My my, this topic sure fires up a lot of war here! I said yes in the poll, I'm a girl. No not a slut. I've been with my bf for 6 years this january. We've been having sex for 5 years now. Yup, the first few times really annoyed me to high heaven. Both were first timer, didn't know what is arousal, foreplay, lubricated or not. After a huge fight between me and him same like the starter thread. I told him the problem, he get moody for a week. I told him to read up on some for FEMALe magazine to understand female better. I went searching for overseas magazine like Cosmo and their website. Read a lot of tips from there and read up on some sex education sites. We compared notes after 2 weeks,realised the problem was we lack communication and I'm not aroused enough for a penetration to happen, and he watched too much misleading japanese porn.
Not just old lady need lubricant, young lady with imbalance hormone will get dry down there as well. Just ask your gynae.
Of course, guys should learn more on how to get your girl pleasure as well if they don't get lubricated enough of course it hurts and get sore afterward.
I do know a lot of guys just jumped right in without foreplay, that is just selfish. Your girl is not a prostitute how can you just pierce her like that? Come on, sex is a two way street. You give and take. Patience and rational talking is important.
And a note to guys and some innocent young girls- Porn movie especially japanese type, does not potrayed real pleasuring sex and sometimes their techniques is very painful for girls but pleasuring for guys. And those hard rubbing is brutal and not pleasuring at all for girls!

I do hope my too detailed opinion do not offend anyone. Just don't be too brutal to me if you disagree

This post has been edited by karenapril: Feb 2 2009, 09:56 PM

i will go for no 1!It's important for both!

God create men and not the other way around.

I think you should open up a little bit here. Marriage is just another excuse used to engage in sexual activities. What are the worth of these marriage paper that you and your wife sign? If the person heart not with you, no matter you bound them up with a marriage contract or rope also they will find a way to meet 3rd party and engage in various activity with him/her.

Ask yourself. What is sex? Just an another interaction of two organs. If this is sinful, then we should ban couple holding hands, hugging, kissing or any kind of skin contact between them because one thing leads to another and all these skin contact are basically illegal if you abide the rules. We should just resort back to the old method of matchmaking and marry/married whoever our parents choosen.

Like I said, some people choose to be controlled by lust and some choose to control their lust. The choice is yours to make. What choice other people make is not your concern. (ie. if you are willing to let the guy screw you, then prepared yourself mentally that you might get pregnant and he doesnt want to be responsible for it). You have to be responsible for whatever action you took and NOT TO BLAME OTHER ON DECEIVING YOU. There is no one else to BLAME BUT YOURSELF. Thats why I said IT'S ALL ABOUT YOURSELF. Think before you act.

marriage is not a peice of paper like u think, its show how serious both partner to spend their life and prepare to enter the world of pa and ma. Yes its sinful to have holding hands, hugging, kissing or any kind of skin contact before marriage in some religions.

But many people ignore this because have person like u who just make decision using ur brain and not refer to the lifestyle of the religions or culture.

Of cos god create men, but not all thing that god create can be use like you want, each of them has limitation. That why have thing called Bad and good. If god give hand, it doesnt mean we can steal and we can blindly stab people around.

Your way of perspective may ruin the world if u based of god create men and means we can do anything.

You may choose the way of west countries do sex or what ever do you want. And if the person love each other so much, it no need to do sex until it legally to do after marriage to make sure the relation going on, and yes..it was ask by religion.

If you that dun have any religion may dun understand this kind of problem and just act with ur normal capability brain.

i would say sex is the expression of love...

I would say love is just a feeling and sex is just a game.....

Up to you... paper is still a paper at the end of the day and never can be used as a gauge to measure the responsilibity and seriousness to enter the further part of our life. Its just that people that play by the rules that feel the others are bad whereas rules is just another tool to manipulate/control people's behaviour.

Rules is just like a transparent window. It really depends on which side you view from.

No offence, go get more in depth in ur religion. No religion allows u to have sex before marriage. I`m a Christian

God gave men that to use it wisely. Agreed on what the user said, men should not treat their female counterparts for their own sexual needs

This post has been edited by shaun3230: Apr 7 2009, 09:07 PM

This sex thread had become religion argument thread ~.~

Dude, do you even know what adultery is? It's when a married person has sexual relations with someone other than his/her legal spouse. It has nothing to do with being sexually active before marriage. No offense, perhaps it is you who need to study your religion in more depth.

What about women who treat their male counterparts for their own sexual needs? Are you going to excuse them?

yes, sex is important to a relationship..
i read somewhere that a certain religion that doesn't allow sex before marriage only applies to the whole virginity thing.. but other forms of sex like oral and all those can be done before marriage..

My god, don't preach what you don't know. Look up the word before you shoot from your mouth, or in this case, type on the keyboard.

it is important, but however the guy should have been more caring towards his GF or suppose to said Wife...because she is pain thus he should take a better approach to make her enjoy as well...because Sex should be enjoyed by both parties not only one party enjoyment. perhaps he should apply Lubricant to her private part or maybe she is too stressful or too nervous...both these factors can affect a girl in sex where she is too "dry" thus causing her pain

just a bit of my opinion

i am still single now, btw, i thought that if she(my gf) is very suitable for me and most likely to get married only have sex ma. what for lose virginity for nothing?

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Added on February 5, 2009, 3:18 amvirginity very important la. men prefer virgin women and (for me) i will love her more lo.

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Added on February 5, 2009, 3:21 amif married adi everyday have sex also nvm la. but still dating/courting sound abit different lor

This post has been edited by thken: Feb 5 2009, 03:21 AM

sex is important, but it's not the be all end all.

I'll do it for my offsprings.

yes sex is important...but then both of them is still inexperience if the guys is not doing it right it will not only hurt but then injured the gal vagina and cause infection as well.. read more magazine like men/women health they teach you the proper way and enjoy sex... and read more on blog and stuff ...

afta married...Y.E.S

for me yes.

Sex is important, but never mix it with your feelin with the gal. You must love the gal but not love having sex with her. This will cause the relationship to be only for sex not love