My my, this topic sure fires up a lot of war here! I said yes in the poll, I'm a girl. No not a slut. I've been with my bf for 6 years this january. We've been having sex for 5 years now. Yup, the first few times really annoyed me to high heaven. Both were first timer, didn't know what is arousal, foreplay, lubricated or not. After a huge fight between me and him same like the starter thread. I told him the problem, he get moody for a week. I told him to read up on some for FEMALe magazine to understand female better. I went searching for overseas magazine like Cosmo and their website. Read a lot of tips from there and read up on some sex education sites. We compared notes after 2 weeks,realised the problem was we lack communication and I'm not aroused enough for a penetration to happen, and he watched too much misleading japanese porn.
Not just old lady need lubricant, young lady with imbalance hormone will get dry down there as well. Just ask your gynae.
Of course, guys should learn more on how to get your girl pleasure as well if they don't get lubricated enough of course it hurts and get sore afterward.
I do know a lot of guys just jumped right in without foreplay, that is just selfish. Your girl is not a prostitute how can you just pierce her like that? Come on, sex is a two way street. You give and take. Patience and rational talking is important.
And a note to guys and some innocent young girls- Porn movie especially japanese type, does not potrayed real pleasuring sex and sometimes their techniques is very painful for girls but pleasuring for guys. And those hard rubbing is brutal and not pleasuring at all for girls!

I do hope my too detailed opinion do not offend anyone. Just don't be too brutal to me if you disagree

This post has been edited by karenapril: Feb 2 2009, 09:56 PM