 20k handbag every year. You are not comfortable dropping that kinda dough on her. So if she leaves you for another guy which can drop that dough on her, does that make her a bad person?

Honestly, the answer is NO. She wants a certain comfort in life and you can't provide that which is essential to her criteria of being with someone. People might called that Gold-Digger but that's basically bitterness just speaking. Not everyone is meant to live an average life, for starters.

Disclaimer : Money is usually not the biggest problem in a relationship. It's one of the factor but never THE factor unless it's clear cut cases where the girl said she will not date a person earning below XX,XXX amount of income per year. Most of the time, it's the small small things like your actions, your behaviours, your thinking and etc that pokes hole into the relationship before the financials come into play and destroy what's left of the happiness there

Disclaimer 2 : Experienced it personally that money is not a factor in a relationship thou it's a nice thing to have. All the money on Planet Earth didn't solve my problems with her anyways

Live a little man.

You can't live life if you are afraid to even step outta your own shadow.

And that's why this dude has prolly given up on life

Dunno what is self fulfilling prophecy... Izzit something to do with purple star astrology? I'm not entirely foreveralone, just feels that sometime there are events in life which makes u ponder upon it... My friend dunno purple star astrology either..just help him out to promo bazi to whoever interested...

This post has been edited by pencapchew: Oct 14 2018, 09:34 PM

Can i try

What's worth is your self worth. If you feel like you want to do it just to be better compared to another guy, go right ahead.

I don't think it's the right thing to do, but if that makes you ultimately happy and able to sleep on your bed peacefully, so be it.

Also, if everyone adopt your mindset. The world can stop spinning.