I am 22,i met an accident few years back and injured my back and it left me paraplegic,which means no sensation/movement below my hip.I'm living with my family/parents,i'm doing preety good eventhough i can't walk i still earn some monies for my own expenses.Here's the story.

Few years back when i was chatting,because i've nothing better to do since i'm on wheelchair,i got to know a girl in ICQ,she's 25 now.We was chatting like everyday from the day we know each other and then it goes till sms and calls,later after few months she said she like me and i was like 'wat the...' i thought that's normal and i told her the same but i didn't tell her about my condition.Later i told her about my condition and she accept it without further questions.I told her the full story,how it happened and what's my current condition also till today there's no treatment for such injuries like mine.Fine everything was preety okay and we started to love each other.It passed 3 years and we're still continuing our relationship without meeting each other before.We're on sms/calls/mms/ym till today.

There's sceintists who're doing great in medical fields arround the globe and soon maybe 3-5 years there will be a cure or near-to-cure treatment for injuries/condition like mine.That's great!Which means i still have hope to be a normal human/man,walking of course.

The problem is my girl is a muslim and i'm christian.We both strong enough on our beleives and faith.I respect her religion and she respect mine too.In this situation,it is hard for us to be together since a non muslim should convert to a muslim religion if they wanted to marry a muslim women/man.

I told her that i'm strong with my religion and i don't want to convert,therefore after i think deeply i told her to leave me and it is better for both of us because i can't convert my religion to marry her.She cried and told me that she don't mind if i can't marry her,she's willing to be like this forever (She's great!).It's already few times i talk with her about this matter and she's still with her decision which is, she's willing to continue our relationship without getting married.I love her ver much as how she's loving me so i guess it will be ok someday soon.

Few weeks ago she told me that she's willing to come over here,kedah get a job and stay here just because she wanted to meet me everyday and be with me whenever possible but she's not sure when because her parents kinda control type.

At this point,i'm feeling very bad because she's willing to sacrifice lotsa things but i feel like i'm selfish and never sacrifice anything for her.I don't know why am i feeling like this,i think it is because she's willing not to marry if i'm not intend to do so and willing to shift to my place, left her family just because she loves me.

The only problem is religion.My parents brought me up with christianity and i love and respect my religion very much.

I'm not sure if you guys really get what i'm trying to say but i think it's quite understand-able so i just want to ask you guys for opinion,any kinda opinion,suggestion,advise will be appreciated!

I am 22,i met an accident few years back and injured my back and it left me paraplegic,which means no sensation/movement below my hip.I'm living with my family/parents,i'm doing preety good eventhough i can't walk i still earn some monies for my own expenses.Here's the story.

Few years back when i was chatting,because i've nothing better to do since i'm on wheelchair,i got to know a girl in ICQ,she's 25 now.We was chatting like everyday from the day we know each other and then it goes till sms and calls,later after few months she said she like me and i was like 'wat the...' i thought that's normal and i told her the same but i didn't tell her about my condition.Later i told her about my condition and she accept it without further questions.I told her the full story,how it happened and what's my current condition also till today there's no treatment for such injuries like mine.Fine everything was preety okay and we started to love each other.It passed 3 years and we're still continuing our relationship without meeting each other before.We're on sms/calls/mms/ym till today.

There's sceintists who're doing great in medical fields arround the globe and soon maybe 3-5 years there will be a cure or near-to-cure treatment for injuries/condition like mine.That's great!Which means i still have hope to be a normal human/man,walking of course.

The problem is my girl is a muslim and i'm christian.We both strong enough on our beleives and faith.I respect her religion and she respect mine too.In this situation,it is hard for us to be together since a non muslim should convert to a muslim religion if they wanted to marry a muslim women/man.

I told her that i'm strong with my religion and i don't want to convert,therefore after i think deeply i told her to leave me and it is better for both of us because i can't convert my religion to marry her.She cried and told me that she don't mind if i can't marry her,she's willing to be like this forever (She's great!).It's already few times i talk with her about this matter and she's still with her decision which is, she's willing to continue our relationship without getting married.I love her ver much as how she's loving me so i guess it will be ok someday soon.

Few weeks ago she told me that she's willing to come over here,kedah get a job and stay here just because she wanted to meet me everyday and be with me whenever possible but she's not sure when because her parents kinda control type.

At this point,i'm feeling very bad because she's willing to sacrifice lotsa things but i feel like i'm selfish and never sacrifice anything for her.I don't know why am i feeling like this,i think it is because she's willing not to marry if i'm not intend to do so and willing to shift to my place, left her family just because she loves me.

The only problem is religion.My parents brought me up with christianity and i love and respect my religion very much.

I'm not sure if you guys really get what i'm trying to say but i think it's quite understand-able so i just want to ask you guys for opinion,any kinda opinion,suggestion,advise will be appreciated!

just cause u convert to a muslim. doesnt mean u have to follow it .

I got friends with chinese dads and muslim moms. who eat char siew pau and pray to buddha .

it dosent matter wat the religion is . its up to u . when ur kids turn 18. let them choose their own religion. u can always move to singapore and renounce ur islam religion and live as a chrisitan if u really like.

OK back to your dillema, do you even realized that this COULD be the last girl whom will accept your condition and willing to go thru thick and thin with you? I can see she is really a very kind hearted person...if I'm in your shoes, I'll plunge right in. She is willing to sacrifice so much for you so why cant you give something back? Talk to your parents...tell them what else you gotta lose? You're already rock bottom so, you've nothing to fear...but everything to gain.

Just do it....

Dun tok bout those bullshit stuff like the first bolded. Since you can say not many able-bodied girls accept ppl like TS, so can we used back what you said to make a deduction that there's a BIG chance the girl is also "using" TS also? Especially with an added fact that both never met each other b4. It's simply "GOD-SENT" huh for someone to fell in love with another while not having to meet each other before.

its' religion. dunt play play with it.  From how TS said it, his religion is his EVERYTHING also. why she can go ALL the way to concern and accept his everything, and yet didn't practice ACCEPTANCE on his religion (acceptance only. He's NOT EVEN asked her to convert to his religion also). Sometimes things r pretty fishy.

If both party keep to his and her religion and be happy about it, then now this is TRUE acceptance.

Why talk about religion now. Wait for the both of them to actually meet and physically date one another first. Take it from there. They haven't even met yet and everyone's going on about getting married and religion.

Dun tok bout those bullshit stuff like the first bolded. Since you can say not many able-bodied girls accept ppl like TS, so can we used back what you said to make a deduction that there's a BIG chance the girl is also "using" TS also? Especially with an added fact that both never met each other b4. It's simply "GOD-SENT" huh for someone to fell in love with another while not having to meet each other before.

its' religion. dunt play play with it.  From how TS said it, his religion is his EVERYTHING also. why she can go ALL the way to concern and accept his everything, and yet didn't practice ACCEPTANCE on his religion (acceptance only. He's NOT EVEN asked her to convert to his religion also). Sometimes things r pretty fishy.

If both party keep to his and her religion and be happy about it, then now this is TRUE acceptance.

Hello, you think our fren is that dumb, just listen to my word and go meet this girl 1st time in his life in the nasional registra office ready to sign marriage certificate ka??? We cannot comment much coz we dont know...but base on only what lil information he wrote, do you think its easy to find an able bodied girl to commit into a rship with a wheelchair bound person? Unless he's damn rich than I see a motive...otherwise I think shes an angel...would you commit yourself to a wheelchair bound wife? ask yourself this question 1st.

2nd she is not being selfish about the religion issue...are you even living in Msia??? Here there is no choice...the gomen didnt give anyone (muslim) a choice, they cannot come out from the religion, so if they fall in love with a non-muslim its always the other party must sacrifice...unless you migrate elsewhere....

If u know u cant eat spicy food, would u eat it?
U know u'll cry after eating it....

Never try never know is it?

first bolded: Then why r u commenting here now?

second bolded: so u emphasized again not many able-bodied girl would wan a wheelchair bound guy. So I also make deduction that that "girl" he's involved wiv now also MIGHT be using him too? Same like how u make your assumption that girl should be very very good and "sacrificing" already to pick him. You with your opinions, and mine with my reservations.

3rd bolded: so that's why she insist he convert ? SInce she willing to "sacrifice"  (laughs) so much for accepting such a guy, why dun she go further and get out of this country wiv him, instead of requiring him to convert or else.

Note to TS: You religion carried you so far, giving you strength to live on after you the mishap that happened to you. I;m sure you will really have utmost faith in that. Dun't because of one girl, you sacrifice your religion. For one such girl who accept u "partially" (accept you but NOT your religion), there r thousands more who will accept you completely. Dun't fall for the same old marketing trick  like "better choose her coz there's not many of her kind anymore!" .

btw, when u lost a girl like her, dun worry. there might b as good or maybe even better one in the future. But when u converted and change your mind...... I;m sure you know what awaits u. u willing to gamble ?

I'm planning to meet her,as some of you guys said it is better to meet each other first to have better understanding.At that time we can talk face to face about this matter and decide to continue our relationship or not.

I've been talking with her about this matter for few days and she always sms something like this.... 'Don't think about it anymore,i'm willing to be with you without getting married,i love you very much and i don't want to end our relationship.'

IMO, if both of you have the chance get out of this country.

It is this country's law that forbidding you both from being together. Why a non-Muslim must convert after marriage. One simple reason, because the law says so. I dont think there's any obstruction between you two except for the law.

Dont you think it will be the best if you moved out from this country ? You can still practice Christianity and she stays as a Muslim. So what's the problem ? Its just like the case of a Buddhist marrying a Christian.

what if malaysia dont have this law..
ermmmm, what about their children??...i think if u khawin, one of the reason is to get children. Children is important i think. If their mum is muslim, and their father is Christian, and their children would be..??

I've been talking with her about this matter for few days and she always sms something like this.... 'Don't think about it anymore,i'm willing to be with you without getting married,i love you very much and i don't want to end our relationship.'

I really don't know what to do in this situation.