What if ur in law dont agree?

i meant you included the house as part of the marriage

should have done all that before the wedding... my case, i include car also can?

not bad... not bad... by the way, wedding photos is studio package?

Personal experience is:

RM36K for wedding dinner @ RM1200 per table at 4* hotel in KL
RM5K for lunch buffet for the morning reception
RM4K for pre-wedding pics
RM2K for actual day photographers
RM2K for actual day makeup artist
RM10K for honeymoon in Japan, Free & Easy
RM90K for house downpayment & legal fees & Stamp duty
RM60K for house furnishing and Reno.

Upfront need almost RM200K just to settle down....

Angpow cannot cover wedding dinner cost as average guest give only RM100... Some even RM100 but 2 people come.   

Need to save many many years with partner to get that amount....

when was this ?
u cainis or not? no need gip duit perkahwinan ? 
mana cincin ?
mana dai kam jeh? yima kuteh pre-wedding dinner?
car deco ada?

kenot la. now I budget budget exclude house stuff also about 80k liao 

This was end of last year.

Wife parents didn't ask for dowry, very fortunate eh... else sure kena ketuk.

cincin just use the normal white gold band, less that RM2K for a pair.

No need dai kam jeh coz this is a Christian wedding.

car pinjam orang punya.... luckily no need to rent. for the deco, it is covered by the bridal studio.

Why your kahwin only RM80K? U need to give how much for the dowry?

i see ppl use over 50k+ for a wedding buffet, wedding dinner, find good date for wedding, many many things

i think that those so extra and waste $$$ even though u get the angpao money back

wai not just register as husband wife or maybe take a few family photos? isnt it more cheaper and simple
wai la so ma fan do all this, unless that person really really rich la. I see those financial problems owe ppl money still want do all this.

PS Me kiddo here so not understand

So your wife is the type of woman who will blame you for any regrets she may have and use those regrets against you, huh? You must have a very happy marriage.

It's a husband's job to let the wife be happy. If it is something within my means, I will do it. She does the same for me as well. $50k, $100k wedding, so be it.

So you're saying without a husband, the wife has no capacity of being happy?

I don't think you understood me but anyway, if i can give her a dream wedding by spending a bit of money, why not? It's for someone I love so it is worth it to me.

I'm saying it's not your job to make her happy.

To me, as a husband. I try my best.

Same goes for both husband and wife.