QUOTE(myteam94 @ Apr 22 2019, 09:04 AM)
Salam
nak tanya pendapat
i'm currently having some issue with my family
me and gf are currently about to embrace the next of our relationship, in this year, we are planning to proceed with the engagement but during this course of time, i somewhat see some of the true color of my own family
they somewhat look down on my girlfriend plus her family
whenever they talk about her, you can felt something is not right
imagine this, she planning to go to study oversea but my family always ask me, can her parent support ke? why tak continue here in malaysia and etc... i kinda terasa when they said like that
i've notice something, whenever i hangout at my gf family, they are always humble, live in modesty, sometime even duit x cukup they can still find some happiness within it
but when it come to family, money always matter. whatever you do, you must emphasize on the money management. My gf really give an eye-opening statement
Quote
"Buat apa ada duit kalau tak bahagia" seriously this is what i felt
when i'm with her family, they always laughter and enjoyment
when it come to my family, it always serious and felt tension.....
can anyone guide me to a proper path or is there a way to find some sort of ketenangan.
My only soothing Quran surah would always be the Yassin.
i've been feeling down for awhile
I know Allah S.W.T might be testing me at this moment.

I wasn't there when you family said those things, so I'll take your word for it. Just know that the way you wrote it, it didn't really sound like "looking down" on them... concerned maybe, but in a good way.
You cannot choose how people live their live. Nor are you responsible for it. So you cannot expect your family to change. As long as you are doing good things (not going against syariat) just carry on. Rely on the Quran and the Sunnah always. If you feel a clash, again, revert to the Quran and Sunnah (An Nisaa 59). In the very end, what matters is whether you enter heaven, or hell... not how many house you have, or what car you drive.
So her quote is very true in that respect. the word "kebahagiaan" refering to "bahagia" in the afterlife (i.e. in heaven, the only place where you can be "bahagia") can be found in Hud 10 and al Qoshosh 77 (this is my own search in the translation, not the actual words of wisdom from ulama...)
Also, to have some sort of envy is human nature. We are not angels, so we have negative emotions. The important thing is how we control the negativity. Don't act on it. If it's there, deny it or reject it, divert your attention on other things - things that are actually useful for you. If people talk this way and that, which offend or raise the envy in you, just smile and shrug it off. Just think of it as "nice to have" but not "must have" - you won't die without it and it sure isn't going to be asked in the afterlife.
Btw, am curious... why is the Yassin the only soothing surah for you? for me it has always been Ar Rahman... especially the first few ayat...