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SUSSadSoul
post Aug 21 2015, 09:52 PM, updated 10y ago

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Hi guys,

I think I have a mild condition of social anxiety.

I dislike being around strangers and people I can't click with.

I feel exhausted easily from social events. It feels like work for me to communicate with people.

I'm quite selective in talking with people.Some people I feel ok while some I don't

I tend to be overly self- conscious . Afraid of what Im saying will hurt that person or might not be up to their expectation.

I would say I behave differently around diff people.

AM I normal?
SUSSadSoul
post Aug 23 2015, 12:56 PM

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QUOTE(Killerjeff88 @ Aug 23 2015, 11:03 AM)
Totally understand ur feeling being introverts.
I had it last time.
Then my courage builds up as I speak to more people.
Takes time but dont shy away from trying to know more of ppl when meeting new faces.
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I've been having this problem since small.
I talk to alot of people.
But I still have this problem.
SUSSadSoul
post Jan 8 2016, 01:36 AM

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QUOTE(knight @ Jan 6 2016, 02:14 PM)
I'm talkative and can talk anything. Trying to be friendly but sometimes, I feel like I'm having this problem also.

I start to afraid of what coming out from my mouth and how other thinks. Started to isolate myself out from the group. Maybe it's true no one likes me. I felt down.

Is that social anxiety? How to solve such problems??
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I have group of friends in elementary school.
After graduation, I left that group.
Same goes to high school.
Now I'm left with very few friends.
Isolating yourself from the group gonna hurt you in the future.
I know cause I lost a few really close friends because of my problem.
SUSSadSoul
post Jan 10 2016, 12:56 AM

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QUOTE(knight @ Jan 8 2016, 11:03 AM)
I seriously don't have much friend due to my own changes. My old friends(previous friends) are different from me as I changed alot in many things.

Even my hometown friends I also seldom contact them due to I very seldom go back. One year once? Topic start to differ, I start to Dont know what they are talking about. Lost of topics. Then lost of this group friends. For so many years oledi. Now also no contact oledi.
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People change and they come and go.
I guess we'll just have to find new ones.
But I still miss my old friends.
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post Jan 10 2016, 12:58 AM

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QUOTE(mists29 @ Aug 23 2015, 02:22 PM)
don't worry there are so many ppl out there like you.

I'm glad i overcame it, socialize with people can be very fun, if you're talking with the right person.

my advice is, practice to start a conversation(i'd prefer to ask smtg abt him/her), don't wait. don't be shy, if you're afraid of eye contact, stare at the area between eyebrows (I know it's weird). then more and more attempts and practices.

most importantly, stop thinking that u have this anxiety. enjoy smile.gif
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That's one of my problem!
I now look at their mouth or nose.
When I'm nervous, it's easy for other people to notice.
And because I'm nervous, they get uncomfortable.
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post Jan 29 2016, 03:33 AM

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QUOTE(Yato @ Jan 25 2016, 04:59 PM)
It's totally normal & alright to be an introvert ... at least you're not experiencing depression ...
For a start, start talking to the group of people you are comfortable with & +1 which maybe you wouldn't talk to ...
Slowly increase the number or ask your fren along that you can click with whenever you meet with new people ...
Then go to group outings ... by the time you reach this stage you would more or less be opened up to most people already ...
Good luck in this aspect !  thumbup.gif
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I'm not depressed but I was bothered to a point where I would watch u tube and books for motivational stuff so I can improve myself.
Turns out they're not useful.
But I realize that the longer I spend with someone,the more comfortable I become.
But to certain people,I cannot communicate at all despite the efforts I put in.
*shrugs*
I guess this is me.
Gotta accept the awkward me.

This post has been edited by SadSoul: Jan 29 2016, 03:34 AM
SUSSadSoul
post Jan 30 2016, 02:39 PM

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QUOTE(LuisLou @ Jan 29 2016, 04:15 PM)
Well, just be yourself ... you can't please everyone ... you live for yourself not for others so don't be bothered on how everyone looks at you..
just be bothered about those that genuinely care about you that will suffice.  icon_rolleyes.gif
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yea I have this problem of overthinking what people think of me.
But I will try to be inconsiderate and dont care what people think.
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