Assalamualaikum my brother

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Wassalam

In my view, never a good thing if a girl studies overseas. Far from family and friends. Not being chauvinistic, just my observations when I studied overseas and there are scholars who has given their opinions on this. You may want to check out YouTube

Allah knows best

I wasn't there when you family said those things, so I'll take your word for it. Just know that the way you wrote it, it didn't really sound like "looking down" on them... concerned maybe, but in a good way.

You cannot choose how people live their live. Nor are you responsible for it. So you cannot expect your family to change. As long as you are doing good things (not going against syariat) just carry on. Rely on the Quran and the Sunnah always. If you feel a clash, again, revert to the Quran and Sunnah (An Nisaa 59). In the very end, what matters is whether you enter heaven, or hell... not how many house you have, or what car you drive.

So her quote is very true in that respect. the word "kebahagiaan" refering to "bahagia" in the afterlife (i.e. in heaven, the only place where you can be "bahagia") can be found in Hud 10 and al Qoshosh 77 (this is my own search in the translation, not the actual words of wisdom from ulama...)

Also, to have some sort of envy is human nature. We are not angels, so we have negative emotions. The important thing is how we control the negativity. Don't act on it. If it's there, deny it or reject it, divert your attention on other things - things that are actually useful for you. If people talk this way and that, which offend or raise the envy in you, just smile and shrug it off. Just think of it as "nice to have" but not "must have" - you won't die without it and it sure isn't going to be asked in the afterlife.

Btw, am curious... why is the Yassin the only soothing surah for you? for me it has always been Ar Rahman... especially the first few ayat...