i wanna give gift they say cannot... they say chinese give ang pow only or angpow + gift... cannot give gift only...sooooooooo i choose give ang pow lor... i just feel why so materialistic... but briantwj say "from the guest's pov, ok la, the bride respect me as his frens/family, appreciate his effort to invite me, hence help with the dinner bill lo. " based on this sentence i hypnotize myself.

if you tak suka , then no need go lor next time @.@ ...

just treat the ang pau as a support to your fren laaaaa .. nobody call you give RM888 also .. bagi RM 88 cukup laaa hahhahaha .. even less that that also nvm .. dont write your nameeeee .. that it .

Expecting your guests to give at least a minimum amount of angpow is not only disrespectful to them, but to you and your family. When you throw a wedding banquet, you're inviting your guests to celebrate one of the most important days in your life with you.
Their presence alone should be a great honour. Angpow is a token of appreciation and should be left at that. There should be no pressure whatsoever.

I'm getting married soon, and already decide with my wife-to-be to throw a banquet that is intimate and keep it below 200 pax. Any guest we invite will be significant people in our lives.

We've set the money aside and all expenses should be rightly borne by us. If there's angpow money, we consider it bonus and gift. And if nobody gives us any angpow at all, we're absolutely fine with that.

Wedding dinner is not a business

Congrats and may you and your special half have a blissful wedding

And that the people who attend your wedding return home happy because of your love sharing

yeah i dunno this is only MY all or cainis, really sad on both side actually

1. you had 2 pay
2. they had spend lot money to impress... forced

chinese tradition.

next time my wedding 100% wont accept angpao. in chinese there's a saying: dont wear such big hat if you dont have such big head.

belanja people pun x mampu still wanna marry. rip logic.

Lol thats y u have no frens.

Got ppl hold gun on ur head force you go? Wake up la ur not that important.

for those not close one...they invite your money to cover their cost only..

Wedding that at kampung unker auntie restaurant come masak pay RM100
Wedding that at 5 star Ritz Carlton classy hotel also pay RM100
Wedding that not attending also pay RM100
Would be wrong

Try that for 50 tables.. I have 7 cousins doing collection @ the reception for me and with the amount of ppl flocking into the hotel we can only tell them their table number and guide those uncle aunty who were lost. No time to write down your name la do this and that. those give angpow they accept those no give we just ask them to walk in nia.

and that's right when you are getting married and if you are thinking the wedding dinner could make you money... please get a divorce and do that over and over again la.

i doubt u so not cheapskate, married or lelonging? i dont need a super rich friend cos i friend with human that can get along with me no matter u rich or no rich... so u already mention only the poor will ask for angpow and those can afford for wedding dinner like jay chou dont need angpow. meaning no so big head dont wear so big hat la. u poor then just dont held wedding dinner. go sign paper and eat with family gaodim. post photo at fb say married finish. see u talk like this rich rich rich = kiddo... u got RM1 in ur wallet, u already super rich compare to other people that dont have RM1 in their wallet. easy as that.

This post has been edited by HoneyPink: Oct 15 2015, 01:38 AM

i hope i not that important too....

friend no need many, good friend got 1 is already enough than having 100 virtual friend..

Respect is not expexting or wanting your guests to pay/sponsor your dinner. Are you even listening to yourself? And I don't know where you read in my post that I say the tradition is shitty. It started out as a well-meaning form of gratitude. But overtime, people nowadays tend to expect guests to fund their wedding. Does that even make sense to u?
If you need help marrying someone why don't you share your bride too? How's that sound?

go marry meleis ~ dun need hefty sum of ang pau ~ hueheuheuehue

meh dont want give just dont go la

i mostly oso no go, but those i go minimum RM500

not about money, it is appreciation and i am sure they wont die if they dont get yours

ts butthurt, dont get marry in the future, coz karma will hunt u down, then by that time i bet some1 will be complainin on angpao not enouf la, this n that la.


solution:
1. ppl invite, if u dun wanna pay, dun go. if ppl ask y angpao so thin, slap them, problem fix.
2. dont get marrid, coz u dont need to invite so many ppl and look at their black face like prostitute selection.

sumtime can go eat free oso...got someppl they dunno the person kahwin oso can go in eat free

I understand how you feel man.. If I invite you then I don't expect you to pay anything.. So don't invite if you want me to pay. And I pay according to what I like lah