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kagamistar
post Jan 25 2016, 06:12 PM

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QUOTE(knight @ Jan 6 2016, 02:14 PM)
I'm talkative and can talk anything. Trying to be friendly but sometimes, I feel like I'm having this problem also.

I start to afraid of what coming out from my mouth and how other thinks. Started to isolate myself out from the group. Maybe it's true no one likes me. I felt down.

Is that social anxiety? How to solve such problems??
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I feel you! People said im a friendly + talkative. Well actually..deep inside i m not that kind i think..
Now, dah jadi adult i choose people that i want to mingle with.. Although they are my 'gang' yet i will keep shut my mouth when it comes to group..i prefer listen. Because im afraud like u metioned too knight. If go out with a person baru banyak cakap..(but tengok jugalah who is he/she).
If whatsapp..yeah i can reply like so friendly..hm..
SUSSadSoul
post Jan 29 2016, 03:33 AM

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QUOTE(Yato @ Jan 25 2016, 04:59 PM)
It's totally normal & alright to be an introvert ... at least you're not experiencing depression ...
For a start, start talking to the group of people you are comfortable with & +1 which maybe you wouldn't talk to ...
Slowly increase the number or ask your fren along that you can click with whenever you meet with new people ...
Then go to group outings ... by the time you reach this stage you would more or less be opened up to most people already ...
Good luck in this aspect !  thumbup.gif
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I'm not depressed but I was bothered to a point where I would watch u tube and books for motivational stuff so I can improve myself.
Turns out they're not useful.
But I realize that the longer I spend with someone,the more comfortable I become.
But to certain people,I cannot communicate at all despite the efforts I put in.
*shrugs*
I guess this is me.
Gotta accept the awkward me.

This post has been edited by SadSoul: Jan 29 2016, 03:34 AM
LuisLou
post Jan 29 2016, 04:15 PM

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QUOTE(SadSoul @ Jan 29 2016, 03:33 AM)
I'm not depressed but I was bothered to a point where I would watch u tube and books for motivational stuff so I can improve myself.
Turns out they're not useful.
But I realize that the longer I spend with someone,the more comfortable I become.
But to certain people,I cannot communicate at all despite the efforts I put in.
*shrugs*
I guess this is me.
Gotta accept the awkward me.
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Well, just be yourself ... you can't please everyone ... you live for yourself not for others so don't be bothered on how everyone looks at you..
just be bothered about those that genuinely care about you that will suffice. icon_rolleyes.gif
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post Jan 30 2016, 12:39 PM

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Give yourself a permission to lose.
I would say its your EGO that forms this social anxiety!
I have practiced go out talking to strangers.
First is always the worst. Your vibe isn't there yet. When I talked to 5th or 6th stranger. My friendly good vibe forming.

Its about pushing yourself out there.
NO EXCUSE

If you still not feeling good, try grooming and fashion
Listen to good music that pumps u up
SUSSadSoul
post Jan 30 2016, 02:39 PM

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QUOTE(LuisLou @ Jan 29 2016, 04:15 PM)
Well, just be yourself ... you can't please everyone ... you live for yourself not for others so don't be bothered on how everyone looks at you..
just be bothered about those that genuinely care about you that will suffice.  icon_rolleyes.gif
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yea I have this problem of overthinking what people think of me.
But I will try to be inconsiderate and dont care what people think.
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socratesman
post Jan 30 2016, 04:23 PM

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QUOTE(SadSoul @ Jan 29 2016, 03:33 AM)
But to certain people,I cannot communicate at all despite the efforts I put in.
*shrugs*
I guess this is me.
Gotta accept the awkward me.
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I know that feeling bro...it's like from day one they feel repelled against us. Well you can't please everyone
Yato
post Feb 1 2016, 12:59 PM

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QUOTE(SadSoul @ Jan 29 2016, 03:33 AM)
I'm not depressed but I was bothered to a point where I would watch u tube and books for motivational stuff so I can improve myself.
Turns out they're not useful.
But I realize that the longer I spend with someone,the more comfortable I become.
But to certain people,I cannot communicate at all despite the efforts I put in.
*shrugs*
I guess this is me.
Gotta accept the awkward me.
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i'm not saying you are depressed lol.. u are just introvert it's fine ..
Just talk when necessary can already .. of course u can't communicate to all people silly, even extroverts can't ohmy.gif
LuisLou
post Feb 2 2016, 12:53 PM

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QUOTE(SadSoul @ Jan 30 2016, 02:39 PM)
yea I have this problem of overthinking what people think of me.
But I will try to be inconsiderate and dont care what people think.
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Don't worry too much, all the best to u !
Some people are just not worth your time so yeah ..
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post Oct 15 2018, 09:21 PM

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Find something that you and they are interested at. Try to open up or join the topic of conversation, then move on. Time passed, you guys will become friends.

Kennchew
post Jul 19 2019, 12:10 AM

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Dont worry bro i have it too. Sometimes i just run out of things to say or dont know what to say with someone in a conversation.
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post Jun 22 2020, 04:33 PM

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Got any of support group for anxiety?
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post Sep 7 2020, 06:26 PM

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May be you feel bad about your appearance and how people think about yourself. The best way to cope with this condition is to keep your mind focused on something positive while you go into the crowd. It will help you to keep your attention away from the thought that how people judge you and think about you. In short your social anxiety will drastically reduced.
sooyichen
post Nov 16 2020, 03:50 PM

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There's nothing wrong with being anxious in a social setting you're unfamiliar and uncomfortable with!
Endeavour
post Nov 26 2020, 12:34 PM

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I think don't label it as social anxiety - that's a solid first step. after that, maybe you can try just getting yourself to speak an additional sentence more than the previous outing. and also don't think about what others may be thinking. hope this helps
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post Nov 27 2020, 12:49 PM

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QUOTE(SadSoul @ Aug 21 2015, 09:52 PM)
Hi guys,

I think I have a mild condition of social anxiety.

I dislike being around strangers and people I can't click with.

I feel exhausted easily from social events. It feels like work for me to communicate with people.

I'm quite selective in talking with people.Some people I feel ok while some I don't

I tend to be overly self- conscious . Afraid of what Im saying will hurt that person or might not be up to their expectation.

I would say I behave differently around diff people.

AM I normal?
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I am the same. Sometimes we just prefer to be in our own safe space and not have to deal with other people who make you feel mentally worn out and exhausted.

 

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