One of you will have to give in.... basic relationship 101... from dealing on finance, to children, to hobby, to work.... if things can be resolve among both of you peacefully then there should be no problem

Hey there

Nope, I don't follow my wife to temple and prays, her family knows that and they are ok with it as well. Also during our marriage day, her side of the family got up early to give respect to the ancestors before me and my heng dai reach her hose for the tea ceremony.

It happen to me, im in buddhism religion kena friendzoned past few years ago and ive already move on, she told me this is the main problem without same religion,thinking,aititude and behavior will be totally different.

Without same religion better don't even start to think about relationship and don't want take the risk,she said.

1. Is she RC?
2. If she is RC you might have to go RC too.

I also had once the same doubt as you. My ex was christian and I was a buddhist.

at the end of the day it's about compromising. if she's ok following to you to pray at the temple then its ok. if you're ok joining her for weekly church activities or worships, then its ok too.

anyhow our relationship did not work out in the end.

best of luck to you TS. Sometimes I'm not even sure why we limit ourselves to religion when it comes to love

so it is not 100% mutual respect after all. your wife tries to get involved in your religion but you didn't even try. nothing wrong though.

Very clearly Buddhism is more open in this context. What does religion have to do with love?
We have to know the difference and separate them. When you love someone, you love the person and you should not expect someone to convert to your religion or follow your beliefs. A religion which forces someone to convert to their religion upon marriage is not a good religion in my humble opinion, because you are using love to lure people into your religion instead of faith.

First she said, if my boyfriend love me he will accompany me to church,

Then she continue, if my future husband love me he will convert to christian for me.

Then after marriage, If my husband lvoe me he will <insert next request>

can't you see their brain washing you.

Why not say if you love me! Don't influence my decision on what I wanna do with my life?? Hmmm?

Well, I have a Christian male friend, he did mention if he gonna marry his girlfriend, the girl must convert to Christian in order to enter marriage stage otherwise he will choose to break up...
This is what I can share from my knowledge even though I disagree with him as I believe love can conquer / accept anything included religion

This post has been edited by XloveE: Apr 4 2017, 03:04 PM

no! Christian want everybody be a Christian, even ur family member pun want to be a Christian

For inter-faith to work, a lot has to be discussed.

1. What are the goals in terms of religion for both parties? (separate religion? doing religious activities together? child up bringing? Super involved in activities?)

2. How strong is family influence on religion? (Seriously, if your parents don't support, its gonna be a really really tough road. Also how ready are you to deal with pressure from 'religious' friends, relatives, etc.)

3. If maintain separate religion, are both parties willing to learn and support each other? (It makes a lot of sense for you to still support your partner in their spiritual journey even if they are on a different path. You chose to marry anyway right?)

IMHO, stories about people forcing their partners to convert are there. But, there are also stories about people able to work it out while maintaining separate religions.

I'm a Christian and my bf is an agnostic (though he identifies himself as a Buddhist in his IC). I didn't expect myself to fall for someone of different religion, but then it happened.

Well, I could accept him coz he doesn't go to temple often, and there isn't any altar in his house (though his mum goes to temple). We talked about having kids; he's okay with me bringing them to church. Plus, he's into theology and likes to study religions, so he knows a lot about Christianity, we can openly talk about it.

I pray for him and sometimes I share with him about my faith, but I won't convert him. Faith is a matter of choice out of free will, and in Christian language, it is the work of the Holy Spirit to convict the unbelievers and bring them to Christ.

I'm not sure whether he'll be a Christian in the end, but I believe there's a time and place for what is meant to happen, to happen. All I need to do is share the gospel and my journey in faith with him, and pray for him. The rest, I'll leave it to God.

After all, God gives us the free will to choose our paths. Forcing your partner to convert for the sake of converting or gaining church membership or family approval is not what pleases God.

Jesus never forced people to convert anyway. The first few disciples made the choice to follow him when He said, “Come, follow me, and I will make you fishers of men.” (Matthew 4:19) It was an invitation, not a command or threat ("You must follow me, if not I won't make you fishers of men.")

To Christians, the moment you tell your unbeliever partner, "You must be a Christian, if not I won't date you or marry you.", you are pushing him/ her away (and perhaps making him/her misunderstand/ hate Christianity), rather than drawing him/her nearer to Christ. While the intention to 'convert' him/her is out of your concern for your unequal yoke, aren't you sinful as well if you push him/her away from knowing Christ? That's falling into the religious trap and becoming hypocritical & legalistic like those Pharisees.

This post has been edited by Ralna: Apr 5 2017, 02:10 PM

Who cares about religion?

Some people want to have church wedding.

I think most church nowadays need you both to be Christian and also member in order to use their premises.

Why do most Christians want their spouses/partners to join them to churches when they themselves don't want to go to temples? Selfishness?
Maybe it's because they were brought up that way. Maybe they thought their religion/god is the real one and others are false. How can you prove that yours are real and other religion's gods are false?

Most of all Christian are faithful to our GOD, if you really faithful with her...

You need to make a choice... Not for religion wise is about faithful on something.

Is about faithful on something AND not about religion !

Only the religion leader misleading the followers...

Depends on the girl. If she put God first then yes, she will normally want her partner to convert.

You will then know how logical she is depending on which one she chooses. God is nowhere to be seen while the partner is alive and tangible. If she chose to believe something that she has never seen... well.

Another thing is, faith has nothing to do with choosing a partner. Unless of course you mean believing in the Bible(the words of god) which (compulsory or not, I am not sure) the spouse has to be a Christian.

I have a friend who is a Christian and she told me that her partner must be a Christian. Not sure how old and how deep are you in the relationship but if you know you never convert and she continue saying that her partner must be a Christian, then my suggestion is to move and and just be friends. Don't waste time.