Hai guys,

Background
I been single my whole life. Had 2 girls I liked in my life (1 during school, and 1 during college) but when I tryed I got rejected cause they both were taken. Had a girl propose to me before took me to a date once and she never called back. That further sank my heart and made me feel lonely. Really wanted a girlfriend during college but my college only 1% population was girls, and class only got 2 girls, 2.5 years passed me being single wanting a girl.

Now after college I'm just at home... I tried Okcupid for 1 year+ but when it comes to meeting in person the girls just cabut. Same shit on Tinder swipe until my hand also pain edy. It's just pointless, nobody is serious. My workplace also just 5 employees all guys.
I just cannot tahan being like this lar anymore. A girl'ess life.
Every-time I ask my friends all they know is booking escorts/prostitutes or going to the GRO clubs and showering money on girls until they get sex.
I tried going to clubs but I realized it's completely useless cause the music is too damn loud to talk anything.
I even bought a car so I can go out at night and meet girls.

Question
I just want to go to a place where I can hit on normal girls. Like how guys in America go to bars and open up girls in bars. Somewhere where single girls looking for mates hang out.
I wanna approach girls, strike a convo, ask them out on dates, and get a sayang. Where can I do this?

I tried approaching girls on bus stops/LRT but they all scared of me and reluctant to talk (yes, I'm this desperate edy). Malaysia too much crime. I live in KL. Pls help me.

This post has been edited by spiderjoy: Sep 6 2015, 01:55 AM

Personality. What do you have?

https://forum.lowyat.net/topic/3684620

This post has been edited by Hamsom: Sep 6 2015, 02:00 AM

Joker personality. Not a quite cool guy. I'm active and funny. And lots lots of pickup lines. Lean abit towards nice guy personality.
9/10 looks + Fit. 0 pimples, even have my own dermatologist. Often get suggested to be gigolo or pornstar. Alot of guys think I'm player type cause this.

Problem is where to pickup girls!!!?

This post has been edited by spiderjoy: Sep 6 2015, 02:03 AM

How old are U?!

22.

Wah, ur situation very similar to mine. U can join me pickup around KL, I just started.

+1

LOL

Still young, no need be sad. Girl tend to be choosy those range of age.

Yes! We are in the exact same boat.

Which bring us back to the same question.... WHERE?!!

Just wanna do it like this bro here:

Fast answer? if you have a car (less than 5 years old)) and have some patience, be a UBER driver (find out how to do it at some Uber threads) and in a very very short time you will be able to meet all kinds of girlgirls from local to foreign ones and you will be farking more than driving.

true story. Uber Malaysia is HERE TO STAY

and make money too!!! while farking

wanna consider to change a job / job field ?

sinceb u are tired with it as well - changing it can increase ur chance

aktualli why not u kasi dia chance?
he`s FOTB

scared lioa

wht is fotb

why are you scared or phobia about?

fresh of the boat

scared kena hurt / leave again .ppl always call me sohai / weirdo magnet

more fresh if younger than me 2 years - 17 years old

what de hell for the bolded part.

dont put too much expectation you met the right one on your dates. It takes time.
just be yourself and love yourself.

hurt is when you overly attached' in life..everyone come and go; learn to get use to it the most hurt is the one you never want to see them depart...


This post has been edited by KVReninem: Sep 6 2015, 05:49 PM

young lil bro

defuk is normal girls...

I guess finding the right one requires time.

When you are desperate, you tend to make rash decisions. Even if you managed to find a girl / women (when you are desperate), she might not be the one that you like.

Always ask yourself this question. What are you looking for? Companionship? Or just a partner for sex etc?

Patience is virtue. You can try networking events or even music events (not trance but indie etc). The first step is always to expand your social circle.

Cheers!

Normals girls meaning NOT Thai/Vietnam GROs in those illegal clubs where u buy "flowers" for girls or the hookers in message centers.

I just wanna go out, and have a dating life. A life where i have stock of women. Like, if I wan date this weekend i have a list of insterested girls to ask. And if a girl rejects the date I got another one to ask out. And I can choose a gf to be exclusive to from all that options if I wan to.

I'm not looking for hookups, random fast sex or that stuff.

SIince you mentioned it, could you suggest an example of such events where hitting on girls is expected?

expend your network through joining any events or clubs. example like those charity events ?

more like having girls as source of entertainment - are u good looking / rich / very charming or else dun dream

Of course, men and women mate/hang out with each other cause love & intimacy feels so nice beutiful.

Just going out eating a big plate of rice, touching each others hand, brushing hair and kissing. Having somebody think bout you. What's is life without that?

Its fun. Btw I'm a honest and extremely loyal guy. Not some womanizer.

I'm extremely anti golddiger so first date sure split the bill. I never bought a womens affection with $$. So my richness doesn't matter, I never show it.

i am also 19

There no such thing first it depends how good looking you are then your personality .

I seldom have chance like you to have reject list usually I make sure the woman appreciate my time so if cancel I can't confirm when I can see her again.

If your skill is good, you can know many girls from forum or even meet stranger.

Easier way you can go pub meet girls but they will feed on your money or orders since you not serious.

you mean hanging out without commitment right ? .now ,you sounds like a pervert that just just take advantage of girls on first date

i went out with various guy in 2 years time and i dun find that is exciting if it doesnt bring any good ending despite how many free gift / food

hi there

A lesson for you mate a loyal person will never tell a person they are. You tell a woman you loyal the woman won't think you are.

Mate split bill just reflect your standard is low. You set a standard then you show woman you have a choice not show your standard is low at first date.

bro, word of advice. always offer to pay for the first meal if you want a girl.

Yea. Very bad impression.

I can pay for first, provided she pays for second to even things. 

Guys get taken advantage of so much nowadays. Some girls save guys numbers as "Free meal" in their phone. Its painful to be used like an ATM machine.

I just dun wan be that guy.

only bodo guy let themselves used as atm - tarak kaitan with food

I pity ts dunno how to kao lui. Go learn la. See the way he reply non playboy material but day dream material

kiamsiap guys cant be helped aka no medicine to make them recover

Well guys, that sums up our conclusion eh?

Normally it's just that they hardwired to think "pump money, pump pussy/ada wang ada awek". So they default shower the girl with lots and lots of cash so they can "win" the girl.

For me it's just insanely supercial and disgusting. But they just brought up lik that... so..

Kiam siap nevermind but wanna be playboy but not handsome enough. Like we will believe he want to ask a girl just normal outing so she pay herself and don't want piap. This guy not even honest.

Even I am not so cheap like TS. I will pay for things we spend together I will pay. Anything materialistic usually no except she show me she deserve it.

Hahaha pity ts really. He think every girl is same he don't even know how to identify them then filter out the bad.

Now day dreaming want to have a list of women to go out but kiam siap hahaha.

This post has been edited by Velocity: Sep 6 2015, 07:53 PM

If u ask her out, but from now on all dates pay for self or she pay. Will she still sayang u the same? Will she come excited?

This post has been edited by spiderjoy: Sep 6 2015, 08:02 PM

can close thread now

he tengah collecting girls to be hamnsaped

exactly like my sohai senior - go out once eidi touch here and thr - - this kind of guy want jump from 14 th floor in front of me - i wont ask him stop - i will ask him proceed

Big boss, you really dunno how to kao lui. There are so many ways you can engage with women.

I can make some bets with her if who lose who treat dinner. Then you must be smart enough to make the odds you will win.

And another thing treat woman not necessary must go 5 star restaurant, you can go to cheaper places as long as the food is nice.

Then you be honest to the woman, tell her you don't have enough money due to certain circumstances. Most woman like man with big bola.

Woman mentality is always opposite what men thinks.



This post has been edited by Velocity: Sep 6 2015, 08:11 PM

Yala such guy can make disgrace to men. Got so many other way like go sports , fun games.

I dunno which bad boy hurt your feelings but stop judging me.

That's better. I can pay for first date just that i dun wan be considered soemone she can use kaw for free meals.

Tai kor you from kampung. You do not know how to reject the date. You can say NO right.

Of course second date she wan me pay again can reject.

But there are lots of girls who memang dun wan commit to you, but since they know 1st date got free stuff they will come. So i filter there itself straight haha

a thoughts shows a behavior of a person

so u can nvr deny the fact unless u tutup the thread right now la

a person who is stingy with his money - will nvr get love - dream on ,boy

U try learn kao dino. You can get her means you are good. Her needs very simple. She want a gentlemen and she want her man to be the man in the relationship and I also can tell she like to manja. Means she is not hard to kao but the biggest obstacle is you need convince her that you are lot and you can be dependant on.

The harder something is actually its easier it is you just need to hit the right note

This post has been edited by Velocity: Sep 6 2015, 08:23 PM

If don't want commit means your skill very lousy. Before date I make her she want me so much when date I sure get if I want but when I said No , she will feel very hard to read my mind and that when she want even more.

She keeps shaming me, saying I'm kiasu for spliting bill. Make me feel just like a useless walking ATM machine.

Then convince her u are not. She can say what she want but how you can influence her thinking that require skill.

Enjoy single life while you can

No point to rush yourself into commitment

but sometimes when your friends around you have bf/gf already,, that time you will feel pressured mostly....

there is a good and bad in being single and in relationship, only time will tell..

More pressure when you have to commit to a girl that you dont really love, but just be with you because she is the only one you manage to pick up

yeah, that sucks too.....

whenever im see most my friends go outing/jalan-jalan with their own couple, i will ask; is that what i really want at THAT time??

i mean, yeah, being in relationship, have gf can make you feel good and all, but imagine if one day something bad happen between the 2 of us, then how will we face the hardships??

so, i rather just take my time slowly and patiently to enjoy this world from a single POV lol,

Exactly

Dont rush

Let nature takes its course

Nope, when you say that I know you are not clear vision of your future.

If you are clear, you don't commit to her but you learn to manage your time and she will suit your time.

You say Sunday you want to meet she will get ready wait for you.

This post has been edited by Velocity: Sep 6 2015, 09:36 PM

Just another so-called-relationship-pro

I am not pro you are the pro that why you are so clear to stay single.

I'll spell it out for you since you seem rather naive, in 1,2,3 steps.

1. Before even asking a girl out, get to know her a little first. That way, you can source out 90% of the gold diggers.
2. In the case when the chick is drop-dead awesomely pretty, consider the first 2 meals as OPEX. Ask her out for a meal, and pay for it.
3. If on the second outing the girl still allow you to pay without saying anything, it is your call to whether to continue asking her out.

Simple as that. And really, how much will you actually lose? RM 50 in all?

But given your current situation, I doubt that you will be able to get many girls, or at least the girls that you want as girlfriend material. I'll be brutally honest here. You need to get rid of your 'stingy' aura. Girls pick these up a mile away. You can be stingy, but don't, for the love of god, ever show it in the first few dates. It's the same as to us, we always have our gold digger radar on.


Edit: You're only 22. When you're older (closer to 30) and still cannot find, come find me and we can go to IndoChina to hunt for nice chicks.

This post has been edited by DoomCognition: Sep 7 2015, 07:39 AM

Nothing is normal actually, what you can accept is what you consider normal where it differs from everyone who thinks its not normal

Those girls above you mention is normal too actually,

But look down/different based on their profession which comes by force or voluntary. But Malaysia mostly is force i guess.

Good watch here ;



again....

defuk is normal girls?

This post has been edited by mothangel: Sep 7 2015, 09:09 AM

Dude, pay for the meal...
Some girls will later treat you back for lunch / dinner / snacks...
Even if you don't get to be in relationship but at least you have a proper image of not being stingy and calculative...
ALWAYS, ALWAYS PAY FOR THE FIRST DATE... You must leave good impression so that ppl will date you for the second time...
Anyways, usually I split bill when I am going out with friends, not potential partner...
This kinda like my way of telling this is an outing not a date...

I also facing same issue.

But i'm shy in person.people mostly think i'm arrogant.
But still, i respect others. Here, i get this trick from my friend. Since you are young, you can try this.

1. Is by wechat People Nearby,
2. Random tweet
3. Facebook random comment, dont just simply PM. comment like you already friend with her, if she reply means you have chance.
4. join your workmates girls hanging out or chilling.
5. use any event -- social,musician, sales,
6. restaurant likely bar.

this is malaysia, you need to find right woman in right time. otherwise it will take you some times, but hey. atleast you know she isn't cheap.

This post has been edited by Koliq18: Sep 7 2015, 04:02 PM

go to church to help out
go to do some charity works, volunteers
tag in your friends outing/party

Just go to the community, face the public.
Be yourself.

didn't ur momma or someone in ur life ever told u this?:
"everyone is special, u dun need to copy someone else's attitude"

if girl A dun find u attractive, that's becoz shes looking for someone that she can click with in other terms which you might not have to offer.

so wad to do? cry? or beg lk a puppy?

NO!

solution: go look for Girl B lor....

if girl B also dun find u attractive, move on find girl C...and so on...

eventually theres bound to be a girl that ngam u and she likes u too!

most importantly dun gv up and keep finding!

Seriously, ANYWHERE also u can find gf nowdays lar...fb also can, online also can, (I found my girl from this forum)...on meetings also can, training classes also can...on plane also can....u get my idea.

You can start by stop being a delusional idiot, and then girls might actually want to go out on a second date with you.

9/10 looks konon lol. Usually the ones who think they have the looks are the ones who actually dont.

Apparently the constant variable in your fuck ups is...*badum tss* YOU. Also if you had the right attitude and personality the girls might have gave you a second chance, which apparently you lack of.

One advice, if you go for a first date, don't be so cheapskate by asking to split the bill, being a gentlemen is hardly being a walking ATM.

Also don't go for girls so you could be happy, its not their bloody responsibility, you need to be happy first and the girls are there to make it better. Loser.

In my experience, picking up girls in KL/Malaysia is a bit hard. We tend to be skeptical of any stranger coming up to us trying to be friendly. Which is why I sort of stopped seeing local girls.

Thankfully I have good Korean and Japanese connections so I manage to hook up with them once in a while. Less pretentious/obnoxious, more friendly and accommodating.

In your case by the sound of it, instead of "picking up" you should probably meet girls from your social circle (2nd/3rd Degree). I'm quite sure your friends can introduce you some.

You actually believed it haha. I don't even have a profile pic hehe.

Yep that part is very very true. I try approaching 2-3 at LRT stations they all look at me like I'm gonna pukau them and rob them. Even approaching on Facebook sometimes they suspect I'm some scam. It's the ... crime problem.

malaysia girl dun date kiamsiap fellow so u can target angmo now

Keep judging guys by their wallet. Patutla kena use and throw by badboys. Pump money, pump pussy.

There is nothing wrong with approaching women on the street. The problem here is your mindset. If you are desperate for woman, she will feel it and will be scared by your approach. Women are everywhere. You can meet them through friends, pubs, actives (try Meetup.com), seminars (company seminars, NLP or investment seminars), social events, networking events, etc. If you do not meet any women that you like through these events, Im sure you will meet some like-minded friends who may introduce their friends to you. If you are not used to meeting new friends, it is time to change unless you want to limit your choices in life. Plus you are only 22. There are so many things to offer in the world.

Not only that, you have to work on your internal mindset. If you are always desperate for women, ask yourself why this is happening to you. When you ask yourself why are you desperate for women, answer like "companionship" may pop up. For example if companionship is the key reason of why you are needy for women, find some activities to compensate the feeling. Being needy for women is not healthy. Women dislike it and can feel it. Lastly, instead of keep thinking where to find women, you should spend more time on improving your own values. (e.g. hitting gym, learn more skills, learn public speaking, travel, etc). Just like Rolls Royce - once you have the values, women will come to you instead of another way round.

Hope this helps.
Thanks,
TeamDF

This post has been edited by TeamDF69: Sep 9 2015, 12:52 AM

I think it would be wiser for you to offer to pay on the first date, you don't need to go to an expensive place, but expecting the girl to split the bill is generally frowned upon regardless of whether she is a golddigger or not.

Think of it this way, you have four possible scenarios:

A. Golddigger girl, you don't pay, she disappears - DESIRABLE
B. Golddigger girl, you pay, she doesn't disappear - UNDESIRABLE
C. Non-Golddigger girl, you don't pay, she disappears - UNDESIRABLE
D. Non-Golddigger girl, you pay, she doesn't disappear - DESIRABLE

Between the two undesirable scenarios of B and C, I'd say B is not as bad as C, as you can still detect whether she is a golddigger or not via other means, doesn't that make sense old fellow?

siapa? why so cham one

.u stupiak guy just shut up - u oni kena use

why ? u dun have money for even a food in kopitiam >?

no money = no date la

i nvr been used by guys because i no bodo like u - u stupid playboy wannabe

because someone wan kiss / touch many girls on date without even wan paying for food even only rm 5

u see la such sohai pervert

dahlah kiamsiap ,then not charming then wanna take advantage of girls

I would say u lack sincerity. Furthermore your desperate. Girls feel that kind of vibe. U must know, when a girl accepts you, it is a big part of her heart is opening up to you. Psychologically you maybe the father of her offsprings. So your attitude is like 99% important.

Since you say you are so leng zhai, try drop that image and look like a regular guy when going out. Girls ultimately look for practical boy next door person unless you are already a superstar. Heck, she may think you are a playboy with your current looks.

ehhh, he wanna take advantage on girls during date mehhhh? lol.
Paying for the first date is safe for your first impression laaaa.

but usually when I go on dates, I'll ask for split bills but if he insists, coffee n dessert is on me later.

Touching a girl's hand on date or light kiss on cheek = take advantage.

Might as well be gay then.

but but but u must also do with the girl's consent ma.
like if her actions shows that she don't want then dont do it. lolol

noted.

many guy is like that touch girls here and thr as if she is his wife

ni macam molestation

they tot girl go out with them = can touch & kiss lioa

i cried for 1 week after seeing this sohai - why he touch me .he think can simply touch my shoulder and kiss me ? .limpeh is not his wife

You noted apa? hahah

you can report police about it you know

I noted that; when if ever we got chance for a date, I will allow either AA or you get me a dessert or coffee then. ayam prefer later

Cool. hahaha

i want a but college staff say no need la - he say he lecture that sohai eidi

Aiyo 22 and want gf.

Please enjoy ur life until at least 25, build up career, do everything a single man can do first, then only get into a relationship la..

Once u have gf, this cannot that cannot, u will miss single life sometimes.

My advice, do everything a single man can do then once u fully satisfied, lived ur life already then only hunt.

maybe wine too

Oh?

I'm very very picky on wine!

no need to understand