Apr 17 2007, 08:27 AM
QUOTE(Conroe @ Apr 17 2007, 04:24 AM)
I am 22,i met an accident few years back and injured my back and it left me paraplegic,which means no sensation/movement below my hip.I'm living with my family/parents,i'm doing preety good eventhough i can't walk i still earn some monies for my own expenses.Here's the story.
Few years back when i was chatting,because i've nothing better to do since i'm on wheelchair,i got to know a girl in ICQ,she's 25 now.We was chatting like everyday from the day we know each other and then it goes till sms and calls,later after few months she said she like me and i was like 'wat the...' i thought that's normal and i told her the same but i didn't tell her about my condition.Later i told her about my condition and she accept it without further questions.I told her the full story,how it happened and what's my current condition also till today there's no treatment for such injuries like mine.Fine everything was preety okay and we started to love each other.It passed 3 years and we're still continuing our relationship without meeting each other before.We're on sms/calls/mms/ym till today.
There's sceintists who're doing great in medical fields arround the globe and soon maybe 3-5 years there will be a cure or near-to-cure treatment for injuries/condition like mine.That's great!Which means i still have hope to be a normal human/man,walking of course.
The problem is my girl is a muslim and i'm christian.We both strong enough on our beleives and faith.I respect her religion and she respect mine too.In this situation,it is hard for us to be together since a non muslim should convert to a muslim religion if they wanted to marry a muslim women/man.
I told her that i'm strong with my religion and i don't want to convert,therefore after i think deeply i told her to leave me and it is better for both of us because i can't convert my religion to marry her.She cried and told me that she don't mind if i can't marry her,she's willing to be like this forever (She's great!).It's already few times i talk with her about this matter and she's still with her decision which is, she's willing to continue our relationship without getting married.I love her ver much as how she's loving me so i guess it will be ok someday soon.
Few weeks ago she told me that she's willing to come over here,kedah get a job and stay here just because she wanted to meet me everyday and be with me whenever possible but she's not sure when because her parents kinda control type.
At this point,i'm feeling very bad because she's willing to sacrifice lotsa things but i feel like i'm selfish and never sacrifice anything for her.I don't know why am i feeling like this,i think it is because she's willing not to marry if i'm not intend to do so and willing to shift to my place, left her family just because she loves me.
The only problem is religion.My parents brought me up with christianity and i love and respect my religion very much.
I'm not sure if you guys really get what i'm trying to say but i think it's quite understand-able so i just want to ask you guys for opinion,any kinda opinion,suggestion,advise will be appreciated!
To TS...i hope this will help u gain confidence that religion will not be a factor..because i know some couples who faced this sort of circumstances but it worked for the better..the example is similar to yours where the girl who is a muslim whom she married to someone born as a christian.they got married and had two seperate weddings.where they held the wedding in a chapel and as well as the malay traditional way of "nikah" and "bersanding".i would point out that the parents of both families were open minded about this.though he did convert to a muslim but still hold an english name.this couple is happily married and is expecting a child..Few years back when i was chatting,because i've nothing better to do since i'm on wheelchair,i got to know a girl in ICQ,she's 25 now.We was chatting like everyday from the day we know each other and then it goes till sms and calls,later after few months she said she like me and i was like 'wat the...' i thought that's normal and i told her the same but i didn't tell her about my condition.Later i told her about my condition and she accept it without further questions.I told her the full story,how it happened and what's my current condition also till today there's no treatment for such injuries like mine.Fine everything was preety okay and we started to love each other.It passed 3 years and we're still continuing our relationship without meeting each other before.We're on sms/calls/mms/ym till today.
There's sceintists who're doing great in medical fields arround the globe and soon maybe 3-5 years there will be a cure or near-to-cure treatment for injuries/condition like mine.That's great!Which means i still have hope to be a normal human/man,walking of course.
The problem is my girl is a muslim and i'm christian.We both strong enough on our beleives and faith.I respect her religion and she respect mine too.In this situation,it is hard for us to be together since a non muslim should convert to a muslim religion if they wanted to marry a muslim women/man.
I told her that i'm strong with my religion and i don't want to convert,therefore after i think deeply i told her to leave me and it is better for both of us because i can't convert my religion to marry her.She cried and told me that she don't mind if i can't marry her,she's willing to be like this forever (She's great!).It's already few times i talk with her about this matter and she's still with her decision which is, she's willing to continue our relationship without getting married.I love her ver much as how she's loving me so i guess it will be ok someday soon.
Few weeks ago she told me that she's willing to come over here,kedah get a job and stay here just because she wanted to meet me everyday and be with me whenever possible but she's not sure when because her parents kinda control type.
At this point,i'm feeling very bad because she's willing to sacrifice lotsa things but i feel like i'm selfish and never sacrifice anything for her.I don't know why am i feeling like this,i think it is because she's willing not to marry if i'm not intend to do so and willing to shift to my place, left her family just because she loves me.
The only problem is religion.My parents brought me up with christianity and i love and respect my religion very much.
I'm not sure if you guys really get what i'm trying to say but i think it's quite understand-able so i just want to ask you guys for opinion,any kinda opinion,suggestion,advise will be appreciated!
there is another couple who were in the same position but in the end it turned out great for over 30 years of marriage.the "He" was a muslim and the "she" was a christian.she did convert but she still has religious beliefs.i'm not saying its bad to think that marriage is impossible because of religion restrictions...perhaps if both sets of parents are open minded with your situation perhaps they may see that your pure love is enough to grant you and your gf their blessings. i am not going round the bush. as there are couples where the spouse did not convert but to have children later..it might be confusing for their children to know what religion are they..if you wish to continue.i am not saying you should sacrifice your own beliefs.but think it this way.love is a wonderful thing.why stop loving..if it can be sorted out in a way then it may planned out correctly.
religion did not stop these couples getting married.to be honest..the marriage of these ppl if you wish to know me..please drop me a message..as this is related to my family ties and i do not want to publicly announce it..as i have witness a bond without boundaries nor restrictions
This post has been edited by cursed: Apr 17 2007, 08:31 AM
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