Both need to be open. It's about both future and your children's future.

Hope both of you remain together no matter the outcome.

Thankyou for the constructive feedback guys.
I do hope it can work out somehow, keeping faith

I don't understand why they set such conditions. It's pure beliefs without any reasoning. Maybe it is in the Bible.

well God did said who are you to judge? its mutual respect that builds relationship, one must respect each faith too. if youre serious then show her what it like to be a follower and never force anyone into something.

Good luck

It's different between the two regarding the views of their own God. That's why most christians would prefer marrying those who has the same religion.

Gotcha!

I read an article about Muslim minority in Christian majority country protesting that school canteen cannot serve pork sausage as it's disrespectful to Muslim student. What they fail, totally FAILED at realizing is the majority 99.7% of non-muslim student will be discriminated from having their favourite curry wurst during their school break. If the 0.3% don't get what they want; it's called racism instead of madness.

This is essentially the root to majority of religious related conflict at larger scale.

Like always in all my arguments, thank sky and thank land, not all religious individual buys into that madness.

P.S. You beat me to it.

my bf is christian, im a buddhist. getting married soon and didn't come up with the must be with same religion partner. but i'm ok to convert to christian.

but if i'm not willing to convert, i will try to discuss with my partner before break up. maybe she will accept your decision?

must be her parents poisoned her mind that way.
I dont understand why does this kind of things can bother relationship.

i find those christian converts to be very fanatic.

and especially those non-catholic christians.

I am a Christian and my wife is a Taoist, in fact, her whole family is a Taoist. We got married two (2) years ago, no llamas in the family to create dramas and I don't contemplate there will ever be.

To be honest, I have to admit that I am not a staunch Christian but I still have my principles and lines which I will never cross. Inter-faith relationship is something that I never take into account during courtship as anything could happen in between so why burdened myself with all these unnecessary thoughts that would potentially create rifts in an otherwise harmonious relationship.

Sometimes, people architect their own demise, creating death traps out of thin air and at the end of the day, pushes blame to other factors save for their own.

True, I am aware that the bible says that a believer shall not yoke themselves with a non-believer (ie. only marry someone who shares the same faith as you) but it depends on which perspective you are looking from.

I even consulted the pastor prior to my registration of marriage (ROM) from my church and he told me that my marriage cannot be completed in church simply because my wife isn't a "believer" so in order for me to do so, my wife needs to be a believer. Savage, yes but I understand where my pastor is coming from because he is tied down by the rules in the bible but to me, what is the point of forcing something into a faith just so that that particular individual could marry?

Is this against free will? God gave all men (women included) free will, to decide what they want to do with their lives so to me, having someone converted into a different faith for the sake of marriage is against this doctrine hence invalid.

Besides, it is a "duty" for Christians to spread the good news so don't you think it would be a wiser option to marry a non-believer and the convince him/her that the ways of Christianity is good? Isn't it a better objective that your other halves free-willingly becomes a believer rather than telling people "i'm a Christian because my husband/wife is"?

At the end of the day, no matter what factors you are considering, a couple needs to be understanding and toleration is the keys, there will be no peace if both parties are constantly at each others' end waiting for someone to complete that one tasks. If she her end objective is for you to convert and you are not sure if you will convert then my friend, let me tell you one thing, both of you have a vital different.

Don't change faith to please another, faith is personal and you should consider yourself and yourself only. You are answerable to yourself.

The real question, is interfaith marriage possible? To me, yes.

My wives' family adheres to their routine of worshiping and I don't join them. They bring incense to their deity, I don't join them, they bring incense to their ancestors, I merely bow to pay my respects to them. I don't eat foods that have been offered to their deities and they respected me, so they always keep a portion away for me.

Do i hope that one day my wife would tell me she wants to share the same faith as I, of course because I want to spent the rest of whatever time I have after my death with her, whether it is in heaven or not.

The point is this, none of you should force each other to do anything in respect of the faith each both of you now possess. Not now, not ever. If any there should be a conversion, it should be free from influences.

non-catholic Christians alot leh... you encountered all those like Jehovah Witnesses izzit XD

the "shophouses" ones

"shophouses" one i think are mostly protestants but as my experience tells me, protestants are the more liberal ones. Catholics on the other hand are more, aggressive because they are still very much obliged to the old testaments of the bible.

heck, they still issue out abstinence cards XD

like, really? abstinence?

In your case, the guy is a christian.

The problematic stories i always hear from others is when the girl is a christian.

I notice that guys are more accommodating when comes to this issue.

If the girl is a christian, it's a definite.. "no, no, my partner must be christian".

we're still happily married for many years. same situation. No issues.
want to know further, pm ya. no need to share the whole world to know.

This post has been edited by mydurian: Apr 18 2017, 01:01 PM

Having schooled in a catholic school with catholic friends, I find them to be very liberal and relax compared to the times when i start meeting Protestant friends in college and at work. The ones that post all those bible quotes and verses on FB every time are not catholics.

What is abstinence card?

You cannot compare like that la. You met your "catholic friends" when you are growing up (below teen), of course la they treat you different because all of you grew up with only one thing in mind "friends". None of you are tainted with the ideology of politics and religion yet. You cannot realize something is wrong when you aren't given a set of rules to follow yet.

Ask a Standard 3 child and see if he/she knows what is racism.

The frequency of you seeing posts regarding bible quotes in FB cannot be taken as an indication that protestants are "not liberal" la. It's just probabilities, the amount of protestant friends you have, catholic friends you have and etc but I have to admit, protestants are more "outspoken and expressive" in the sense that they need to reveal to the world what they know.

To be fair, all Christians are radical in their own way. Protestants are more out in the open but Catholics are more subdued in nature because they are very much still the "traditional" kind. You don't hear rock version of Christian songs in Catholic churches XD

Abstinence card is a card issued to the individual who has pledged abstinence from sexual activity until they are married.

I have a female friend who has that card in her purse and 10 out of 9 of her friends know that card is as valid as an expired AEON card. As far as I'm concerned, if she takes a oath before entering church, the door will burn.

yea, i was shocked when someone shared a post about why christian can't date non-christian and the blogger is a girl. content is like what adultery and bla bla bla. I don't think some male christian won't commit adultery

This.

I'm agnostic but so far on separate occasions, I've avoided progressing further into a relationship with 2 girls who are both Protestants.

Both wanted me to convert or at least start following them to church every Sunday before progressing any further.