haha...
of coz....
my parents know i love them oso.
i know they love me oso.
But it never stops us from telling each other we love them.

My gf knows i love her oso.

Telling u Love them doesnt hurt anyone...just make somebody's world brighter.

Anyway....wasnt it YOUR idea to tell my parens i llove them? lol

try and create a new way to talk to her...
dont be emotional.
when emotions defeat logic, u are on the losing end.
when u talk...both of u must be calm.

Tell her...."As u already know, lately all we do is fight. I still want this relationship to work. If u wanna try also, lets put our emotional cap down....and talk rationally.
Lets find the source of this problem."

Tolerate each other. Give and take. Admit it when u r wrong.
Do what u have to do. Listen to each other.

Thats why i call it a "talk" not an "argument". U have to tell her before the talk, to relax, dont be emotional. Control urselves.
like i said, both sides must be calm. Tell her.
I dont want this talk to end up with a fight.
Lets try to be cool, and express what we feel logically, rationally, not emotionally.

The thing is, to me, most of the probs can be settled by talking to each other. Hearing out what the other has to say. Compromise. Tolerate.

The problem here is, at least what i think here is..U guys cant have a decent talk.
Make her understand how important it is to keep cool and rational to try to solve the probs u guys are having.

I think, the way u guys have a talk is wrong. Sorry, but from what i read, i think u are a bit childish. Or maybe just too impatient? Problems cant be settled just with a blink of an eye. We have to work for it. It takes time and patience. Be cool. A man shud be cool. Matured. if both sides are emotional, then u wont achieve anything.

Control urselves during the talk. Dont blame it all on her. Think of ur GOAL. To be happy together. Keep that in mind.
Think back now...what goes wrong everytime u guys discuss?
Try to avoid doing it again.

And lastly, if all things fail...i suggest u use a mediator. Someone u both can rely on, to be the middle-man.

Good Luck

The problem with most couples is, they think they own their partner.
They want their partner this and that and other sorts of thing.

Yeah, in romantic novels they say 2 hearts become one, 2 become 1 etc etc.

But then again, basically they are 2 different persons. Each has their won wishes and desires....

Sometimes people try to change other people. Especially when the other party is our partner.

thats why u have to be cool. If ur not...then when both are emotional....its gonna be rough.

Keep a cool head..and u can control the situation. Remind her to be cool.
Remind her that u guys are trying to resolve sometihng here, and need a clear head.

And like miyoko said...letters or emails are a nice way too.
U can tell a lot....things u dont feel like telling in front of each other, and the other cant cut what ur saying.
It gives a chance to tell everything, and the other listens or reads to everything.

good luck.

Im still having runny noses...
Saw u online late at nite or early morning yesterday....

i wasnt well enuff to chat though....

how are u?

maybe will agree?
meaning...
maybe will slap u oso!

no la...im joking...
u know her better...u can tell..

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i wonder...does a man's tears can soften a girl's heart like a girl's tears can do to a man?

i know the power of women's tears...
can tear me apart.

wat about the power of men's tears? anyone?

so...does this means that it is OK for a guy to cry when they are hurt, especially in relationships related problems?

haha....actually i cried before...but too embarassed to admit liao.
now that many say its ok...haha....i admit it. lol

yeah...very true....
being urself with ut loved ones is very important.
u want them to love u for who u are.
and u shud oso love them and accept them for who they are.

trying to completely change urself or be someone else for that special somebody is not good coz in the long run, it wont lasts.
trying to change that special someone is oso not good

Anyway, this is how i say it to my gf....
No matter who she was...
Who she is...
Who she is not...
Who she is going to be...
I will love her for being herself.

well...like i was told from these guys here.....
and as many of us already know...
LDR makes the relationship a bit limited.....

But like the research done by those experts, (i read at at Yahoo) the percentage of LDR and the usual relationships working out are the same. no more, no less.

its gonna be hard...but if ur up to it. why not?
Anyway, ur both in Msia rite? still ok...
Good Luck!

good for u....
me? it is 7 hours away by plane and rm2500 per trip. lol.

mine is very limited by the distance.

alo there everybody...
just wanna say that my girl tell me not to call her till after my birthday....
(this is just something we do, especially before important events lime bdays, anniversaries...and they day i arrive in Msia etc...to build-up the "rindu" part)

and she asked me what i want for my birthday?and oso she asked about my wishes for my birthday!

i told her she already sent the box of love already...she said thats different....

wahhhh...
i cant wait till my bday....So excited....i bet she's gonna call me at 12 am...
Dont wanna get my hopes too high though....afraid ill be disappointed...

My wish? to celebrate my bday with my family, and her especially!!

God i miss her everything....

how far are them away from each other? how LDR was it?

anyway, sorry to say this...but thru my experience....
ive been living overseas for years now...
ive seen LDR not working out most of the time (not all the time) becoz of the girl.

My personal opinion is many gurls cant take feeling lonely....being far away from their bf.
Guys on the other hand...can handle the loneliness better....

Was afraid to involve myself in LDR oso....
But what can stop the feeling of Love rite?

Yeah....
Sorry if any gurls here have different opinions about our statements here...

U oso LDR for 6 months?
how far? and what happened?

well....they say..."absence makes the heart grow fonder"

i bet u have different types of problems with SDR rite....

hehe...spending too much time with someone with no strong ties (like marriage) is hard....

true...both gender cheats....

but what i meant was....in LDR...harder for the girl....

and one more thing....
when a guy cheats, it is quite common....but when a girl cheats...thats serious...lol

so....what helps then?
sense of security on the relationship?

or just companionship? if companionship, the best a LDR partner can do is....online and phone rite?

how to make the more emotionally attached girl not to be emotionally disturbed and end-up looking for other guy?

hi trafox...
Good Luck to you to....

I still envy u though....at least u can see her once a week.
Whats ur plan for the future?
till when will be LDR?