QUOTE(Ralna @ Jul 18 2018, 07:03 PM)
If you wanna marry a rich man, you gotta have the qualities that they want, and be as perfect as possible. You gotta work on yourself first.
Based on my experience & feedback from them, their checklist of ideal wife material is as follows:
1) Appearance (tall, pretty, attractive) -- presentable when bringing her to attend biz functions
2) Brain (intelligent, ambitious, highly educated) -- to be their partner, and help them in biz & career
3) Filial to his parents -- most of them are the only/eldest son, so what their mum thinks of their woman is very important
4) Can be a good mum -- they want to produce the best offspring
5) Talented -- have other hobbies or talents, e.g. singing, dancing, cooking, socialising etc
It took me 5 years to perfect myself so that I could attract the men I want. Yeah, I stayed single & unavailable for many years, just to polish myself to near-perfection.
How did I do it?
In terms of looks, I have spent nearly RM50k in the past few years on various skincare treatments to look beautiful, such as going for facials, mani/pedicure, hair treatments (rebonding, colouring), doing my eyebrows, lips, skin hair removal & polishing, body massages etc. Yeah, I look naturally pretty without any makeup; no need to edit photos too. With makeup, I look way more gorgeous. (Yeah, spent so much $$$, will of coz look fabulous.)
On a side note, a woman being able to spend RM10k a year on beauty enhancements without getting bankrupt or in bad debt is a sign of high earning power & prudent financial management. Men find rich/high-earning women attractive too, so be one. (Yeah, easier said than done, but can be done.)
Having good looks alone is not enough. If you are an empty flower vase = look good on the outside but have nothing solid inside, rich men will lose interest fast, coz you're no different from those hot chicks they meet.
So yeah, I spent lots of time reading books, esp. biz, finance, investments etc ("dry & boring" for most women), so that I know what to chat with them, and impress them. Then I also developed side interests, and learnt how to cook delicious meals, sing songs etc. & I work out to shape & tone my body; going to be age 30 but still look around mid-20s.
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Hard work does pay off.
The outcome? Attracted many high-earning professionals, and went on dates with them. (Birds of a feather flock together )
Also attracted several rich men, who pursued/proposed to me:
1) M, eldest son of a bizman who owns a transportation company. Lives in double-storey semi-D, now runs his father's company. Stole my first kiss without consent. Yeah, punched him after that, but he was still happy.
2) L, eldest son of a bizman who owns a timber lodging company. Lives in double-storey bungalow, drove a Mercedez to fetch me at my house before, for an expensive lunch date. Confessed to me and wished to bring me home to meet his parents.
3) C, only son of a rich family, lives in single-storey bungalow, works in Oil & Gas, earning 5-digit MYR a month. Came to my house one late night (around 10pm+) to give me a box of imported chocolates. Parents are family friends.
4) W, only son of a rich biz family, studied in the U.K. Lives in a bungalow, inherits his family business to supply automobile parts to major car manufacturers. Wished to bring me home to meet his parents.
5) K, eldest son of a rich biz family, studied in the U.K. Inherited family wealth, earning 5-digit SGD a month. We're engaged now. Our anniversary trip this year is to Phuket, pre-wedding photoshoot will be in Taiwan, and the reception + honeymoon (destination wedding) will be in Maldives ← he suggested these countries.
Btw, I'm not working currently; he's supporting me financially. I have 1-2 years to relax and go travel, and upgrade myself to tip-top condition so that we can start own biz and family. He and I have discussed earning in MYR and also in USD, and sending our kids to international school.
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When you become the best, you will deserve the best. I didn't come from a rich family; was poor and starving before, but I worked hard to the top in terms of studies and career. That made me into a confident and ambitious lady, and not just sit there dressed in rags with self-pity, and passively waiting & daydreaming for some prince to rescue me. Nah, it doesn't happen that way in real life.
A few things to take note:
Firstly, rich guys don't like it when girls covet their wealth. They can easily sense if you are after them, or after their money. Money is important, but greed and materialism is a huge turn-off.
Secondly, of course, not all of us have the luck to meet/date rich men. It depends on the social circles/social class you are in. If you life is confined to just work and home, then chances are, you ain't gonna meet any of them. You need to actively go out and express yourself, be it in events or gatherings, or online.
Thirdly, it's not easy to manage wealth and multiply it. If you only wanna be a rich tai-tai who can't help much in your husband's biz/career, chances are, years down the road, you're out of the game, as you become liability and no longer asset. With great power (privileges) comes great responsibility and expectations.
Fourthly, if you're dating a guy who is earning an average income, please develop his potential and push him to success. Your aspiration, dreams and energy level can fuel his ambition to give you the life both of you want -- enjoy comfort without worry, and perhaps, a life of luxury one day. Don't just sit there and complain about him (look down on him and make him feel like a loser) when you yourself have done nothing much to upgrade yourself. It must go both ways/ reciprocal. In order to receive, you need to give first. Sow first, and reap later.
Btw, if a man feels he can't catch up on you, he'll either level up his game to be on par with you (great!), or feel insecure enough to let you go/ become controlling.
Lastly, love a man not for his money, but for his personality, his character, dreams and ambitions, and earning potential. The truly rich man is one who can lose everything, smile and start all over again, and earn the same pot of gold in a decade or two. Now that is what I call true wealth.
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OK, done sharing my part. Feel free to add on any tips and comments. No trolls pls; it's annoying.
Btw, if you're a rich guy, feel free to share what you think/ what qualities you're looking for in a woman/ what type of women deserve you. & maybe give a tip or two about how you achieve success/ build wealth for our fellow forumers to learn from.
Ralna, I have read your entire thread with great interest as this topic somehow has a direct correlation with my present circumstance. I read that you've honed the path towards marrying a rich man and I do understand and agree completely with respect to your convictions and motivations. Based on my experience & feedback from them, their checklist of ideal wife material is as follows:
1) Appearance (tall, pretty, attractive) -- presentable when bringing her to attend biz functions
2) Brain (intelligent, ambitious, highly educated) -- to be their partner, and help them in biz & career
3) Filial to his parents -- most of them are the only/eldest son, so what their mum thinks of their woman is very important
4) Can be a good mum -- they want to produce the best offspring
5) Talented -- have other hobbies or talents, e.g. singing, dancing, cooking, socialising etc
It took me 5 years to perfect myself so that I could attract the men I want. Yeah, I stayed single & unavailable for many years, just to polish myself to near-perfection.
How did I do it?
In terms of looks, I have spent nearly RM50k in the past few years on various skincare treatments to look beautiful, such as going for facials, mani/pedicure, hair treatments (rebonding, colouring), doing my eyebrows, lips, skin hair removal & polishing, body massages etc. Yeah, I look naturally pretty without any makeup; no need to edit photos too. With makeup, I look way more gorgeous. (Yeah, spent so much $$$, will of coz look fabulous.)
On a side note, a woman being able to spend RM10k a year on beauty enhancements without getting bankrupt or in bad debt is a sign of high earning power & prudent financial management. Men find rich/high-earning women attractive too, so be one. (Yeah, easier said than done, but can be done.)
Having good looks alone is not enough. If you are an empty flower vase = look good on the outside but have nothing solid inside, rich men will lose interest fast, coz you're no different from those hot chicks they meet.
So yeah, I spent lots of time reading books, esp. biz, finance, investments etc ("dry & boring" for most women), so that I know what to chat with them, and impress them. Then I also developed side interests, and learnt how to cook delicious meals, sing songs etc. & I work out to shape & tone my body; going to be age 30 but still look around mid-20s.
***
Hard work does pay off.
The outcome? Attracted many high-earning professionals, and went on dates with them. (Birds of a feather flock together )
Also attracted several rich men, who pursued/proposed to me:
1) M, eldest son of a bizman who owns a transportation company. Lives in double-storey semi-D, now runs his father's company. Stole my first kiss without consent. Yeah, punched him after that, but he was still happy.
2) L, eldest son of a bizman who owns a timber lodging company. Lives in double-storey bungalow, drove a Mercedez to fetch me at my house before, for an expensive lunch date. Confessed to me and wished to bring me home to meet his parents.
3) C, only son of a rich family, lives in single-storey bungalow, works in Oil & Gas, earning 5-digit MYR a month. Came to my house one late night (around 10pm+) to give me a box of imported chocolates. Parents are family friends.
4) W, only son of a rich biz family, studied in the U.K. Lives in a bungalow, inherits his family business to supply automobile parts to major car manufacturers. Wished to bring me home to meet his parents.
5) K, eldest son of a rich biz family, studied in the U.K. Inherited family wealth, earning 5-digit SGD a month. We're engaged now. Our anniversary trip this year is to Phuket, pre-wedding photoshoot will be in Taiwan, and the reception + honeymoon (destination wedding) will be in Maldives ← he suggested these countries.
Btw, I'm not working currently; he's supporting me financially. I have 1-2 years to relax and go travel, and upgrade myself to tip-top condition so that we can start own biz and family. He and I have discussed earning in MYR and also in USD, and sending our kids to international school.
***
When you become the best, you will deserve the best. I didn't come from a rich family; was poor and starving before, but I worked hard to the top in terms of studies and career. That made me into a confident and ambitious lady, and not just sit there dressed in rags with self-pity, and passively waiting & daydreaming for some prince to rescue me. Nah, it doesn't happen that way in real life.
A few things to take note:
Firstly, rich guys don't like it when girls covet their wealth. They can easily sense if you are after them, or after their money. Money is important, but greed and materialism is a huge turn-off.
Secondly, of course, not all of us have the luck to meet/date rich men. It depends on the social circles/social class you are in. If you life is confined to just work and home, then chances are, you ain't gonna meet any of them. You need to actively go out and express yourself, be it in events or gatherings, or online.
Thirdly, it's not easy to manage wealth and multiply it. If you only wanna be a rich tai-tai who can't help much in your husband's biz/career, chances are, years down the road, you're out of the game, as you become liability and no longer asset. With great power (privileges) comes great responsibility and expectations.
Fourthly, if you're dating a guy who is earning an average income, please develop his potential and push him to success. Your aspiration, dreams and energy level can fuel his ambition to give you the life both of you want -- enjoy comfort without worry, and perhaps, a life of luxury one day. Don't just sit there and complain about him (look down on him and make him feel like a loser) when you yourself have done nothing much to upgrade yourself. It must go both ways/ reciprocal. In order to receive, you need to give first. Sow first, and reap later.
Btw, if a man feels he can't catch up on you, he'll either level up his game to be on par with you (great!), or feel insecure enough to let you go/ become controlling.
Lastly, love a man not for his money, but for his personality, his character, dreams and ambitions, and earning potential. The truly rich man is one who can lose everything, smile and start all over again, and earn the same pot of gold in a decade or two. Now that is what I call true wealth.
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OK, done sharing my part. Feel free to add on any tips and comments. No trolls pls; it's annoying.
Btw, if you're a rich guy, feel free to share what you think/ what qualities you're looking for in a woman/ what type of women deserve you. & maybe give a tip or two about how you achieve success/ build wealth for our fellow forumers to learn from.
Just to begin, we are of similar age albeit growing up in different backgrounds. I would consider myself to be in the upper echelons of the world, I'm educated overseas, yes I'm the only son and stand to inherit the family business. This is not boasting. For you to understand the points I'm about to make you must first understand my background. I am not just another "rich man's son", I have gone through immeasurable suffering during the 1997 financial crisis which left my family in major debt - we were close to bankruptcy and it's safe to say my family lost everything.
You see Ralna, there is a distinct difference between being born poor (in this case, you) as compared to having everything and then losing them and having to make major changes in life (in this case, me). Because then when you are so comfortable and hell breaks loose you feel a deep pain, a special pain for your parents who continued to fight day and night to keep things afloat. I remember vividly the nights when my mother crying and screaming inconsolably. These are memories which I keep deep within my heart. I'm blessed. Our fortunes turned and once again the family business thrived. We expanded from palm oil to sand mining, concrete, bricks and glass. It's safe to say this oligopoly in the southern region is only controlled by a few major families.
That being said, you did mention your fiancee makes 5 digits in Singapore. If I'm completely honest, I too began my career in the Banking industry in Singapore and I hit 5 digits by the age of 25. This is of course, inclusive of bonuses as they do pay very well in Corporate Finance. Singapore is after all a Financial hub. By 28 I became an Executive Director in a foreign bank in SG. I shall not disclose any further as the banking industry is small and my identity can easily be unmasked based on the 2 paragraphs above. My point is that I made sure to do well and work hard because I understand the value of money - due to my past. I'm proud because through my own cunning and caliber I climbed the corporate ladder swift for my age.
I left the corporate world at 29 (this year) to join the family business.
Now Ralna, on to my main point. I'll be blunt so forgive me. You've done so much and therefore you need to aim higher. Based on your posts I can deduce that your impression of wealth is too modest, or to be blunt, low. You're impressed with a man picking you up with a Mercedes, earning 5 figures, etc. I'll be honest to tell you that any mid-level executive can easily afford a Mercedes. In fact I drove a BMW 3 series at the age of 25, fully funded on my own. Your idea of wealth is limited. The rich can easily afford exotic cars - Lamborghinis, Ferraris which go in the tune of millions. The rich are able to spend the same amount in a single shop in Paris and only fly private.
Onto the topic of gold diggers - I have met my fair share of them. I do not see anything wrong because their intentions are straightforward and so are mine. It's essentially companionship for gifts and meals. Of course, many will hope for a grounded relationship with hopes towards marriage. Nobody can blame a woman for wanting to be set for life, can we? Only smart women would do what you've done (and perhaps even more) to acquire a rich man.
I'm not belittling your efforts but there are too many beautiful, well read, highly intelligent and articulate women I've come across who can really hold a conversation on multiple levels to great depth - be it from financial markets to even religion. In the end I settled for none of them. I suppose matters of the heart is just impossible to explain. I went back to my first love - my sweetheart. She might not be flashy or as dynamic as other women but if I have to explain why, then I'd say that every instinct in my body points towards this woman to be the mother of my children. A woman who did not approach me due to my status or wealth and she's highly aggressive with great business acumen. This is an inborn talent which not many possess.
Ralna, I wish you only the very best. I reckon you're on track towards upper-middle class. Aim higher, because you and your husband have all the potential to work towards it