i have been having heavy stress due to the acnes and acnes scars on my cheek! i always feel that i am the ugliest guy in the world. Acnes, scars and my chubby cheeks just undermine my confidence and social skills. When talking to people, i will rarely look at them while talking.

i just hate looking at the mirror, every time i look at the mirror, i just feel like dying. There are times, when i was crossing the road, i wish it would be good if a car can hit me and i die so i don't have to suffer anymore, as you all know, acnes, scars and the chubby cheek (due to genetic problem) are unable to get rid.

BUT NOW, i am graduated, i will have to step in the society, start working, start facing all the people around. i feel stress. i always ask myself a question. "why i am the unlucky one, why i have to bear all these pains?"

is this a sign of depression? sad.gif

nah, just low esteem
go get dermatologist advise lahh

Everyone has a certain beauty deep down inside. And everyone has a potential for greatness. It's just a skin problem, but yes, that can seriously put a dampener on self esteem. Just get it checked.

HEY! I have acne problem too!! My face is kinda ugly because of it...Ofc im upset...its due to hormone imbalance....they will prescribe antibiotic to eat everyday.... U should go see too or u can pm me anything about it....

stress may contribute to acne growth. be happy, make urself busy, improve urself from time to time, find suitable facial products, go out with ur friends.

always remember, you are not the only one. and there are other people worse off than you. syukur malaysia aman.

This post has been edited by edriem: May 31 2015, 12:02 AM

i dont know how to make you feel better, but i telling you this, nth will change unless you do something difference (something beneficial but something you might not enjoy ) to yourself

This post has been edited by steadystream: May 31 2015, 12:13 AM

Hm i also have low self esteem due to my scars bcos of acne...
U should try thursday plantation set
Buy at caring pharmacy

In my opinion, you should work on your stress, anxiety and confident issues.
Why not go to see a mental health care practitioner (Clinical Hypnotherapist, Clinical psychologist or counselor etc.) in Malaysia?
However, one type of psychological disorders which called body dysmorphic disorder may get worse over time and lead to suicidal thoughts and behavior.



Signs and symptoms of body dysmorphic disorder include:

-Preoccupation with your physical appearance with extreme self-consciousness
-Frequent examination of yourself in the mirror, or the opposite, avoidance of mirrors altogether
-Strong belief that you have an abnormality or defect in your appearance that makes you ugly
-Belief that others take special notice of your appearance in a negative way
-Avoidance of social situations
-Feeling the need to stay housebound
-The need to seek reassurance about your appearance from others
-Frequent cosmetic procedures with little satisfaction
-Excessive grooming, such as hair plucking or skin picking, or excessive exercise in an unsuccessful effort to improve the flaw
-The need to grow a beard or wear excessive makeup or clothing to camouflage perceived flaws
-Comparison of your appearance with that of others
-Reluctance to appear in pictures

You may be so convinced about your perceived flaws that you imagine something negative about your body that's not true, no matter how much someone tries to convince you otherwise. Concern over and thinking about the perceived flaw can dominate your life, leading to absence from work, school or social situations due to extreme self-consciousness.

You can read more info about body dysmorphic disorder here:
http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditi...ms/con-20029953


*This statement is not intended to diagnose your case. Kindly contact a mental health care professional as soon as possible.

This post has been edited by zeropoint9: May 31 2015, 01:34 AM

May i know the condition of your acnes and scars? Is it severe, mild or just gentle? Because i am afraid that after using it, it will worsen my face and waste of money

As u know, one set is not cheap and i have tried a lot of products but still does not work. I currently using Cetaphil (purple in color) cleanser and DUAC cream (which is highly recommended by my dermatologist but the side effect is that it will burn ur skin)

oh i mean the product is for acne.mine mild..
i just start using it last year..so far my acne not as worse as before.this is quite suitable for me..one set is around rm60.

for scars i think the best solution is laser treatment..

got acne not end of the world....i got 1 friend from tingkatan 1 aready full of it till now still living no problem happy somemore...its just how u see it man....not big deal....

accutane, thermogenics and will power.

Aiya, go c dermatologist la.. It can easily reduce the blemishes and also laser skin treatment oso very promising nia... Got serbuk serbuk to mask ur acnes to make it less obvious. There are alot of jln jln u x explore leh.

If you're gonna keep having these thoughts about yourself, you won't be successful and happy in life.
What you need to do is to change the way you see yourself. Take it one step at a time.

i FEEL that too but i just can't control my emotions. sigh. Can't clear out that pessimistic mentality. I CARE way too much of what other people think of me. I am fearful that people will prejudice on the way i look, don't want to befriend me because i have a WEIRD appearance.

if you're worried about depression, you should at least know that it is mainly caused by lack of motivation in many aspect of your life.

The most important thing you need to be is do the best you can for everything that you do, seek more knowledge. I don't know about your extra curricular life, as you didn't mention but i'm just gonna assume that you don't have any just in case, do join marathons/sports, pick up a hobby, bit by bit take it to a level you've never been before. Bit by bit you will feel better about yourself, understand yourself more as you accomplish more for yourself. From what you've wrote, you're too busy worrying about what others see of you. If you have already invested so much more value in yourself, people would see you more than just the acne/scars on your face and when you feel you have more to offer to the people around you, you would no longer feel shy of looking at people in the face as you have more to radiate to them than just acne problems. Some day you could be someone's mentor, teaching them to give value to their life.

Having zits/acne is a part of life, our bodies is a reflection of our lifestyle e.g the way we handle our sleep/food/stress/hygiene and I can assure you, you are not alone.


You're still young and you've just started to "walk" into society. It will be hard, and it's meant to be hard. Give yourself time to learn and know yourself better, in no time you can run full speed ahead in your life.

Do check out Elliot Hulse / Brandon Carter / Tai Lopez in Youtube. They have great videos for people like you.

Even if a person commit suicide, do you think the company give a damn? They will just think it is that person problem. They just hire new one and nothing change. If workers cannot complete job, just continue the next working day. Now who get stressed

sleep at correct time and enough time. drink lots of water. dont miss your meal. try use less damaging soap on your acnes, can try pintersol. try for 3 weeks. if no effect go dematologist. and oh yes, stop fapping for 3 weeks. get a galfren better. but not compulsary.

first step:

"take few steps back from the mirror"

Whats the point of ur being down and suicidal... do u want pity or something
DUDE WAKE UP!!
Start moving forward and dont give a damn about other
If ur fat then just go to gym, if ur ugly no problem coz like some of k/ stated ada wang ada amoi
Not happy with ur job then quit and join a new one.
Think positive and never give up .....

stressing about acne is one thing that can lead to more acne.

go see a skin specialist. rather than just sulking and doing nothing about it. they have treatment for acne. they will give u medicine, recommend a proper facial cleanser, the dos and donts, etc.

work hard, be successful. women nowadays dont look at ur face. u see jay-z handsome or not? u see sacha baron cohen handsome or not? but all got pretty wife.

Thank you so much for the encouragement. It means ALOT to me. and yes, i dont have any extra curricular activities, even in my resume i dont know what to say about my curricular activities. i recently went to an job interview and i failed to impress the boss ( maybe due to my poor english speaking ).

i totally lost my way, i always afraid to speak in english and finding it hard to express what i wanted to say in WORDS. Do u have any advises in improving my communication skills as well as my english?

Start speaking to anyone in the public with English. Be it at the supermarket or restaurant. You can even do it at home with your family. Get yourself familiar with the language and it will eventually build up your confidence.

If you're too worried about English, no prob. Listen to good rap music. Try to rap to it and go find out the meaning in the rap. Try out Fort Minor, clean rap and it's semi motivational rap. It may make you look stupid or slow, but hey, do it in your own room or car. No doubt, you train with yourself.

Even if u go for job interview, you have to show the employer what you can offer to the company, English is just secondary. An interviewee may speak good english but if he is unable to add value to the company's goal/interest they will still reject him. And, keep trying to go for interview. One company reject you? No problem. Go back and reflect what is lacking and what you could've done better to secure the job. And then try to improve on the next interview. Eventually you will find out what's the value you can offer.

At the end of the day, don't allow yourself to give excuses of something not turning out right and don't blame. Don't blame anyone or circumstances. Make yourself a level above these, you will see yourself improve a whole lot faster and happier.

See a dermatologist, get accutane/isotetrin. It will make you 100% acne clear for life in 1 year +. After that do 2~3 rounds of laser to quickly heal the scarring. If you're fat start working out also. The acne treatment will take around RM 4000 only.

In just 2.5 years and RM 4000 you can do all this and even be a model. Patients, 1 step forward at a time, no need to commit suicide.

I've suffered from serious acne myself, all over chest back and worst on face. Was suicidal for 6 Months, then spent the money, treated the shit hardcore, and now 100% clear. In 1.5 years time gonna do laser and look perfect like a Hollywood superstar.

I have taken accutane treatment for 6 months. It is now considered under control but there are times acnes break out. Also, i heard my friend said that there are some side effects for doing laser. My friend has done his laser treatment for 3-4 times, and now everytime when he goes out, he can't exposed to to sunlight. It hurts his face real bad. (ie. redness on the face especially the cheek part due to the thinner layer of the skin after laser)

I also got a big pimple on my face 2 days ago, it's normal. Once you finish your accutane course you will be 99% free for life. So finish it.

I don't believe laser treatment such as fractional CO2 laser cause permanent sensitivity to sun. It does cause abit sunburn for 3 days and normally takes 1 week before you expose your face normally to sun. After that it's fine. Please research on Google for atleast 6~10 hours and have a long talk with your doctor about laser choices and it's permanent side effects.

This post has been edited by Armesh: Jun 10 2015, 01:37 AM

http://www.realself.com/question/laser-res...ong-term-damage


This post has been edited by Armesh: Jun 10 2015, 01:36 AM

have you tried joining an evening after work QIGONG class?

try it. Where are you at. I could recommend

helped my health and depression total recover

true story

This post has been edited by ricstc: Jun 10 2015, 01:45 AM

TS, you're not the only one to have to go thru the bad acne and acne scars. I feel the same as well. Have been spending shit loads of money to try to get rid of it but it doesn't seem to go away completely. I'm just glad my acne isn't as bad as it was.

Did the antibiotic work for you?

It worked...cleared most of it, but it seems like if I stop it comes back

How long did it take for it to work on you? I tried a month but no effect. Went on hormone pills for a while cause it was due to hormone unbalance then. Gotten much better but still not completely cleared. Thinking if I should go for roaccutane now, but then that means I have to avoid sun, which I can't. Sigh.

Maybe two to three months(forgot to mention I also do chemical acid peel treatment once a month too), can see that it really cleared...now I still have some on my chin that keeps coming back...guess it's hormones then....

Ah, was thinking of going for those acid peel treatment also. Is it suitable for acne-prone skin? A lot of places told me only can do if got no acne to remove the scars only.

How must are those treatment and where do you do it?

I start it along with the antibiotics, my face started to get better after months of doing both of that. And then I stopped the Peel thing since my face was COMPLETELY clear(just acne scars left)...few months later I decided to go for peeling session again, but right after that peel the acne on my chin suddenly breakout making it worse I guess it is the peel that purges all the "dirty things" out...so breakout happens....Then now I don't dare to go peel already...I stick to pills...the acne on chin is still there...

edit:I went to my derma for acne problem, she does all the peeling etc It cost like Rm80 first treatment, then Rm70 next, then Rm60, Rm50..Rm50..Rm50

This post has been edited by Cherryx: Jun 11 2015, 03:30 PM

hey Cherry, did you apply any acne cream at night? if you do, what's the name of it? cheers

It's all because of your thinking. You have make a self image about your self even no one have said those things to you. You are what you think so thing positive.

Ask your dermatologist about PDT (photodynamic therapy)
and IPL (intense pulsed light) treatments.



PDT is usually used together with 5-amino levulinic acid (5-ALA)
or methyl levulinate (MAL), a photosensitizer.


http://www.ellipse.com/en/Acne-vulgaris.1823.aspx

https://ellipselasers.wordpress.com/tag/5-ala/

Effectiveness of photodynamic therapy with topical
5-aminolevulinic acid and intense pulsed light in
Chinese acne vulgaris patients.


http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/23458393/



Liposome-encapsulated 0.5% 5-aminolevulinic acid with
intense pulsed light for the treatment of inflammatory
facial acne: a pilot study.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/21414073



Treatment of inflammatory facial acne vulgaris with intense pulsed
light and short contact of topical 5-aminolevulinic acid: a pilot study.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/16918560/


Note that Asian skin tend to be more sensitive to PDT, so IPL by itself
is also a good treatment option, though slightly less effective.

'' A proportion of patients could not tolerate the discomfort
that was related to PDT despite the short MAL incubation. ''

A comparative study of intense pulsed light alone and its combination
with photodynamic therapy for the treatment of facial acne in Asian skin.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/17252567/



The use of a novel intense pulsed light and heat source and ALA-PDT
in the treatment of moderate to severe inflammatory acne vulgaris.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/15624737


Treatment of facial acne papules and pustules in Korean patients using
an intense pulsed light device equipped with a 530- to 750-nm filter.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/17550443



Effect of smooth pulsed light at 400 to 700 and
870 to 1,200 nm for acne vulgaris in Asian skin.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/19912276/



Intense pulsed light vs. pulsed-dye laser in the treatment
of facial acne: a randomized split-face trial.

'' Both PDL and IPL were found to treat acne effectively,
but PDL showed a more sustained effect.''

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/20002654



This newer generation Korean IPL machine with square pulse technology
is more effective and safer. Ask the dermatologist or treatment center
if they have it.

http://www.international.lutronic.com/solari



Inflammatory Acne in the Asian Skin Type III Treated with a Square Pulse,
Time Resolved Spectral Distribution IPL System: A Preliminary Study.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3944487/



Ting Skin Specialist in Imbi Road has an IPL machine, and he
is also quite experienced. His charges are not very high.




This post has been edited by Tham: Jul 7 2015, 07:32 AM