If you wanna marry a rich man, you gotta have the qualities that they want, and be as perfect as possible. You gotta work on yourself first.

Based on my experience & feedback from them, their checklist of ideal wife material is as follows:

1) Appearance (tall, pretty, attractive) -- presentable when bringing her to attend biz functions
2) Brain (intelligent, ambitious, highly educated) -- to be their partner, and help them in biz & career
3) Filial to his parents -- most of them are the only/eldest son, so what their mum thinks of their woman is very important
4) Can be a good mum -- they want to produce the best offspring
5) Talented -- have other hobbies or talents, e.g. singing, dancing, cooking, socialising etc

It took me 5 years to perfect myself so that I could attract the men I want. Yeah, I stayed single & unavailable for many years, just to polish myself to near-perfection.

How did I do it?

In terms of looks, I have spent nearly RM50k in the past few years on various skincare treatments to look beautiful, such as going for facials, mani/pedicure, hair treatments (rebonding, colouring), doing my eyebrows, lips, skin hair removal & polishing, body massages etc. Yeah, I look naturally pretty without any makeup; no need to edit photos too. With makeup, I look way more gorgeous. (Yeah, spent so much $$$, will of coz look fabulous.)

On a side note, a woman being able to spend RM10k a year on beauty enhancements without getting bankrupt or in bad debt is a sign of high earning power & prudent financial management. Men find rich/high-earning women attractive too, so be one. (Yeah, easier said than done, but can be done.)

Having good looks alone is not enough. If you are an empty flower vase = look good on the outside but have nothing solid inside, rich men will lose interest fast, coz you're no different from those hot chicks they meet.

So yeah, I spent lots of time reading books, esp. biz, finance, investments etc ("dry & boring" for most women), so that I know what to chat with them, and impress them. Then I also developed side interests, and learnt how to cook delicious meals, sing songs etc. & I work out to shape & tone my body; going to be age 30 but still look around mid-20s.

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Hard work does pay off.

The outcome? Attracted many high-earning professionals, and went on dates with them. (Birds of a feather flock together )

Also attracted several rich men, who pursued/proposed to me:

1) M, eldest son of a bizman who owns a transportation company. Lives in double-storey semi-D, now runs his father's company. Stole my first kiss without consent. Yeah, punched him after that, but he was still happy.

2) L, eldest son of a bizman who owns a timber lodging company. Lives in double-storey bungalow, drove a Mercedez to fetch me at my house before, for an expensive lunch date. Confessed to me and wished to bring me home to meet his parents.

3) C, only son of a rich family, lives in single-storey bungalow, works in Oil & Gas, earning 5-digit MYR a month. Came to my house one late night (around 10pm+) to give me a box of imported chocolates. Parents are family friends.

4) W, only son of a rich biz family, studied in the U.K. Lives in a bungalow, inherits his family business to supply automobile parts to major car manufacturers. Wished to bring me home to meet his parents.

5) K, eldest son of a rich biz family, studied in the U.K. Inherited family wealth, earning 5-digit SGD a month. We're engaged now. Our anniversary trip this year is to Phuket, pre-wedding photoshoot will be in Taiwan, and the reception + honeymoon (destination wedding) will be in Maldives ← he suggested these countries.

Btw, I'm not working currently; he's supporting me financially. I have 1-2 years to relax and go travel, and upgrade myself to tip-top condition so that we can start own biz and family. He and I have discussed earning in MYR and also in USD, and sending our kids to international school.

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When you become the best, you will deserve the best. I didn't come from a rich family; was poor and starving before, but I worked hard to the top in terms of studies and career. That made me into a confident and ambitious lady, and not just sit there dressed in rags with self-pity, and passively waiting & daydreaming for some prince to rescue me. Nah, it doesn't happen that way in real life.

A few things to take note:

Firstly, rich guys don't like it when girls covet their wealth. They can easily sense if you are after them, or after their money. Money is important, but greed and materialism is a huge turn-off.

Secondly, of course, not all of us have the luck to meet/date rich men. It depends on the social circles/social class you are in. If you life is confined to just work and home, then chances are, you ain't gonna meet any of them. You need to actively go out and express yourself, be it in events or gatherings, or online.

Thirdly, it's not easy to manage wealth and multiply it. If you only wanna be a rich tai-tai who can't help much in your husband's biz/career, chances are, years down the road, you're out of the game, as you become liability and no longer asset. With great power (privileges) comes great responsibility and expectations.

Fourthly, if you're dating a guy who is earning an average income, please develop his potential and push him to success. Your aspiration, dreams and energy level can fuel his ambition to give you the life both of you want -- enjoy comfort without worry, and perhaps, a life of luxury one day. Don't just sit there and complain about him (look down on him and make him feel like a loser) when you yourself have done nothing much to upgrade yourself. It must go both ways/ reciprocal. In order to receive, you need to give first. Sow first, and reap later.

Btw, if a man feels he can't catch up on you, he'll either level up his game to be on par with you (great!), or feel insecure enough to let you go/ become controlling.

Lastly, love a man not for his money, but for his personality, his character, dreams and ambitions, and earning potential. The truly rich man is one who can lose everything, smile and start all over again, and earn the same pot of gold in a decade or two. Now that is what I call true wealth.

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OK, done sharing my part. Feel free to add on any tips and comments. No trolls pls; it's annoying.

Btw, if you're a rich guy, feel free to share what you think/ what qualities you're looking for in a woman/ what type of women deserve you. & maybe give a tip or two about how you achieve success/ build wealth for our fellow forumers to learn from.

wow, its good to know your investment turn out to be fruitful

Thanks. ^^

Bersusah-susah dahulu, bersenang-senang kemudian 先苦后甜

It's nice knowing all these guys are rich because of inheriting the outcome of parents' / parent's hard work.

In this day and age, I think it's pointless for a MALE to find a partner even if he's doing averagely or ok-ish. Sure, earning potential. But what are the odds of me, who do not have family wealth to inherit, able to be a better candidate than the people that have great family wealth waiting?

I think it's kinda ironic that you specifically wanting rich man, but telling people to not love a man for their money. Mind elaborate on this one?

This post has been edited by xPrototype: Jul 18 2018, 08:36 PM

Future Tai tai you are not 😂😂

You are hellava catch for him (Ahem) but hor, the thread is kinda downer for some guys whom have great heart but not well off, I mean financially ok, just not wealthy and if all prettiest girls just wait for rich(est) man to scoop them.. how la.

In truth I know there are lots of wealthy (rather successful) men in Malaysia, not all but many do uses their means (position) to sample ‘girls’. Trying not to generalize all wealthy rich men but ok the many pretty girls do know of such men.

Ok I’m deviating.

Nice to help with the tips for girls preparing themselves.
(However) for those who just stumble this thread (and not know what you went thru) may find it a little showy 😇 girl 😬

haha this is so true. But women dont care do they? As long as there multiple digits in the bank account.

oh the sh!t I have had to deal with coming from a single parent household and struggling to have food on the table when I was younger. I am quite offended by how TS describes the guys as if they are a template

Eldest / Only son

Rich family biz

Semi D / Bungalow

5 Digit currency / Luxury car / Imported / Expensive

Wow. OK. U made it in life. Congrats

This post has been edited by Aztec: Jul 18 2018, 08:44 PM

They do care. Look at the stats of the guys she listed there. The one she chosen is the best one.

- do not need to continue family business
- earning SGD instead of MYR

Straight go for the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.

This post has been edited by xPrototype: Jul 18 2018, 08:44 PM

Semua pun fu er dai. Like the poster said above. Went straight for the pot of gold. hahaha.

Btw, what is timber lodging ah? Hotel for timber? I didn't know hospitality expand to cater to logs as well now.

See, this is the problem with you guys: always straightaway jump to conclusions, because of your past experiences or whatever failures/ rejections you faced with other "gold-digging" materialistic women. You end up so paranoid and sarcastic, labelling all women as the same bitchy type.

Read carefully again. Did I pursue those men? I didn't. They approached me. & They happened to be of that category. They told me about their background, not like I hunted for them. I'm not a sugar baby either. Jeez. With their wealth and status, you think they won't know how to differentiate between a gold digger and a real gem?

If you read my previous thread, I don't pursue men; said that many times already. Go study more about the law of attraction.

If make few changes in exchange for a better life, why not?

I find TS is different from average ladies because she is a strategic thinker. Doing something with an aim behind. Congrats as your hard work is well paid off now.

While I appreciate freedom than being a puppet or doll in a rich man world.

Nevertheless, i read 70-80k words per week because of the nature of my job. I find reading is a must and knowledge must be shared at suitable platforms.

As long you are happy.
Again, congrats TS!

This post has been edited by Lady Irrawaddy: Jul 18 2018, 09:23 PM

Actually, if you think about it, they are able to inherit family wealth because of their parents' hard work, and they happened to be fortunate to be born in such families. If we want our next generation to enjoy better life, then we should work hard now.

& I think your question should be "Why didn't you accept the first 4 rich guys, but the last one?"

My answer:
Because the first 4 rich guys are complacent in life. I like men who can create wealth themselves; their inheritance is a bonus, but not a necessity. More specifically, I like the mindset of a winner. Wealth is the outcome of positive/winning mindset. You cannot get rich if you have loser/poverty mindset.

Btw, those men didn't pursue me simultaneously; so I rejected one by one over the years, without knowing who's next for me. If I were after their money, I would have accepted the first man when he first pursued me, coz after all, why would I wait for the unknown/uncertainty?

This post has been edited by Ralna: Jul 18 2018, 11:18 PM

Where are my manners?
Congratulations, you made it.

Nah you all have the same trait - looking for the best security. Is that a bad thing? Of course not.

No, you still hunt them - in a way that you're luring your preys with your attributes at the right situation and environment.

You played your cards well. Wish you a great marriage ahead.

Thanks! You do understand me well compared to the others here. Just last night, I was sleepless, as I was planning my life up to age 40. I have many goals to achieve in life, so I plan from year 2018 to 2027 (10 years). I'm a highly future-oriented person, very practical and strong in executing plans and goals.

One reason I was single for years was... I wasn't interested in getting married, coz I found it dumb to get committed to a man for life, having to get pregnant (= suffering!) and raising up children (headache!). Why would I sacrifice my freedom, youth and beauty to be committed to only one man?

But then, he appeared. I started to ponder having a family life. I guess he's the only exception. If we ever break off the engagement, I'd still prefer to stay single.

Well, can't be helped if they're attracted. In fact, when you are established in life and career, you attract people and opportunities.

Another example is how I get employed. To be honest, I rarely job hunt. Since 2016 to date, I received 17 offers which I never applied for; recruiters and people would look for me to get the job done, as I'm an excellent candidate. After I resigned, within 3 weeks, people contacted me to offer jobs, but I rejected saying I'm on a break.

I don't call this luck. If you want opportunities that other people don't have (be it in studies, career or relationships etc), you have to do things differently from them, otherwise, why would the opportunity be yours?

Congrats to TS. It was an interesting read indeed. You explained your back ground and the environment you were so judging you by the situation you were in it was no surprise to me that you chose your current path.

Guys a winner mindset does not necessarily need to acquire wealth and there are fine woman looking for average income man with qualities they desire. TS's mindset doesn't represents the mind set of many wonderful ladies.

I became a SGD millionaire by 26 because I was lucky to work in an industry that pays too well and didn't give me time to spend my money.. I was so busy and focused at work that I just wanted a woman that looks decent enough, will be a good mother, daughter in law, be intelligent enough to bounce ideas with me and above all a good fit to my personality. I wasn't interested in the sophisticated and beautiful high paid banker girls I meet and work with. While single I was more determined than normal guys to get the girl with the right fit to me. I grew up in a broken home with childhood depression as a result so I was more concern about her fit to me and the family I want to build than she being a trophy wife. It is just me and I don't represent every high earning guys out there though I admit my choice are odd among my colleagues.

TS told us what her desire was in context of her background. I appreciate the sharing. Do see her story in the context of her environment

This post has been edited by BrendonStar: Jul 18 2018, 09:59 PM

Thanks, BrendonStar.

Well, my background? It's very sad actually.

I grew up in an abusive, broken family, which was also poor because family asset was frozen by gov; grandpa died without leaving a will. My parents could only afford the basic minimum.

From young, I didn't have any pocket money, so I often had to borrow from my classmates. Yeah, could never forget how they insulted me, "Har? You're so poor meh? Why need to borrow RM1?"

That was humiliation. So I'd rather starve myself sometimes. I also stole before, coz I was too hungry. I grew up having a weak body, always fainted in school coz of hypoglycemia (low blood sugar) and anemia (looked pale).

I realised the importance of money when I was 14 y.o. It was flag day (fund-raising for uniformed body), so my friends and I went around to ask for donation. Then there was this old man, in the hawker centre, said, "讨什么讨，自己不会去赚啊?!" ("beg money for what, go earn it yourself!"). Then he spat on the ground.

Ever since then, I swore to myself to get rich. I had enough of poverty. It was a nightmare.

I was the only one from my hometown who made it to University of Malaya; first-choice course and first-choice uni. Took PTPTN, worked part-time while studying, about 40 hours a week, Monday to Saturday. Sunday was the only day I had to study for tests & finish my assignments for 6-8 subjects. That was my life for a few years, even while doing postgrad studies.

I don't want my children to suffer like me anymore, so I want them to have the best mother (and father) they can ever have. This includes giving them the best environment they can grow up in. All this requires $$$.

That's the other side of my story. In front, I look glamorous, beautiful and successful, but behind, all scars. Can't wipe away my past, but can move on to better future. Tears can't solve problems, but actions can. People can sympathize and emphatize, but it is you yourself who have to do something to change your fate.

If you guys have never been through all these, then don't judge easily. It only shows your ignorance.

This post has been edited by Ralna: Jul 18 2018, 10:08 PM

From this statement I can't blame you for choosing what you want, and in this way I was like you chasing the $ except that I did what a guy could. However do note that people generally don't like people that seems to have it all. Like Cain and Abel many will kill those that have it all given a chance.

This post has been edited by BrendonStar: Jul 18 2018, 10:18 PM

I know. It's only human to not want to see others living a life better than oneself.

One thing I learnt, is not to envy or get jealous. Coz I was poor, I had many people whom I could envy (or curse them, esp.those who bullied me before), but I didn't.

Jealousy is a sign of weakness/ lack. If you don't have something, aim for it, go get it. What's the use of getting jealous of successful people, celebrities or millionaires when it won't add a single cent in your pocket? It only reflects your inner ugliness and insecurity.

For people like this, they deserve the current (perhaps, miserable) life they have, and not anything better. This is the biggest difference between people with loser-mindset, and winner-mindset. The former is bitter seeing other people's success, while the latter congratulates.

The journey of life is very long and uncertain.

I hope that you find happiness in the choices that you make and remember that nothing is permanent.

On a side note to guys, just wish TS well and don't move on.

Haha... yeah, I still like to work. My career is my pride. Can't be full-time tai-tai like Rosmah. Oops.

I think men who are financially okay with great heart are ideal. Wealth is a result of long-term planning, self-discipline & accumulation. It's not something far and beyond into space. The only obstacle that most working adults have is that they don't believe that they can become wealthy one day, with their average salary. Well, when there's a will, there's a way. What makes people rich is their abilities and talents, not money.

The Jews view wealth as, "For there is poverty and wealth in every occupation. One's occupation does not cause poverty, nor does it bring wealth. All is determined on the basis of one's merit."

merit = the quality of being particularly good or worthy, especially so as to deserve praise or reward.

With the right attitude, mindset and methods, it's only a matter of time before one gets wealthy.