QUOTE(Ash muhammad 28 @ Jun 13 2018, 12:46 PM)
Im not married but i can understand the situation, my ex too wanted to migrate out from here. and I said no. although the reason is not due to my friends. but migrating is such a big step to be taken that it's not easy to make. One of the reason me and my ex parted ways was because of this. And guess what after 3 freaking years she has yet to migrate to another country. And Im here happy where I am with a stable job, already have a home and Im a happy single person now.
So would I been happy if i followed my ex and migrated overses? would it be the right move? i dont know. But i would miss my current life here. u mentioned he is a successful man and u are pursing a dream career hence I dont see the reason to migrate right? My parents actually migrated when I was small and I stayed in another country for 11 years. All I can say was it was difficult for me there and more difficult for me here Difficult there cause I was different and could not fit in. I dont have childhood friends who i can meet up nor school friends now in Malaysia as all of them I made in another country. Hence I dont want my kids (if i do have) to not have to go through what I went through.
My advise don't get hurt la if your bf dont want to migrate, maybe its best for both of you both not to. see the cons too please.
It will be very selfish of me to force him. Just kinda hurts when he put his friends in the list 1st. So would I been happy if i followed my ex and migrated overses? would it be the right move? i dont know. But i would miss my current life here. u mentioned he is a successful man and u are pursing a dream career hence I dont see the reason to migrate right? My parents actually migrated when I was small and I stayed in another country for 11 years. All I can say was it was difficult for me there and more difficult for me here Difficult there cause I was different and could not fit in. I dont have childhood friends who i can meet up nor school friends now in Malaysia as all of them I made in another country. Hence I dont want my kids (if i do have) to not have to go through what I went through.
My advise don't get hurt la if your bf dont want to migrate, maybe its best for both of you both not to. see the cons too please.
I'm who I am to compare? His friends are with him since they are very young. There is no way I would ask him friends or me.
About my dream career, its abit hard to succeed over here. I am into art field. Companies see us as workers rather than an individual who create. I did as much research as I can and surveys with lecturers. Indeed, they do encourage me getting out from here if I want to go big.
Giving up my career for him is like him giving me up for his friends.